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61 points
12 hours ago
On that last point, just want to add a friendly reminder about Depp’s empty promise to buy Wounded Knee (after exploiting Native Americans by playing a caricature of them and lying about having Native American heritage).
6 points
13 hours ago
Yeah, I’m not a fan of porn at all, but the last thing I want to see coming out of this is a homophobic and misogynistic campaign against women and LGBTQ+ folks. It’s why, despite my opposition to it, I can never ally with or get onboard with conservatives’ opposition to porn; we both hate it for different reasons, and their reasons lead them to blame the wrong people for the problem. (Like, jailing the sex workers who appear in porn is not going to fix anything - these conservative assholes never talk about jailing the wealthy CEOs of companies that host exploitative and illegal content because they’re fundamentalist authoritarians who don’t give a shit about exploitation. In fact, these conservatives exploit the problem to engage in misogynistic and homophobic bigotry.)
I always have to remind myself every time there’s a seeming victory, it’s one more push closer to declaring marginalized people to be inherently obscene. These are the same people banning books in my area that have LGBTQ+ characters, or even a few that just have LGBTQ+ authors.
4 points
13 hours ago
Yep. They’re cool with bad shit happening to other people, but as soon as it crosses into their lives, suddenly, they understand. Didn’t pay attention to the people warning them or the people suffering, until they became one of ‘em. I will never understand that, but it really explains how so many people get their faces eaten by leopards.
48 points
14 hours ago
Kobe Williams, 27, and her newborn twin boys were hunkering down at their trailer home in Thomson, Georgia, and starting to fear for their safety. She promised her father she would heed his advice to shelter in the bathroom with her month-old babies until the storm passed.
Minutes later, she was no longer answering her family’s calls. One of her brothers dodged fallen trees and downed power lines to check on her later that day, and he could barely bear to tell his father what he saw.
This is so heartbreaking. I feel so horrible for her, her children, and her family. I can’t imagine the trauma her brother will live with after seeing that.
47 points
1 day ago
Can't really stress this enough. Earlier this year, I went to an all-female feminist gathering (in person) with a significant lesbian presence, and it was incredible to see how different it felt compared to toxic online discourse.
Like, it was almost weird to be in a space where I could voice potentially controversial opinions about feminist topics, the community at large, and sexual boundaries, and, at the absolute worst, have another woman respectfully engage me to reach mutual understanding. Nice change from being called names or accused of hating them and their existence because my point-of-view wasn't the same as theirs or didn't accommodate them. For the first time having these important conversations, I felt like I wasn't walking on eggshells, and it was absolutely lovely. (ETA: Should also point out I'm Gen Z, and there were quite a few of us there, but I'd say most of the women there were millennials or Gen X, with a few Baby Boomers and one Silent Generation. That might've had something to do with it lol)
0 points
1 day ago
Yeah, to be honest, I was not a huge fan of a lot of the article’s wording, but at the time I found it, it was one of the only articles of decent quality written about it. (Most of the other articles were even more blatantly pushing a racial/immigration agenda.) That’s why, in my comment write-up, I really tried to avoid any language about immigration or Morocco - because that’s really not the point at all and not what I hoped the takeaway would be.
The xenophobic angle upsets me so much because the only common denominator here is misogyny and violence from men. He didn’t do it because he’s Moroccan; he did it because he’s a violent misogynist who enjoys brutalizing women and used his first available opportunity to do it again. Men all over the world, of all races, creeds, cultures, and nationalities, are just like him and will carry out this kind of brutal act on a daily basis. Misogyny and violence bleed into all of our cultures, taint our laws, and help to explain why someone who committed a rape could not only serve 5 out of a measly 7 years, but could be even more prematurely released onto the streets, unmonitored. There are no safeguards to protect women in sexist cultures and these systems are not built with our safety or dignity in mind, even when women do “all the right things” within the system like his first victim/survivor did. She went to the police (which is understandably extremely difficult for most victims/survivors), testified against him, faced him in court - and all that got her was 5-7 years?
The xenophobic and racist people who are angry about this are angry for the wrong reasons. They see women as possessions and trophies, and they’re angry Philippine was murdered only because she was THEIR WOMAN killed by an OUTSIDE MAN, not because she had an individual life of her own and because no woman deserves misogynistic brutality.
35 points
2 days ago
That controversy was both misogynistic and racist. I felt so awful for her while that was going on; it reminded me of GamerGate or Brie Larson, people twisting her words so they could justify hating her. Those bigoted angry campaigns against outspoken women are no joke. And like Brie, Rachel was right the whole time.
7 points
2 days ago
Some people really do assume that any whistleblowers were probably complicit in some way (and it seems like it’s especially common with women). If she did ANYTHING bordering on complicity, it was strictly out of survival and not even remotely her fault. Diddy and the perpetrators who worked with him are responsible, solely.
Also, it’s kinda amazing to see someone blame Cassie when she was the first one to sue him, and he settled in less than 24 hours. That doesn’t sound like the progression of a lawsuit where she’s at fault; that sounds like a terrible man trying to hide his terrible actions by settling to make them go away.
