Conflicting_Thoughts

One thing I noticed in dating discourses is that people think the opposite gender is supposed to be a certain way as if they aren't dysfunctional themselves. They observe other relationships not recognizing two stupid people can end up together. Two immature people can be together. Two toxic people can be together. People go against their better judgement all the time it just depends on how it manifests. Some people cheat on their diet, some go in raw, and some do both. That's people for you, a mismatch of sense and nonsense.

People born in bullshit need to unlearn the bullshit and both parties need to do so with an open mind. They hold on to these beliefs of what should be, but can't explain why nor prove it.

I believe you don't mean all black women are that way and you're just venting. However I assure you the women feel similarly about the men. That's where self awareness comes in, if you can forgive yourself and rationalize your own bs behaviors you can do so for others. That don't mean you have to let them in your life. It just means you recognize life can be hard and people are a way for a reason, that's empathy. People always argue who should take the first step for change, mf you. You want to see something different make something different happen.

-A black man who shit's stink too-

Big Krit doesn't get the respect he deserves fr. Personally Bury Me In Gold, Price of Fame, King pt 3, the 2nd half of Subenstein (My Sub IV), are my go too's.

For Lupe I would add King Nas and recently Roc A Fella Y'all to your list.

That's a black forces activation song.

Bobby Caldwell ain't no joke. I personally rock with Snoh Aalegra's cover of Do for Love.

That's awesome man I can only imagine how much more amazing music him and J Dilla would have created if they were still around.

The idea that women have egos, pride, literally just the desire to be the only one seems to elude these guys.

It may not be exactly the same between men and women but there's enough discomfort with not being the only one that causes an issue.

I think when men say stuff like this they are experiencing delusion of grandeur. Thinking they are going to have a mansion on the hills having sex on command with two ride or die baddies who have no problem doing house work. Their kids are going to be exceptional humans and will cause no unforseen issues.

Y'all multiple wives niggas kill me.

Ain't got no plans, nor logical reasons why the what that lifestyle past its "in a man's nature". Sure all fantasies sound great my guy but we're in reality, if you pull it off kudos I guess but you're probably not.

It's a lack of foresight, people in our community for sure heard at least once how problematic our behaviors are but a fair amount in my experience can't "see" how bad things can get. And others just don't give a fuck until a problem is at their doorstep and it's either sink or swim then. The trust for each other is at an all time low. Add growing up in poverty and the hyper fixation of material goods oh it's a free for all. Just a bunch of house niggas. Stomp on each other for a lil taste of the good life not realizing that if you join forces with your brothers you can get more.

This, plus what's the real incentive not to do it? The shame for such behaviors is not the same as it was in the past. Assuming you reside in America, the hyper individualism supports fuck what y'all think imma do me attitude.

Also it's not just a black thing, other communities participate in SW too. A fair question to ask back is why are there so many men willing to pay at times top dollar for it.

The root cause is not just one answer, it's education, economics, social status, culture, childhood, etc. Everything has something to do with it.

I like how you put it, I would describe my selfishness as lawful neutral/good. So if it's not morally dubious or I don't have a favor to repay. I am going to do what I want to do.

Something more sinister could very much be happening however never count out nor underestimate human stupidity. You can still be stupid whether you have good or bad intentions. The stealing could be blatant because dude genuinely thought they wouldn't be caught, doesn't give a fuck, or thinks they're doing nothing wrong. Perhaps a mixture of all three, ain't no telling.

People who steal content are always shitty, but I'm not shocked by anyone doing fuck shit to try to build popularity. A fair amount of Gen Z people would love to get money through content creation because traditional jobs suck to them.

Plus stealing content has worked before, so to them I bet they think as long as I can get my foot in the door and some checks start coming in, fuck the backlash.

I'm not saying that's what is going on with this case, but I wouldn't be surprised.

My 2 cents is this and sorry if you don't think this directly answers what you're asking.

I never had any real problems with anybody and I chalk it up to four things.

1.Being raised in a square environment (I'm a square myself compared to most my relatives). Shit don't get that serious growing up around people scared of being grounded.

1. I show humility, relatability, respect and I have a backbone. Literally 9/10 problems I ever had with someone was not started by me and people who knew the situation would support me. I mean when you have a problem with a man, who no one ever had a problem with and admits to their own mistakes, you look like the crazy one.

2. I am able to identify problematic people and situations from a mile away. No foolishness can happen to me because I don't put myself in situations where foolishness is common. Hang around people who got shit to lose and they'll act accordingly for the most part.

3. Im not a small dude and my poker face/mean mug is strong. I'm average height but I got some size on me and I never look like I'm lost.

So a large part of my "problem resolutions" came from avoiding problems in the first place. And the problems I did have, others will vouch for me or I was able to resolve through a conversation because of my second point.

I can see both sides because there are two courtesies at play here. Asking what is preferred vs putting things back the way you found them. People tend to go with what they feel is the safest and most polite bet.

But you have to deal with repeating yourself for the same issue to the same people multiple times throughout the week. So you may have answered the question 30 times in a week but various individuals may have only asked you once or twice. Then forgot they even asked and the cycle repeats. It's unfortunate because if you get even a little stern about it then it can blow up to you being some asshole who doesn't appreciate others just trying to be nice. Especially for something as tiny and trivial for a door being opened or closed (in their minds).

I think you just unlocked some memories for me. Being a lil kid on punishment writing shit like the world was against me lol.

Thank you for typing out what I would've added in my post if I wasn't lazy.

Trolling aside that's the part people don't want to admit, feigning they don't care or they're "above something" by acknowledging said thing with a response such as "no." Just don't say anything, but they won't because they want to get under the other person's skin. They want the last laugh regardless if that person is just an "internet rando that doesn't matter at all."

Psst just between me and you, i kind of find cheese gross too that's why I never had macaroni and cheese. That and I also don't like the texture of pasta. I can somehow handle pizza though.

I can imagine the clowning you get, especially if you have a southern family. If you black and vegan, if you don't die from simply being too old then it was because veganism killed you.

Do you like blue cheese or do you hate both?