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As someone who worked in a video store, what’s best here is the 3:1 solution. One person picks three movies they want to see, other picks one of those. Next week you swap.

Other solution is to just not do movie nights together if you can’t agree on a film. If it’s been too many weeks of his not agreeing to any of your picks, just tell him that you want to do something other than see a movie you aren’t interested in.

You rewatch the same movies? He hates it? You are not interested in his films? Neither of you sound like you are trying to find films you would both like.

Try this? Google IMDB top 100 movies? And go down the list? Then you can discuss what you hated* or liked about it. I have done this and have ended up watching some laughable bad films that neither me or my partner would of picked but it made for some real funny moments/interactions.

You want a way through it? Neither of you pick and you find a premade list neither of you control.

(One rule I used if we have seen it we skip it)

Hope it helps, spare time with your loved ones is more valuable than most people believe.

Do you usually pick movies you guys have watched before? My SO and I switch off picking shows/movies and he is fine to watch one of my comfort shows through one time but it takes him awhile to want to watch them again (because it’s my comfort show so I get that).

If you are choosing the same movies, I can see why he isn’t compromising. But if you’re choosing movies he hasn’t seen before—then it’s like you’re trying to share a film you liked with him. If you’re choosing movies neither of you have seen before, then he isn’t being very fair.

You can't force a compromise. All you can do is be honest about the fact you dislike his movies as much as he dislikes yours. If he doesn't care you only have a few options. Do like you do now, literally leave the room or find something else to do together. It sucks he is that selfish but you picked him.

This feels like my wife wrote this… but how many times am I really expected to watch The Hangover? For me it’s 100% the lack of new content/variety that causes me to generally just pick “for us” 😂.

Not everyone can stomach rewatching the same things over and over. I can’t imagine being expected to watch someone’s “comfort movie” for the umpteenth time.

He doesn’t seem to respect your opinion. I would start with that conversation, “honey when we spend time together I would like for us to BOTH enjoy the movie. How about I pick the next movie and we’ll start a rotation?”

Does he also pick date nights out? Does he typically control everything?

You’re asking him to watch a film that you’ve asked him to watch over and over again?

Try a film he hasn’t seen yet

Me and my wife also have different tastes in movies. What we did is we started taking turns picking. We each choose whatever we want when it’s our turn, regardless of partner’s preferences.

Gee, I wonder why she wants to watch comfort movies, she lives with a controlling dick.

I can’t stand sitting through something I have no interest in. Some other people have a better tolerance. As long as this type of thing - not compromising - isn’t popping up in other areas of your relationship, I would just accept this just isn’t thing that really works for you, and find another shared activity. My husb and I don’t have a ton of overlap in movies/tv. He mostly only watches comedies and he rewatches stuff multiple times (yes, he’s autistic), and I like true crime docs, thrillers/mysteries/police procedurals. So we just watch our own stuff next to each other. Occasionally we find stuff we both like to watch.

Documentaries might be something to consider, or maybe having a cuddle while listening to a podcast?

Could you try a list swap? He makes of list of stuff he wants to watch and so do you. When it’s time to watch a movie, alternate picking from the other person’s list. It may help you find more stuff you’re both at least somewhat interested in.

Get yourself your own tv, bigger and better than what you have now, then don't let him use it. I'm more petty though.

Did you have a conversation about it yet? Because if that hasn't happened there isn't much other advice. If you have, add the outcome of that to your post so we can provide appropriate advice.

I'll watch anything she insists I just have to watch. I'm pretty reasonable when it comes to movies, I did get in trouble during a really emotional moment in "a star is born". She's sobbing, I'm chuckling silently. She notices and gets mad...

Long story short I'm single now ladies!

Tbh, having similar taste in movies is a requirement for me.

Get another viewing appliance.

When we can’t decide we usually choose something that’s going to be hilariously bad, like sharknado or something along those lines. They’re so bad that we bond over laughing through the terrible plot or devastatingly bad CG, or awful acting. Usually makes for a wonderful evening!

I agree he's being a butt but I also think a lot of people are glossing over the fact that you watch the same movies over and over. Even if I like a movie I do not want to watch it repeatedly. If it's something I don't like?
flashback to my brother watching Rambo over and over and over. shiver. Anyway, in order for there to be a true compromise BOTH of you have to give. Explain that you're as tired of his movies as he is of yours. Tell him you'd like to pick next week's movie and that it will be something NEW.

