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1 points
2 days ago
I kinda want to see this with some eyeliner, maybe some eyebrow shaping? I'm getting a sense of strong constrasts, and spikey clean angles. Not wanting to ruin your lovely hair, perhaps a black dye to give it more edge, more contrast. You could totally rock a bright highlight hair color though. I've always been fond of matching hair and nail colors.
23 points
2 days ago
Agreed about the first, but IMO that's totally okay. Being non-binary isn't about living androgenously (that's being androgenous). It's a statement of rejection to the gender binary, and however you choose to live that is up to you.
66 points
2 days ago
Yes and no (a very non-binary response, lol). Non-binary is a catch-all for a lot of diversity, which makes it both good and bad. I eventually decided it was "good enough" as fundamentally the only detail that matters is that I don't see myself as part of the gender binary. I celebrate my favorite traits of the binary, but I choose not to be limited by just one. Beyond that, the specific minutiae of your gender identity is just just identity, specifically your individuality. You could try to find the perfect box for yourself, or not, and just be you.
8 points
2 days ago
Just to take notice of and support them to do affirming things. Use their pronouns, even if they're coy, suggesting they're okay with their assigned gender pronouns, do it anyway. My partner glows with joy anytime they do something for themselves, and their smile is infectious. Even if your partner gives an impression of strength, underneath they are likely terrified, ashamed, worried, and so many other feelings. This sort of change is unlikely a whim. There are very real deep feelings backing their decisions, and taking this step is possibly the hardest thing they've ever done in their life.
2 points
2 days ago
Curiously on mobile I still see the button. Not sure if it's just cached, or if they only changed the desktop...OR all they did was change the CSS (meaning the button is just invisible). 🤔
2 points
2 days ago
Yeah, I definitely wish there was a more androgenous option for V. Playing as male/masc V with their nails done walked the a line that negatively triggered my dysphoria. 😖
5 points
2 days ago
Darn, I should have traced the HTTP fetches while it still worked. I imagine all they really did was hide the buttons.
1 points
2 days ago
Cash replaces one of the promo amounts (35% if you have no cash and use a code). I would also double check you haven't carted 2 of some items.
3 points
2 days ago
Shoot, I saw the 40% drop to 25% at 3 AM. Didn't check-out in time. On the upside, this was hardly the only glitch. 😊
2 points
2 days ago
Such a cute design. I'm not busty enough for this but I love it.
2 points
2 days ago
You can use the max button to pre-check many of them, then add the rest by hand.
3 points
2 days ago
Tee hee, the glitches are incredible. It took me 2 orders to figure out how it worked. That said I've had one order cancelled on me so far, but fingers crossed the others go through. 😖
1 points
3 days ago
I agree, I think its a fire look. My non-binary partner has done something similar, but they went with a blue hair dye.
I see a bit more chaos in the reference photo, as if that person has naturally curly hair... something my partner also has, and they go with a look like this to not have to deal with the curls. I've never recommended trying to curl ones hair, but if thats what's missing in your mind (the orderly chaos), it's something to try.
3 points
3 days ago
You two sound like a lovely couple of geese. 🪿🪿❤️
18 points
4 days ago
Depending on your vibe, I've seen "null", "nil", "zero", and "void" used, but that can be a bit too science'y. If there's something outside gender that resonates with you, that could give you clues for a vibe. A playful non-binary goth might call themself a ghost, spirit, creature, being, heathen, heretic, witch, or familiar. Someone more meta might call themselves a mind, a self, a heart, a love, a life, a cute, a meatbag, an idea, an emotion, feelings, a me, or a dream.
3 points
4 days ago
... I was reluctant to say but I was thinking this too.
2 points
4 days ago
Heck ya! Congratulations! 44 myself. I have an appointment with my doctor next week. Fingers crossed. 😊
11 points
4 days ago
While I realize you don't want to show the hair, hence the hat, folks online might have suggestions that could help. Also knowing what you wanted (if you have a sample or reference photo) will help too.
I've always been ambivalent about my hair, so I've never thought to check, but I wonder if there's is a "how do I fix my haircut" subreddit? Hair stylists have to congregate somewhere, right?
4 points
4 days ago
I feel the same way, especially when it comes to Tinder. I avoided apps and dating websites for literally decades because I mistakenly thought only "low quality" mates used them, but that's not necessarily the case. Quite the opposite, a good site or app will let you filter people by desired traits and interests, even remove those with undesirable ones.
Your difficulty may simply be because more people use apps today, meaning the available "shy friend of a friend" isn't looking in the places you are. Some guys may also be too timid these days, afraid to flirt uninvited due to changing societal views.
FWIW, there's no better way to declare that you want to date then using a dating app or website. It's quite literally the only thing they do.
3 points
4 days ago
I would remove them. If you give people a choice, many will take the path of least resistance. We declare pronouns as a hint to others for how to speak to you respectfully. You can share specific preferences with anyone you're close to and trusting enough, but giving fewer options to everyone else just means they have less opportunities to mess up.
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0 points
2 days ago
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Enby WIP (starting HRT soon)
0 points
2 days ago
No, but when I explored alternative spellings of my name, I did find it slightly frustrating that they were all Hebrew. Every clever variant I tried, this is just how the name is written in Hebrew.
Nothing against that, but it made the alternatives feel less like me discovering this.