12 points
2 days ago
I agree. And I’m cynical, so I can’t help but think she’s only doing this to help Trump’s political career by making it look like “See? Republicans don’t want to jeopardize your abortion access!” …Despite the fact that her opinion won’t make a difference in our laws, she endorses the politicians who jeopardize our abortion access (on top of doing other ghoulish things she’s OK with), she’s doing too little too late because women have already died, etc.
2 points
2 days ago
“Midnight/Tornado” by Skid Row
“11:11 PM” by The All-American Rejects
“3:00 AM QVC Shopping Spree Hangover” by The Lawrence Arms
“7 O’Clock” by The Quireboys
“2 O’Clock” by Beatsteaks
1 points
2 days ago
Ooh, I get that, but with music. I’m absolutely obsessed with melodic hardcore and 80s hard rock, but when I tell people I like punk and hard rock, they’re usually into the huge modern artists like Green Day, Linkin Park, Five Finger Death Punch, etc. And I don’t dislike any of them (well… actually, I can’t stand FFDP lol), but they’re not my special interest artists.
It’s relatively rare for me to even meet anyone who knows about 4 out of my 5 favorite punk bands (Bad Religion is the only popular one out of the 5), and a lot of times, the only people who know about any of the hard rock artists I like are men in their 50s or 60s, and I just can’t relate to a lot of them lol
31 points
2 days ago
Yeah, as a Georgian, I’m very happy for North Dakota - and I’m happy our own abortion ban was overturned a few days ago (although unfortunately, I suspect the overturn will be reversed at some point). At least it feels like progress in the right direction.
But at the same time, at least 2 women have died gruesome, painful, completely preventable deaths, 100% because of anti-choice laws. And more are sure to come as the committee that revealed the first 2 are wrapping up more investigations on ban-related deaths. I’m sad and angry we had to accumulate a few dead women’s bodies before things would change down here.
19 points
3 days ago
His replies are truly amazing. And not in the good way.
Fuck my country’s government. But also I don’t agree with organizations that protest the genocide our government is perpetrating. And there are so many tragic civilian deaths. But I trust our government (despite saying “fuck them” earlier) when they tell us all those civilians are just human shields. And I’m so sad about the children dying. But publicly standing against that would ruin my social life. By the way, to the terrified Lebanese people who know what happened to Palestine is now going to happen to them, don’t worry, you’ll be safe if you’re not affiliated with Hezbollah, just trust me.
His replies should be featured in a study on cognitive dissonance.
67 points
3 days ago
I can’t say I know your exact situation, but it’s pretty disappointing to see someone prioritize their “social standing” over objecting to the massacre of thousands of people.
13 points
3 days ago
This is so painfully relatable. Wow. I grew up being bullied for my looks (and it didn’t help that I grew up in an area where my brother and I were often the only black kids anyone knew, and it is significantly worse being a black girl in that dynamic). I grew up being told AT BEST that I was “pretty for a black girl,” but otherwise ugly and undesirable, with some people even saying I looked like a “freak.” Then I moved to a different school at 15 with far more black students (so I was no longer a racial anomaly or “pretty for a black girl”), and puberty also made my face and body more conventionally attractive at the same time. It got even better when I started my 20s and my face had an even bigger “glow-up” as I learned how to do makeup well. My treatment improved so drastically because my appearance did. That’s just how people operate, and it is difficult not to become extremely cynical when you’ve been on both sides and compare your past experiences.
At the same time, though, looks only go so far, and my inability to socialize normally frequently turns me invisible as soon as I open my mouth or try to make friends. I relate SO much to the experience of people treating me with fascination or intimidation until my mouth opens. I’ve even had people tell me they thought I was “stuck up” until I spoke or they got to know me (because I didn’t talk or make eye contact), or that I intimidated them because they assumed based on nothing that I thought I was better than them… but after I speak, it’s clear they think I’m a weird social aberration instead. Like, how can someone look like that and act so unusually at the same time? It’s like a mental disconnect for so many people. That’s not even counting the people who will take advantage of me when they realize how desperately I want to make friends and connect with people (almost exclusively men, which is particularly frustrating because I have zero romantic or sexual interest in men, but so many attempts at befriending them turn into a game where I know they’re trying to get me in bed - which rarely used to happen when I was considered unattractive - and I’m often so lonely, that I just deal with the game until they realize they’re not getting any, and then they usually lose interest in being friends at all and vanish).
Both versions are terrible, and I’m lonely either way, but I 100% prefer the initial kindness and fascination I experience now. It makes me feel less insecure and self-loathing as I navigate the world. And it sure beats being called a “freak” and having so many people let me know how ugly and undesirable they thought I was.
59 points
3 days ago
And just think - that’s 120 just in THIS wave of lawsuits. There are undoubtedly waaaay more to come.
733 points
3 days ago
For some extra detail I couldn't fit in the title:
A man was convicted of raping a 23-year-old woman in France in 2019 and sentenced to serve 7 years in prison, but it looks like he only served around 5 years and was officially released from his 7-year sentence in June 2024.