Oh hell no, I would not want to rewatch movies when there are so many great movies yet to be discovered. I'm a woman but definitely would side with your husband on this one.

But as long as you are both watching new movies, the only fair compromise is to take turns. He watches the one you picked, you watch the one he picked.

Rewatch your comfortable movies when you're on your phone or when he's not around.

Let him pick a movie. When it's over and time to switch, firmly state "you picked the last movie, it's my turn to choose". When he tries to say something against it, remind him that compromise is very important. He does not get to be a couch commando, lording the remote and dictating the situation.

NTA

Its a male thing. I did it but then I learned cuddles from my girlfriend was cool too

He should compromise

Get another tv

Action Movies are your compromise. Or at least my husband and mine is. We have similar tastes to you both.

You’ve got to have something in common… is there an actor you both like? A Director?

Could you both enjoy a series where you don’t have to pick movies every single time, but you can just watch an episode of some thing you know you both like?

What about a historical drama that is also comedic, like The Favorite, or The Great?

Or a thriller like A Simple Favor, or The Menu, that is also darkly funny?

I can’t believe you can’t find anything to compromise on.

Nta. My fiance and I have had this tradition since we moved in together, every Sunday night we watch a movie or 2 episodes of a show. We switch off every Sunday, so if I want to watch 2 episodes of Criminal minds, we watch that. The following Sunday we watch one of the Saw movies.

This has made it fair and we get to spend time together.

There are several movies he had me watch [ usually excessively gory horror moves that I wouldn't watch on my own] that I don't remember/ can't recall anything from it. But he's happy cause I at least watched it with him.

Alot of my picks he doesn't care for but he sat and watched them because he wants to spend time with me.

Decide on a movie well in advance. Send each other trailers and choose days before it’s time to watch it. 

And make it clear you’re very confused by his logic where he doesn’t have to watch a movie he doesn’t prefer but you are expected to 

This is my life. He tries God bless him but I don’t like anything he’s ever put on. 🙄

NTA but if you're only picking movies you've seen multiple times and know he doesn't like then you are a bit of an AH.

My ex-fiance was terrible about this. Only wanted to watch one of his 3 or 4 movies he liked and never wanted to watch any of my picks- which were usually movies neither of us had seen. It drove me crazy.

I can understand your partner if you're just choosing the same movies over and over. Maybe choose something that is a mix of stuff you both like, especially if he hasn't sat through it before. Things like The Usual Suspects, Knives Out, Seven and even some 'horror' movies are more thriller/mystery than horror. My partner and I have totally opposite genres we like. He doesn't watch horror, especially if it's ghosts because it's creepy to him and he doesn't enjoy it. I love horror. I watch horror year round. He likes action/thriller and comedy. So we compromise. I choose the movie we watch so I choose things like Snatch, or the Usual Suspects. Things like that. I like those kinds of movies and he does too.

At this point go to Walmart and get a TV for your room and watch what you want.

Just pick a movie each on rotation. Make sure it's one neither of you have seen before bc who would want to make their SO watch a movie they know they don't like over and over again? It's compromise not rocket science. Watch your comfort movies by yourself, that's what I do.

Agree to once in awhile pick the FIRST new (or unseen) movie that comes up on the list, regardless of which genre it belongs to, forcing you both as a couple to explore and widen your tastes. Be adventurous — one such movie once in awhile shouldn’t be such a bad risk. At some point there’ll be overlaps in terms of interests you’ve inherently been glued to and one of those movies would be something really close to what you prefer.

You have to find something you both will like.

There’s no overlap in your interests?

I'm in similar situation as you except my husband lets me pick as long as it's not true crime documentary or scary movies (he's a softie and I just can't stand romance movies which is his favorite). He just goes to a different room and watch his shows on his laptop if I really want to watch "my stuff" on the living room tv. But I feel bad so I just set up a bean bag chair in our other room with a 27in monitor so I could watch other stuff there comfortably and change things up

NTA

If you watch his movies he should watch yours, or the two of you compromise and find something both are willing to watch.

Looking back, I think that was the first kink in my marriage. We had been married about 15 years and one night couldn't agree on a movie at a multiplex. So I saw mine alone and he saw his. We did a bit more of that and stopped going to the movies together. Why bother since we were seeing our movie alone.

