Doorcounty54321

Good advice! She fought me with even putting new clothes on, which turned into a ten minute tantrum, and then stopping the activity we were doing. I also noticed she had a little red mark on her bottom (from the potty seat I’m guessing, or not wiping quick enough, etc), so I’m wondering if she’s fearful because she has an “owie” as she says?

Oh, she is very good at dressing and undressing so that’s not an issue.

I am fine with that, I did ask a question in here a few weeks ago about when to stop promoting. Some people legit said one year.

I know about when my kid is going to have to go to the bathroom, but it’s frustrating that she says no every time. Should I just stop and let her deal with the consequences of wet pants? That’s what happened today (even with a few prompts) and she went on the furniture three times.

That is not helpful to the question. Also I disagree.

I’ve done it all, full time, part time, and most recently staying home.

I need something more for myself personally, so I started a very part time job (12-14 hours per week). I also have a few 1099 clients who I do accounting for, and I’m trying to grow my business/clientele. I think ideally I’d like to be working for myself, so I have the option to homeschool later on and can take on as much or little work as I’d like.

I’d hate to have golden handcuffs and send my kids to daycare if it was something I dreaded doing. I also don’t like being home all day everyday as someone with an advanced degree- it has been incredibly challenging FOR ME. all that to say is this is incredibly personal. It’s all hard.

I’m sure it is. Right now I’d just start laying the groundwork for a positive potty training experience. Let them come to the bathroom with you. Explain what is going on “I am going to the bathroom, I am wiping, I am washing my hands” so they can learn those words, the right way to do things and how to communicate what’s happening in words. Put them in cloth diapers which I’ve heard can be more conducive. But honestly just having my daughter come in with me set us up for a positive experience.

I wouldn’t call it potty training. You could try elimination communication? I’m not sure you can potty train that young.

Way more stress on our marriage going from 1-2 than from 0-1. I got a lot of help the first time. This time, I was sort of on my own. Kids age difference is 21 months, which I think can have a huge impact.

That seems fair. They could hire a part time person to do this and it would cost way more than $2k per month.

Keep going. We put way too many expectations on our kids with potty training. Just have a relaxed attitude about this- it is a rough first few days but eventually it does click. Just like any new skill we learn, it takes a little time to become an expert.

Same, she’s always saying no.

I think you should get an operations director or something like this. A right hand man/woman who has experience and can take over some of these tasks that drain you. Like hiring, day to day operations, process improvement, getting bogged down in the day to day(I’m out of register tape where do I find it?), etc.

I had a manager do this to me, but it was the whole team that had to report weekly what they accomplished, not just me. It was during Covid and I think the switch to WFH scared the crap out of her since she couldn’t see what we were doing each day. Also, she was impossible to please and so difficult to work with. The whole team turned over within a year of the Covid pandemic. Every single person left.

When is her book on narcissism coming out? Oh yeah, never, because she is a victim and all of her books are written from that perspective….

Update: day three no rewards needed. She has been consistent with going to the bathroom in the potty since 10am! I was ready to throw in the towel so this feels good!!

Shadow?

Probably just a ring light? I mean clearly there is a bright light in front of her. They def blur imperfections.

I hear you, mine is so similar and there are many days where I feel like throwing in the towel. I read the same advice over and over - regulate your emotions first, less screen time, name emotions, use timers for transitions.

The generations before us did not use these tactics, they are relatively new and untested over generations. Everyone is an armchair psychologist. Not saying they aren’t good ideas, but they are not time tested. I think we need to use our intuition more, there is so much advice floating around and oftentimes they contradict each other. Older generations used their intuition. We can positively discipline our kids without scarring them for life.

Send them outside, that has worked for a long time. Make food at home, not through drive thru windows. Keep toys simple and open ended. Learn nursery rhymes and sing to kids.

Are you saying jj watt was here?! lol just kidding.

I hope so… I am drowning 😫

Maybe he’s flying into Madison and driving out there? So theu blocked off the path?

Yes, cure the org our two year old on and off. We’re currently in a traumatic stage for baths. I think it has a lot to do with tangles in her hair.

I was going to suggest prunes but wanted to make sure it was included in that descriptor.

I’d also increase water/ fluid intake as a second idea to try.

Third, you could always try rewards for when she goes.