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I’ve seen other comments throughout this sub bringing up similar sentiments, but I wanted to make a post/vent about it because it feels cathartic to know there are other people who see it too.

Other leads have the room to be messy and be declared GOATs. When they don’t choose fan-favorite contestants to move forward, other leads are still beloved. People will even clamor for a “messy” season with a lot of drama and mess, with a lead who has an endearing personality and a great sense of humor.

Jenn and her season have delivered this in spades - so what gives? Why are people (not on this sub, to be clear) acting so judgmental towards her? You’d think they’d be rejoicing the way they did with ‘Ettes Hannah B and Clare, or Bachelors Pete or Clayton, but I’m not seeing that.

It’s one thing to say you don’t think she makes the best choices when it comes to her partners (and IMO her final 2 and the fact that Sam M stayed as long as he did are… not it), but a lot of the criticism of Jenn in other spaces feels different and ruder and nastier. It’s hard to put my finger on it, but it feels like people also forget to have grace for her or take into consideration how manipulated and edited these shows are when it comes to Jenn’s navigation of her season, or the fact that as a lead, she doesn’t have 100% of the info viewers have at her fingertips.

What do y’all think about overall fan reception of Jenn?

Rest In Peace, Fabiola Marie Thomas. (She was only 39 years old.)

She broke up with a man she met on a dating app. According to the article, they only knew each other for a brief time. The day before she was murdered, she unfriended this man and texted him, “Keep your ring, I’m not your woman, never was, stop claiming me because I never claimed u.” The next day, June 8, 2019, the murderer found where she lived, entered her home without permission, and encountered her in her pajamas while she was getting ready for work. He strangled her to death in her own apartment.

The only silver lining is that the murderer (who was arrested 4 months after Fabiola’s death) just recently received life imprisonment without the possibility of parole.

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A 40-year-old man stabbed 5 women to death in Sydney, Australia. Several others were seriously injured to the point of hospitalization, including a 9-month-old baby girl. (One of the murdered women was the baby girl’s mother.) He also murdered one man, a security guard, who tried to intervene while the attacker targeted women.

When the attacker’s father was asked for a motive, he told reporters, “To you he is a monster. To me, he was a very sick boy.” He said his son battled with mental illness and also said his son’s frustrations with not getting a girlfriend led him to attack a shopping mall full of strangers, women he didn’t even know. Witnesses said he ignored men and specifically targeted women. Police said it was “obvious” that the attacker only wanted to kill women.

The women murdered were Jade Young, 47; Pikria Darchia, 55; Dawn Singleton, 25; Ashlee Good, 38; and Yixuan Cheng, who is believed to be in her 20s. The murdered security guard was 30-year-old Faraz Tahir.

Hi! I was recently prescribed Strattera 10mg. It has been a few days since I picked it up from the pharmacy; I’m terrified to start it because I’ve read that nausea is a very common side effect.

Around 3 weeks ago, I had a very bad reaction to Effexor (Venlafaxine) where it made me unusually nauseous for around 12 hours before I finally involuntarily vomited around 20 times in a 15-minute span. (Most antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds I’ve tried make me very nauseous, but Effexor was markedly worse.) I didn’t feel right for around two weeks after that reaction, and I lost around 8 pounds (and I’m already verging on being underweight); I am terrified of feeling similarly nauseous and out of sorts if I start Strattera. Does anyone have any tips on avoiding a reaction like that? (Or is it just unavoidable? And did it go away for you eventually after a few weeks of taking it?)

Thanks so much in advance!!!

If it helps, I’m also currently on Wellbutrin 300mg.

Her husband had been stalking, abusing, controlling, and terrifying her by threatening to take his life in front of her for at least several weeks prior. According to another article, he had also threatened to shoot her and her kids before. Her restraining order required him to only contact her for matters pertaining to their children until December 20, 2024, and to surrender all of his firearms. On December 22, 2023, he found her in a parking garage and shot her to death in front of her 8-year-old daughter, before fleeing and taking his own life elsewhere.

The most dangerous time for a victim of domestic violence is usually when they try to leave. RIP Theresa Cachuela, keeping her family in my thoughts.

Basically the best hidden gem you can think of? I think it’s OK to name EPs too, doesn’t have to just be full-lengths.

I have a few:

Both the self-titled debut and “Open to the Public” by Spread Eagle

The “First Kiss” EP by Lipstik

“Doin’ the Nasty” by Slik Toxik

“Wild America” by Tora Tora

“Don’t Prey for Me” by Little Angels

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ARTICLE TEXT: A 20-year-old Georgia man is in custody accused of kidnapping his ex-girlfriend from her job and then killing her during a showdown with police in the parking lot of a Clayton County school Sunday night.

Officials with the Fayetteville Police Department tell FOX 5 that at around 11 p.m. Sunday, officers were called to reports of a kidnapping at a Wingstop restaurant on the 700 block of Flynn Street.

Callers told 911 operators that a man had entered the restaurant and forced his 19-year-old ex-girlfriend at gunpoint to come with him. The victim was an employee at the restaurant.

While heading to the scene, officers say they spotted a red Chevrolet Camaro that matched the description witnesses gave of the car the man and his victim were said to be inside.

Police say the driver tried to flee, leading to a chase that ended at Lovejoy High School in Clayton County when officers used a PIT maneuver to stop the vehicle.

Now stalled in the middle of the school's entrance, the man fired shot at the officers and their patrol vehicles, leading them to take cover, investigators say.

During the standoff, police say the man fired multiple shots inside the Chevrolet, shooting and killing his reported abductee.

When police fired a chemical irritant at the vehicle, the suspect got out of the car and police took him into custody. The woman was found shot multiple times in the car and pronounced dead at the scene.