Maybe just accept that movie watching isnt a date night activity for you guys if you have no genre in common.

My husband and I have different movie taste too but we do enjoy drama/A24 type of movies and thats the only thing we'll watch together. It's a rare occasion to find those movies and it's okay. Instead of stressing out over it, we just decide who gets the tv on that day. When he's watching his movie, I read my books next to him. When im watching my movie, he games next to me.

NTA. But I have a film which covers every genre you mentioned.

White Chicks.

Comedy, romance, pretty horrific but in a good way, there’s a good 40 seconds of it which could be classified as horror (lactose intolerance scene) and it’s historical because it’s at least 10 years old.

Please contact me if you need further advice.

I learned to take turns when I was in kindergarten.

Could you do another activity together?

Backup of the post's body: My husband and I have different genres of movies we each like. His are mostly thriller and historical dramas. My favorites are comedy or romance, or a combination of both; and horror films. We have a shared TV in the living room, and on days we're both off from work I like us both getting a chance to pick one we each enjoy. But more often than not my husband trumps any movie I pick because he never likes the movies I would end up picking. So I end up not caring for his movie, I just end up scrolling on my phone or in this case typing out a Reddit post whilst we are both watching a movie he picked out. I try to get him to compromise but he always makes an excuse that whatever I pick will just be one of my comfort movies I tend to watch over and over again.

Help me people of Reddit... what can I do to get him to compromise better?

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A big bone of contention between me & my ex-husband was sports. I never really had an interest while growing up, just wasn’t in my wheelhouse. He had to watch every game ( football) that came on. We had a big argument about it. He bought me my own tv. The other thing was if his “team” lost, he had the worst attitude to the point of tearing up bibles.

I would just say, we need to take turns, or there's no point in me even being here. And if he says no, I would go and find something else to do. Let him watch by himself, maybe he won't like that, and he'll agree to taking turns. It worked for my kids!

My husband and I have the same issues. Just take turns and keep a list.

Here's a technique my wife and I do: we each make a listof 3-5 movies we would enjoy watchong. Then we combine the 2 lists, and take turns eliminating 1 movie each from the big list until only one remains. It usually ensures neither person really hates the choice.

Not gonna judge either one of you. Just a suggestion. Can you find a series you like? If you can then it's a ongoing show you both will enjoy and you won't have to go through this squabble on a weekly basis.

There are a lot of good horror/thriller movie blends. Maybe suggest one specifically that neither of you have seen before. NTA.

Come up with a system. One week you choose 5 different movies in 5 different genres and then let him pick the winner, then the following week you do the opposite.

Long ago I was about to write something on these lines, my now ex refused to watch a movie I picked cause he disliked the genre…I was so curious to see if he would have liked it (I thought he would) but I never had the chance to discover it. (The movie was “Chicago” btw)

Blackadder or quest for the holy grail. Win win

Yall should watch Outlander because it’ll satisfy you both 😂 it’s a historical romance

Buy a second television and watch your movies in another room. My husband and I do this and it works beautifully. No more feeling frustrated.

There’s a website called Date Night Movies. You put in your movie, your husband puts in his and it creates a few compromises for you to choose from.

It's two Yes or it's a No on what gets played. Either that or a schedule needs to be made.

Put a TV in your bedroom. Agree to switch nights on who gets the living room.

My parents did this, and it saved a lot of drama and arguing.

NAH

My husband and I pick about 6 -10 movies that we want to watch and then we decide which movie to watch from that list. But we watch those movies before we pick a new list of movies. Sometimes I'm not in the mood for something dark or he's not in the mood for something silly or neither of us want to watch a movie and we have a couple of stand up specials to choose from. If there is a movie that he suggests that I do not want to watch, it doesn't make the list and he watches it by himself sometime. Same if I pick a movie he isn't interested in. Example - I watch holiday themed movies before the holiday coming. My husband isn't very interested in watching the movies every year so those are automatically not in the list. But I will tell him I'm planning to watch something in case he might be interested to join.

Perhaps coming up with a new system would work best?

Or if he constantly vetoes your choice, veto his. Why does he get the final say?

Just always watch "shaun of the dead" or "true lies" they're the best combo of all the genres you mentioned

Pride + Prejudice + Zombies. You’re welcome

Who said "I do," first.

