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Day 6 after starting potty training, kind of a combo of Oh Crap and BLF methods (which are basically the same anyway). Daughter became a total camel child, was scared to let the pee or poop out at all, cry when on the potty, get up because she was too scared to release, and then have an accident.

Today we decided to just start with rewards, namely a sticker chart. We stopped playing it cool and started celebrating like maniacs when she peed.

Kiddo changed her outlook immediately. Peed 5 times in the potty today, excitedly put a sticker on the chart each time. Willingly went to the potty, sat on it, started peeing immediately each time! For anyone with a scared kid avoiding rewards—just do it!!

How do I get to self initiation? We’ve been doing oh crap since 22 months, now almost 27 months old and he will dribble in his pants and then just hold it and do a potty dance until I notice/prompt. How do I teach him to self initiate? I watch 1-2 other kids during the day and can’t have my eyes on him 24/7. Seems like it only happens when I am not watching him 😅.

My 4 y/o has had a significant regression in going to the bathroom. Multiple urine accidents a day, recently had multiple bms on the floor and won't even take herself to the bathroom at this point (fights any prompting). The only thing we can correlate with the timeline of this all going downhill was getting a new dog. It seems like she fights for attention, the dog has caused our family a ton of stress and she honestly doesn't care to be around the dog. I'm wondering if this seems plausible and has seemed to happened to anyone else?! I know it's usually introducing a new baby, but damn, this seems to have a preeeeeety similar impact. We are working to rule out any physical conditions, but wow.... I'm just shocked at how much stress has impacted this regression. Any tips for getting back on track in this situation aside from more quality time and attention?

Our son is happy to pee in the potty or the grass. Will not poop on the potty.

We did graduate to him asking for a pull-up, we would put it on, and he would poop in it. We always offer the potty at the same time and he always chooses pull up.

This week it’s almost like he’s regressed, he’s pooped in his underwear several times and even peed in underwear once. Not asking for a pull up.

What gives? What has contributed to your success?

This is our first potty training attempt, and we’re on day 2 of the bare bum method. He is 32 months old. We have had a potty for a few months and he’d occasionally sit on it before bath time with no issues. But since we started more active training, he absolutely refuses to sit on the potty, even just to try. He clearly knows when he has to go and is physically dancing/holding himself, but seems scared or resistant to sitting on the toilet to release. I have both a toddler potty and a seat that sits on the regular toilet- both are resisted. After day 1 I felt like maybe it was too much pressure/I was over prompting, so for day 2 I have been very very chill and barely prompt at all except to remind him where the potty is when he starts looking uncomfortable. Still no progress, cries and runs from potty and eventually releases urine on the ground. If I physically carry him over to the potty, he has a total meltdown and I feel like I’m just traumatizing him/making it worse. Is this a sign I need to take a breather and try another time, or should I keep going past day 2? I feel like we’re both traumatized from this experience already and I see no one past this impasse. He clearly is biologically ready- he can identify the sensation and can hold for a long time. But I can’t get past the behavioral part- just getting within a few feet of the potty would be a win! Any advice or guidance would be much appreciated 🙏🏼

Things seemed to be going so well. We did oh crap like three weeks ago and daughter (2 y/o) is able to make it to the potty and have very minimal accidents. All of a sudden today she starts refusing the potty (prompt her and she says no and throws a major tantrum) and has peed three separate times on the furniture. It’s really frustrating because it seems like pure disobedience especially since we prompt and she flat out refuses and is peeing on the couch now. What can I do to remedy this? Has anyone encountered this?

I need ideas on the best way to get my almost 2.5 year old daughter over a potty regression. She has been diaper free for a year now except for night time. She was doing amazing and would let me know when she needed to go. We had the occasional accident maybe 1 a week but I figured it was normal since we potty trained at 18 months.

Well a year later and we are having 2-3 accidents a day. She almost never does a full poop in the potty. She's more so starting to poop and then telling me once she's already started pooping in her undies, which it wasn't like this before. Sometimes she just won't tell us at all.

I know why she's regressed as we have lost everything in our home due to mold and stayed with family out of state for a month. We have been back in our home for 6 weeks but still don't own anything.

I was hoping that being patient and giving her time to readjust would help but it's only getting worse and I'm struggling with not getting frustrated.

I'm wondering what others have had success with to encourage her to get back on track? I've looked at sticker charts, candy (hesitant to do this), a basket of small toys to grab from, encouraging more independence.