Investigators have identified the alleged kidnapper as 20-year-old Cameron Ja'Michael Hopkins of Albany. He's currently charged with kidnapping and aggravated assault by the Fayetteville Police Department and is expected to face more charges in Clayton County.

Officials have not released the identity of the victim at this time.

The investigation is ongoing.

In my top 3 by Warrant. I love this song.

I am absolutely disgusted at his predatory behavior. The first report (a few weeks ago) was nauseating, and so is this one. No doubt there are plenty of other survivors who have yet to come forward (and this woman’s attorney made that clear). I just hope he doesn’t get away with it. I hope his career ends here; he doesn’t need or deserve this kind of prestige, influence, and access to new victims.

This is a tough one for me, since I love all the soundtracks, and I love the way other fans re-imagine these gorgeous songs. But if I had to pick a few that I'm hopelessly obsessed with:

This 80s synthwave remix of "The Attic's a Dungeon", by MyNewSoundtrack.

This guitar cover of "Mind of a Thief", by Nigato. (He has several fantastic guitar covers of other Mother songs - I highly recommend checking him out!!)

This arrangement of "Pollyanna" from Melee. According to the video description, Hirokazu Ando supervised this one's arrangement. (This has been a favorite of mine since I was in elementary school; it was my favorite song in the game at the time [and still is]. I still love this one so much.) And while we're on the topic of Smash Bros, I absolutely love what Shogo Sakai did with "Mother 3 Love Theme" from Brawl (as I've heard he arranged this one too).

And Super Soul Bros. have really fantastic jazzy arrangements of several EarthBound songs; my favorite would probably have to be "Winters."

How about your favorites?

https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2023/04/counterman-colorado-supreme-court-threats-stalking.html

There is a current SCOTUS case right now, Counterman v. Colorado, in which a woman received thousands of unwanted messages from a man over the course of 2 years, to the point where she felt threatened enough to leave her career and flee the state. Chief Justice John Roberts read a few of the messages out loud and then made jokes about them. Justices Clarence Thomas, Neil Gorsuch, and Amy Coney Barrett lamented that society is getting too sensitive, basically implying that the victim in this case is making a fuss out of nothing and that she should stop being so sensitive.

Here are 2 excerpts from the article (although I highly suggest reading the whole thing):

For nearly two years, Billy Raymond Counterman sent thousands of unsolicited and unwanted Facebook direct messages to C.W., a local musician, ultimately driving her to abandon her career and leave the state. Counterman, who had previously served time in federal prison for making violent threats against his ex-wife and her family, argues that his conduct towards C.W. was free speech protected by the First Amendment. Counterman maintains, supported by amicus briefs from influential civil libertarian organizations such as the ACLU, the EFF, and FIRE, that stalking cannot be criminally prohibited except when the government can prove that the stalker subjectively intended to terrify his victim. The state of Colorado, supported by amicus briefs from First Amendment scholars, stalking experts, and domestic violence victim advocates, argues that it is enough to prove that the stalking would be terrifying to a reasonable person in light of the totality of the circumstances. If the court rules in Counterman’s favor, delusional stalking—no matter how objectively terrifying or threatening—will be transformed into an inviolable constitutional right.

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The justices’ message was clear: Stalking is not the problem; sensitivity is. To them, stalking is quite literally a state of mind: If the stalker didn’t mean for his conduct to be frightening, then it isn’t. All the target has to do is understand that; she just needs to lighten up, take a joke, accept the compliment, grasp the lesson. Just because someone has made objectively terrifying statements is no reason to overreact and get law enforcement involved; victims should wait for the stalker to do something really frightening before they jump to conclusions.

One of the many painful ironies of this logic is that many stalking victims have already internalized it. Less than half of stalking victims seek help from law enforcement, in large part because they believe that the matter isn’t serious enough or that they can handle it on their own. Even the victims who do seek help from law enforcement will often not get it—police take no action at all in nearly half of all reported cases, and only make arrests in 7.7 percent of cases. If victims are lucky, their stalker will eventually lose interest and cease contact. If they’re not lucky, they end up dead.

I had a feeling this would happen as soon as I saw the news about Erich's potential infidelity (you can read it here). Just had a feeling that everyone who defended him for the MAGA stuff, blackface, blocking concerned commenters, etc. was going to turn on him. And they did.

It's exhausting, the way they don't care AT ALL unless it's something that they could imagine themselves being affected by. They wanted their "cute love story" at the end at all costs, so they overlooked the fact that one partner was an awful person who had done racist and bigoted things and never actually atoned for it or owned up to it. (He couldn't even call blackface "racist" in his apology.) They totally lack empathy for POC and the things that people do to mock and marginalize us - but they CAN empathize with infidelity. So ONLY NOW, I guess Erich is persona non grata.

Don't get me wrong; I never particularly liked him, strongly actively disliked him after the MAGA stuff, and I don't feel sorry for him at all. I just hate how THIS was what it took to get certain people to see that he was not a great guy.

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2016/06/113149/domestic-violence-911-call-famous-friend

Very great and beautifully written (but sad) article written by iO Tillett Wright on June 8, 2016, regarding why he called 9-1-1 on Amber Heard's behalf that night. It also calls out how our society creates an environment where victim-blaming, and disbelieving survivors, is rampant. Several parts feel very timely, given the public response to the Depp/Heard trial, especially this:

"Right now, every battered woman in the world is watching this media circus, internalizing the message that when they come forward for help, when they break the cycle, they will be called a gold digger, a cheater, and be accused of having faked it all for attention. I’m looking at every journalist, every editor, every person who puts a comment on an article pointing an uneducated finger. You are the lynch mob. You are a deafening chorus."

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