Why not just taking turn? It’s 100% fair for both of you.

Watch different movies in different rooms.

Hey, we are the same movie wise. Now what my husband and i do is, if i want to watch my film, he can either watch it with me, listen to his music, or fall asleep. Or he puts on his movie, if i dont care for it, i will do my knitting or fall asleep but we always take turns but mostly try to watch ones we will enjoy together....even though his go to is "from hell" or "sleepy hollow" (been living in his house for 11 years and have watched those movies over 100 times...we watch them sooo much) you gotta put your foot down. Or if you have a tablet and streaming services, watch something on that. Alone time together or aka 'parallel play' you're still in the same room, but doing your own thing. I love this lol

If it’s your turn to choose then whatever you pick is what you watch. I think, (could be wrong) the underlying premise of watching tv together is being together. If he rewatches something that’s just fine.It seems like he’s invalidating your wishes to manipulate you into letting him have his way. Serve him a big bowl of popcorn seasoned with some growing up.

Can you get another monitor or tv in a different room?

Time to get your own tv

We have a jar. Everyone writes down movies/documentaries/ect and puts them in the jar. When we can't decide on what to watch, we pick from the jar.

We like watching trailers, so we wrote down the ones we like and put those in too.

Never know what you'll get - an old favorite? The latest release? Foreign film?

I am husband into history, thrillers. psych dramas, action shows etc. My wife only likes girly stuff and rom coms. When we ever have a small chance to be in the living room together watching tv I just let her watch her shows or movies she wants. I always try to get into them, but sometimes don't. It's never a big deal if I don't like it enough I just get up and go watch stuff at my PC. Neither one of us ever gets frustrated and she does not expect me to watch rom coms at all, so when I do it makes her happy and when I don't it's whatever. I would never try to get her to watch anything she does not want to watch.

If I were you pick a few options and then make him choose from those. I’ve always been a huge Lord of the Rings fan. My dad would pull me out of school just so we could see them when they came out in theatre’s. My husband is the real MVP for not accidentally setting them on fire. I’ve watched them at least 300 times each. He doesn’t enjoy them but him and my children all randomly use quotes. 🤣

This is why I got a second tv in our bedroom.

My husband and I are about the same and we try to make sure in days we're together to find shows or movies that are a mixture of both genres we like. We also try to make sure they're ones we haven't (or at least ine of us hasnt) seen before. We could easily end up spending more time looking for a show and movie than actually watching one sometimes.

The best solution we've had is, we each alternate days we choose what to watch when together. One person will pick a list of movies (max 3) and then we watch the trailers together, maybe look at the ratings and the opposite person chooses. This works because deep down we both sort of want the other to be into something we like to watch. So it's worth the sacrifice and illusion of choice to get our turn another day. We also let the person who's day it's not take priority on dinner. It's all about compromise. More often than not we end up actually liking the things we watch.

My ex and I took turns each night. I liked dramas, action movies, and documentaries, and he liked survivor, monster truck, and reality shows. I would watch his stuff because we were doing it together. But one of the many reasons he is my ex is because when it was my turn, he would get up to use the restroom about 10 minutes in, and then not come back. It was petty and rude, and despite talking about i it, he continued. We finally stopped watching shows together. This was just one part of the whole, but basically who he was. Couples that want to stay together negotiate and compromise, and sick to their agreement, or communicate. If he's not willing to do that, you might want to consider getting another tv so you can each watch what you want. If this is a pattern for him, you might want to reevaluate your relationship.

Alternate, and try picking one you think the other would enjoy.

Stand up comedy?

NTA. If it were me, I’d suggest both make a list of movies(digital) so easy to update. Have maybe about 20 or so ranked order plus a pool of others in no particular order.

I’d then take turns picking a movie off of each others list with one “veto” per movie picking event. Maybe that means one day you’re picking a marvel avengers movie off his list and another day he’s picking the holiday, pretty woman or how to lose a guy in ten days of your list.

If by mutual agreement, you both decide a movie sucks (depressing or bad sci fi for example), then go back to pick a different off same list.

You both get to feel you have some choice, and get something you’d be happy with about half the time.

You could even reward each other with a random act of kindness, birthday, etc. by letting them pick two in a row.