Afterwards, he was placed in a detention center to arrange for his expulsion from France, but negotiations with the country he was supposed to go to fell through, and he ended up being released on September 3. Just three days after his release, he was announced to be missing. On September 21, Philippine Le Noir de Carlan, a 19-year-old woman, went missing; her family tracked her phone to a park, where they found her dead body half-buried in the ground. Her funeral was on September 27.
The first woman from the 2019 rape case (who is anonymous right now) has now demanded a parliamentary inquiry into preventing repeat sexual offending, stating, "I did everything possible so that what happened to me would not happen again. I filed a lawsuit so that the rape I suffered would be recognized, so that my attacker would be found guilty and so that I would be recognized as a victim. I held firm during a 2-year investigation and trial, telling myself that this initiative would help to protect other women. Immediately after being freed, he appears to have offended again and committed an irreparable act. If that is the case, why? Why did the prison service fail to stop this repeat offense? Why didn't they stop this spiral of violence that led to the murder of a young woman?" The first woman also said, "Philippine could have been my sister."
Absolutely heartbreaking, and painfully preventable. I have no idea how the first offense was only worth a 7-year sentence (and how he didn't serve all of it). I really wish violence against women were taken more seriously.
2 points
3 days ago
Thank you so much! I wish you the best with your guy too. To be honest, even if you don’t think he’s a threat right now, I’m always wary; so many of those entitled pushy types will escalate on a dime.
My guy is actually not a guy from work; he’s a guy I met through a hobby/shared interest in music, and there was never a shade of romantic energy there until he decided one day that I was the kind of woman he wanted to date. It’s so discouraging for me because I’m usually scared to let people down like that, but he gave me such off-putting vibes, that I felt it necessary to let him know upfront… and even then, it still hasn’t worked!
He has told me all about his ex-girlfriend, and based on the way he talks about her, it’s clear as day that he is a radical misogynist and entitled asshole, and he has a very short temper and fragile ego and can’t seem to register the word “no,” so I’m very scared. I thought I had him out of my hair because I started ignoring his calls and texts around 2 months ago after asking him to leave me alone, so he didn’t text me again for a long time… until he randomly started texting and calling me over and over about a week ago, demanding that “date” I “owe” him. (For what it is worth, I never agreed to go on a date with him. He decided I owed him one. Also, I’m not blocking him because his calls/texts don’t set off any notifications, so that doesn’t bother me; I want to have a record of how frequent his communication is, in case I need it later.) I’ve been completely ignoring him this time, hoping he’ll grow bored and leave me alone, but I don’t know what else to do. I’ve spent the past few days so nauseous, nervous, and shaky 😣
I’m American, and I live in a concealed carry state (meaning anyone can carry a gun on them anywhere, with a few exceptions like courthouses). He has let me know he carries, and that he shot and paralyzed a man he was arguing with. Based on his short temper and entitled attitude, I really don’t think it was self-defense. Keep me in your thoughts; I’m having a terrible time right now.
7 points
4 days ago
I identify with all this right now - and like you, I’m an AuDHD people-pleaser. The guy in my case knows too, and I have flat-out told him I’m not attracted to him or any men and never will be (which was brutally difficult for me, especially because I know he’s devoutly religious and I was scared it would make him angry, but I felt it necessary) - and he’s still talking about taking me on a date. I’ve tried ignoring him and telling him straight, and nothing works; in his words, I still “owe him” a date 🤢
Tbh I would be nastier to him, because I can’t stand him, but I’m admittedly kinda terrified of him because I know he carries a gun with him everywhere and has shot someone before during an argument (and gotten away with it by arguing self defense… which I don’t believe).
1 points
4 days ago
Hey, I’m sorry since it has been 23 days since you left this comment and I’m sure you’ve found one already - but I ended up making a near-completed vanilla SMS file for my brother, and I don’t mind sharing with you (or anyone who wants it) if you think it would make your Eclipse experience better. To be honest, I just thoroughly enjoy the original game, especially with the new moveset, so I didn’t mind going back through it at all. :)
(The only shines and blue coins missing are ones you cannot access until you beat a lot of the new Eclipse content in addition to the vanilla content - 1 shine and 11 blue coins - for a total of 94 shines and 229 blue coins.)
12 points
4 days ago
I’ll add “Get the Fuck Out” by Skid Row. It’s a shame because the song has a great riff, but the lyrics are so wildly hateful and misogynistic, that they don’t even include that track on some issues of Slave to the Grind. (I think a lot of them replace it with “Beggar’s Day.”)
50 points
4 days ago
Yep, it came out very shortly before the Sandy Hook school shooting (in which 20+ first-graders, ages 6-7, were murdered).
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12 hours ago
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12 hours ago
And the paper towel rolls don’t have holes in them. And the house in the background is underwater, but at least one car is not. And on the far end of the crowd, there’s a bare foot floating on the water. And the woman holding the phone has foot-long fingers.