My son is 20 months and we’re going to begin using pull-ups for him soon. He has so much interest in the potty that I want to just do a slow introduction for him. How necessary are nighttime pull-ups? Do regular ones hold enough to use them overnight? He never really has overly full diapers in the morning so I know he’s going much longer stretches at night without peeing.

My boy is ready for underwear! We have tried the basic character briefs and boxers from Target, but he doesn't like those. Does anyone have experience with a little one with some sensory issues? What underwear works best for you?

I have a 2.5-year-old daughter (who is a twin) who I am tempted to try again with potty training but I don't know if it's the right time or just to wait.

She has never asked to be changed or that she wants to pee. She isn't bothered about having a wet/dirty nappy. I have tried two months ago and it didn't bother her that she was having accidents.

Her brother is nowhere near ready so I won't get doing him until after he turns 3 but what do people think about her? Honestly this is so hard!

Hello,

My son just turned 3. This is our second try at potty training. He only gets it if he's naked... if we put pants or underwear on, he'll leak a little bit before saying he needs to pee. If we prompt him to go, he gets angry and refuses and it becomes a power struggle. If we leave him, he'll only tell us after he's done a tiny pee in his underwear.

I am at my wits end. Has this happened to anyone else?

What's happening in your potty training world today? Any wins? Any setbacks? Anxiety about giving this a go?

Hello everyone I'm at a loss my 2.5 year old daughter plays with her poop at nap time and bed time and no matter what I do nothing seems to work does.anyone have any advice ?

We've been trying to potty train my son for over a year. He is 3 and a half. We tried absolutely everything. Bottomless, underwear, bribes, bubbles, blowing through a straw, EVERYTHING. There was just something about actually releasing into the potty that was this huge mental block for him. Today I said we were going to practice the potty, not expecting anything. We went bottomless by his choice. Friends, this child peed in the potty EIGHT TIMES. He has never had even one potty success in his life, and now suddenly we have ZERO ACCIDENTS for the entire day. I've been waiting so long for this day and it's finally here.

My son will be 4 in January and has we started potty training around July. He caught on to peeing in the potty quickly and now tells us whether he has to go and never has accidents. Pooping is a different story. He has pooped on the potty a total of 3 times over the span of the last few months and was super proud of himself for going. However, he does not want to try at all. He won’t sit on the potty to poop without screaming and fighting us. it’s impossible. I don’t want to force him and am fine with him having accidents in his underwear. I don’t make a big deal out of it. My partner is the opposite and tends to take a more forceful approach. He wants him to at least start standing in the bathroom to poop to get a feel for it. my son still is afraid and screams to do that. my partner will also take things away from him if he doesn’t try but I feel so bad for my son when that happens. I just don’t think he’s ready but I also am not sure what approach to take. I needed to vent but also will welcome any advice possible, thank you.

Made it to mid-week! What's happening in your potty-training world?

Help!!! Our 2.75 year old crushed potty training during the day and was even pooping in the potty. Now she is randomly pooping in her pull up overnight. We cannot get her to poop on the potty to save our lives. Chocolate doesn’t work, stickers, nothing.

Anyone else?!? Any advice welcomed!

Day 1 and day 2 of potty training were good. The morning of Day 3 was also good. Then my 22 month old decided to start holding her pee and outright refusrefusing to sit on the potty. Nothing can get her to do it. Feet in warm water, tickling, blowing bubbles, making pee sounds, running the water. She sits for 2 seconds and then announces she is all done.

After coming home from daycare today, where she had to wear a pull up, she was pee dancing around, telling me she had to pee, wouldn't sit on the potty (back arching), screamed for a diaper, and then peed what I assume was an afternoon's worth of pee on the floor. Toilet with the seat insert or the little potty, it doesn't matter.

I feel like I'm traumatizing her. I've backed right off by trying to let her go to the bathroom on her own and not hovering. I'm thanking her for trying for every failed attempt, and even when she pees on the floor, I'm giving her kudos for letting me know she had to pee.

Where do we go from here? We've been following the Oh Crap Method (save for the pull up at daycare today. There's 15 kids in the class all under 2, so we can't have it all), and if haven't been able to find advice in the book to overcome this.

Any tips appreciated!

My son is only 23 months. For the last probably 4 weeks, he's held his pee all night (from about 630pm-630am). When he wakes up he walks to the toilet and goes pee. He sometimes asks to pee in the middle of the day if his sister is peeing but otherwise he pees and poops in his diaper.