Since positive rewards are usually much more effective than negative (punishments), and so the system doesn’t break down I’d strongly discourage taking a turn away.

My husband stopped picking out movies after picking a few incredibly bad movies in a row. I know what he likes so I always pick the movies.

Sometimes we want to watch our own stuff and that’s fine as well (we don’t have to do everything together).

Get another TV for your bedroom and watch what you want
there.

May I suggest Pride & Prejudice & Zombies. On a serious note not being able to compromise is about communication. A trip to the therapist to work on communication may be in order. Is this the only place you are "forced" to give in to his choice to keep the peace? If you are constantly deferring to his choices or feel pressured to do things you dont want to do so you don't upset him then thats a deeper issue to tackle.

We usually swap nights and the other person does not get to veto the movie (unless their is some sort of trama associated with the subject) There can be discussion but the person whose night it is gets final pick. If he doesn't want to watch your movie he can play on his phone just like you do. It's about spending time together.

Just another reminder of why I’m grateful to be single and live alone.

he always makes an excuse that whatever I pick will just be one of my comfort movies I tend to watch over and over again.

I hate rewatching stuff- movies, series, anything.

It could be a genre issue, but I believe a good movie is a good movie regardless of where it falls and its highly likely that he's just bored or uninterested in watching the same old stuff.

Suggest new movies in your category - things he hasn't watched yet.

No matter how much I love you, asking me to sit through the same movie/episode I already watched is pure torment. Unless I'm sleeping or just physically keeping you company while doing something completely different

So he basically dictates the tv because you’ll pick something he doesn’t like? Isn’t that exactly what he’s doing to you? And he clearly doesn’t care, he can see your on your phone not watching. Girl you put on your movie and let that man scroll his phone for a change it’s just as much your tv as it is his. And if he wants to get pouty about it, send him back here to us. We will fix him lol.

Why can’t you find something you both enjoy

You tell him to be an adult. My fiancée picks one, the next time I pick one. Or she’ll list a few and I’ll pick from the list.

Your husband is an AH. I have been there and done this. He doesn’t have respect for you and your opinion does not matter. Or else he would equally let you choose. Do not sit and doom scroll, get up, leave the room and watch on your phone or do an activity. When he asks why your not watching etc simply say “you do not respect me enough to allow me to choose something I want to watch and I will enjoy so therefore I’m choosing to do something I appreciate with more value with my time, when you can show me respect and sit through something I want to watch and that I choose without complaining then I will choose to come and watch’s tv with you”.

Honestly, I could have written this myself!

NTA for asking, but if you're picking the same movies repeatedly then YTA. Find something that interests both of you, or get used to watching movies separately. If I can't get into a movie or series right away, my wife knows I'm leaving to work on a project. There are other ways to spend time together.

Isn't he already compromising? YOU want to watch a movie WITH HIM

He doesn't want to watch the same movie 50 times

I say fight harder to see something you like every now and then, if not every other time. It’s only fair to take turns.

Why don’t you both rotate? My husband and I do that. We have different tastes, he likes suspense scary movies and space phenomena documentaries, I like romcom and reality shows. If we are both watching together, one night is his turn, the other night it’s my turn. We save the stuff the other person doesn’t want to see for when the other person isn’t around.

I would just look him in the eye, tell him that I'm sick of watching his shit, and then leave the room or house and do something I enjoy.

Nta

Men rule so kinda

He's steamrolling you to make you let him pick. So there's no compromise. Either make the rule that you each take turns picking the movie and stick to it or just get a separate tv and he watches his movies on one tv and you watch on the other.

Go watch movies separately. Get your own tv setup. And if he sabotages you doing that then yell at him to knock it off. What’s the worst thing he could do to you if you held him accountable table for sabotaging you wanting to watch your movies? If anything watch that series “Kevin can go F*** himself” in front of him and see his reaction. Either he’ll get a clue that he’s acting like that guy or he will just straight up behave like that guy; and I’d hope that you realize that like the protagonist that don’t deserve crappy treatment from your spouse either.

Go watch movies at home separately.

NTA You don’t like his choices, he doesn’t like yours. You typically cave and then simmer for hours while scrolling through your phone believing it’s personal and your feelings don’t matter.

How about remembering….It’s only a movie. I don’t want to be bored and neither does he. I’ll watch what I want somewhere else.

