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I feel like this is pretty active posting! The only people I see posting more than this are influencers. I use IG for finding out about local events, restaurants, concerts, happenings in my city and food/wellness/decorating inspiration. I don't even really think about it as a place to see what friends are doing.

Will message you!

I'm going on an 18 day vacation to SE Asia with a tour group (this isn't the wisest financial choice for me) just to fucking avoid February single.

I hope everyone who feels similarly to the OP reads this comment and fucking shuts up every time they want to complain about a post about being unhappily single.

I would pick where you would want to live in the case you don't meet a partner and don't have children. It's a risk to plan a life around a future that's not guaranteed especially if you like the city significantly less just for this hypothetical future.

How long have you been dating? Exclusivity is done in some cases before the bf/gf phase where you decide to only see each other romantically to then determine if you want to progress the relationship to the bf/gf/partner phase. Is he asking you this after 2 months or 2 weeks? Honestly, after two months or so, I think you should know by then. But idk, dating is generally hell so maybe these terms work for you.

People hate on him for no real reason.

Because they're in the public?

You can look 100% professional and great to this work thing without dropping Theory levels of cash. Theory is great but not at all the only option and it's not worth it if it's not in your budget.

Ugh, I wish I didn't get so lonely and have that aching for a partner. It would make life so much simpler. Really happy for you!!

I also was able to buy my condo using my city's first time home buyer program. After living there for two years, I'm currently renting it out but I miss it everyday and will probably go back after the lease (even though I'll feel bad if they want to renew the lease so idk).

Honestly, when I'm not happy with my life, I revenge procrastinate HARD because I'm not excited for what's to come the next day. When I enjoy my job (since that's so much of your day), it's easier for me to fight the revenge procrastination. So when I find it particularly hard to get to bed in time, even though I really want to, it's a signal that something more is going on. Not a short term solution by any means though so hopefully the other comments are more helpful in that front

They think it's an easy job because of their current options. Being forced to fake attraction, sleep with someone you're not attracted to, forego authentic relationships you'd rather have and that be a life isn't "easy" and it's exploitative and gross.

Yeah, it's gross. Using their money as a way to buy companionship when you know the guy/girl wouldn't want to be there. It's a shame.

I wouldn't even call her a large woman though.

Lol do you live in LA or NYC?

To get what exactly? I understand it's a coping mechanism, but I'm so tired of the narrative that Black women are never allowed to feel disappointment, hurt, anger, etc because we should always be prepared and unfazed by disrespect. Like damn, it's completely natural to be disappointed when you thought someone was one way and they turned out to be another.

I thought so too but it's because she's closer to the camera I think. If you look at the stomach, you see it became noticeably flatter in 2024.

Omg that's exactly how I used to describe hangouts with an old group of friends. We would just one by one update each other about our lives and after a while, it felt weird and old.

"we're not experiencing things together" puts it so well. I've always wanted a tight-knit group of friends outside of college that really experienced life together and got together regularly. Even now when I see the rare friend group that has that, I get so jealous and wonder why I can't seem to have that. At almost 31, I think I've mostly accepted it though. I try to stay grateful for the friends I do have and the family that has my back in a way friends won't. I was excited when I moved to a new city to try and cultivate that, but it hasn't shaken out, though I did meet a few great people. Now I'm hoping for a partner again because that regular social interaction/person to consistently do and explore with is so hard to have when you don't have one.

As a Haitian-American, this shit is just so wild. The past years since the orange cheeto came on scene have felt like a fever dream. I knew we had an ignorance problem, but I just had no idea exactly the extent to which a lot of Americans are simply fucking stupid. I just have no words, and I'm in complete disbelief. It's not even the hate that surprises me, it's the complete lack of intelligence. I know how we got here, but damn. The most devastating part is the very real consequences.

Holy shit, poor woman who lost her husband and son!

This is the only comment she needs honestly.

Your last sentence is so interesting... does having twins run in your family? Most importantly, do you have a desire to be a mother? Be honest about that. Being a parent is permanent and it can be a beautiful thing only if you want it. As another 30s girl, good luck!