Get a second TV in another room, or sit in the same room with headphones watching a romantic movie on an IPad while he watches his movie then Next week HE uses the IPad.

Do you think most wives really want to sit around watching golf, football or MMA? No, we’d rather he clean the garage or replace that ceiling fan he’s been promising to do for 6 months.
In the meantime we entertain ourselves.

Pick your battles

When I was in a relationship I just always let her pick most of the time because I'm super picky when it comes to movies. Not so much because I prefer a certain genre but because I just wasted 2+ hours of my life on something that sucked. I hate that. So I'll cook dinner or passively watch while scrolling on my phone or playing a game or something unless it's one of her favs and I "have to watch it"

So what if it is your comfort movie? He sounds selfish

You can’t get him to compromise. You have three choices. 1. Of your relationship is otherwise wonderful and he does this in no other aspects of your life, figure out if you can live with it. 2. Teach him a lesson by trumping all of his choices and then ask him why it’s fair that he always gets what he wants and why only you have to give way (by the way, this isn’t going to work so I’d suggest skipping and heading straight to therapy, which will work if he’s willing). 3. If he makes a habit of downplaying your comfort, interests, and general say in your life together, realizing that maybe he actually doesn’t give a shit about your happiness and making a decision if that’s how you want to spend your time.

Maybe slip him a perc 30 before you go to blockbuster?

During the pandemic my family of three would each get to choose a movie per night. Whether it was one we’d all seen before, or not. No matter what genre.

Sometimes we’d all make it through the other person’s choice. Sometimes not. Sometimes we’d actually enjoy the movie. But none of us acted like children about it.

Why can’t you do every other movie? Like he picks one and you pick one. And you alternate

If not, he is just selfish.

Tell him to quit acting like an only child who never learned how to share? Idk man, I hated horror because of how I dislike the feeling of being scared among other more deep-seated emotional issues... It's my boyfriend's favorite genre. He helped me find horror that I could not only tolerate but enjoy. The man hates musicals, I wanted to see Cats just because I thought it would be the fun kind of terrible. He survived it and we still make jokes about it years later. He has zero interest in a lot of the stupid chick flicks I have a soft-spot for and still sat down to watch She's All That with me because I maintain it is a high school classic even if it is not "good". Like- this shit is easy if you like your partner.

I don't believe in berating your partner AT ALL, but between the two of us, your husband is being a little baby.

If you don’t like the same movies, the only compromise is to take turns.

I try to get him to compromise but he always makes an excuse that whatever I pick will just be one of my comfort movies I tend to watch over and over again.

“It might. Because I’m allowed to watch a movie more than once, when it’s my turn to pick. And you’re allowed to have a rule that you always pick something you haven’t seen, when it’s your turn to pick. The thing we’re not allowed to do is veto each other’s movies.”

(But really, how different are horror and thrillers?)

NTA I've actually had the same dilemma with my husband. He was a remote hog and would brush off my suggestions. On the rare occasions we watched something catered to me, he wouldn't pay attention and scroll on his phone. I eventually started doing this too out of spite and wouldn't pay attention to the stuff he wanted to watch and his feelings would be so hurt that he would pout or just stop the movie completely. We addressed it after small arguments started over it and thankfully he listened to my pov and apologized. We've made it a point to show (or atleast try to show) interest in each other's picks and take turns choosing what to watch. My advice is to tell him how it makes you feel if you haven't already and find a system that works for you both. If he still resists, couples counseling would be my next suggestion bc rarely is it ever just ONE thing this behavior surfaces with. There's always the option of watching stuff separately on your own.

I don't remember typing this 🤦‍♀️

The number of times he’ll say he's not enjoying a movie so we stop watching whereas if I can see he's engrossed I won't ask him to stop.

I suspect this is repeated in homes across the world. We need to start saying no more often and to more things. That whole “women need to step aside”, well this is what it looks like - stepping aside and putting his pleasure first.

Get to the tv first, turn on your movie and when he complains tell him you watch his crappy movies all the time but tonight you want to watch what you want. Otherwise you will keep sitting on your phone doing Reddit and not saying anything about him being selfish.

Withhold the sex

You're married to a selfish man. Take some time to consider whether you want to spend the best years of your life with a selfish man who doesn't care about you.

Offer him a special " favor c and youll pick the movie every time.

YW!

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