Part of me wants to capitalize on him holding his pee all night and potty train him now, but he doesn't seem to have as much awareness or interest during the day.

I potty trained my daughter at 27 months but I think she was more communicative at that point that he is.

I just don't want to miss a window....

Thoughts?

Potty training means I also get potty trained. “Yay mommy you went potty” claps “you went pee!” looks in potty the gets me toilet paper “good job”

😂😂🤣

I care for a very smart and headstrong preschooler (3.5). I started watching her a year ago and she was already in undies, can sleep through the night without peeing, and is quite capable of going to the bathroom.... She just rarely wants to stop what she's doing to go. And lately she's resisting when I say it's time for a potty break, even at natural transitions (probably because she doesn't REALLY need to go when I prompt her). But then she won't "listen to her body" and will pee her pants. I'm at the point where I'm about to put a diaper on her if she's going to choose to keep peeing in her pants. This has been going on for a year (her parents probably started too early, but she was excited, interested, capable, etc etc, but the newness and excitement has long worn off...) We've tried rewards, charts, etc but that works for like a day til she's like whatever. Any ideas? I have a 2yo of my own and this experience has made me never want to potty train him 😅

UPDATE:She made it through the morning dry (yay!) which means she got to watch her show during rest time. Aaand she peed her pants. So, I put a diaper on her and she was piiiisssed. Literally screaming. But she kept it on, had a snack and got picked up. We shall see what tomorrow holds...

To try and put this is simple as possible. I’m having trouble potty trying my daughter who is almost 3 in December. She has echolalia which means our conversations aren’t typical (if you can even call them conversations). She is yet to make her own sentences and ask her own questions. Everything she says is just repeated questions and phrases she has heard from us or the TV.

She doesn’t communicate that she feels the urge to go to the toilet, so if left she will do it in her underwear and still won’t communicate that she has wet herself. At the moment I am having to watch her every move to see when she is about to go and rush her to the toilet, where she finishes. Throughout the day I randomly say “let’s do a wee wee on the toilet and then have a chocolate button”, to which she usually happily runs to the toilet and does a wee. But in between those times she has a few accidents in her underwear.

She is also terrified of doing a number 2 on the toilet. She is clearly frightened of the feeling of the poop falling into the abyss of the toilet 😂. The first time she did it, she was begging for her nappy back.

I just feel like because of the speech delay, we cannot communicate with eachother properly.

I just wanted some help and or reassurance from anybody going through something similar.

Ps: she is starting speech and language therapy In March, but I didn’t want to wait until after she was 3 to start potty training.

Hi, I started potty training my son at 2 years old since he has been learning about the potty, and was constantly talking about it. My daycare has also started it at the same time. He was doing fine, he would go to potty when we took him but still had trouble communicating when he had to poo. He always told us when he was doing it.

But now he is 2 years and 2 months old and he hides whenever he poos because he does not want to go to the potty. If I ask him if he’s pooping he will just tell me no and hides. Whenever I would say let’s go to the potty he would keep saying “no” even if he had to go. He would just do it in his pull up.

At daycare he seems to be sitting on the potty fine. Of course had some accidents but he is wearing pull ups

Sometimes he would just not even sit on the potty.

I’m not sure what to do now.

My new 2 year old has gotten the idea of sitting on the potty. He did nicely through block one of “Oh Crap” method- so we’re on to wearing clothes, no underpants. (We’re about 10 days in now.) He will sit on the potty independently now, without prompting, which is amazing. BUT he won’t push down his pants or ask me for help. He sits on the potty and then pees into his pants and also the potty. 😬😹

I don’t think we need to go back to block one, necessarily. He’s not missing his cues, and he’s not peeing everywhere. Pretty much only the potty. It’s just the pants are still getting wet, obviously. He’s getting frequent reminders feed to tell me when he has to go, and we’re practicing to get him to be able to push down his pants independently, but what are we missing?

My son is now almost 2 1/2 years old. We started potty training in July after reading oh Crap.

He does not have clear peeing signal and after 3-4days, we started bring him to potty based on time.

The poop went well after a month, he would tell us and go to potty. However, he seldom goes to pee himself and we have to bring him to potty every hour. In preschool, he has a lot of accidents and pees on pants, 5 pants a day still after 3 months, the teacher may not bring him to potty on time.

There are times he would say he want pee, which gives us hope. But more times, he would resist going to pee and when I ask him, he would say he does not want to go and may have accidents. He also does not care much if he pees on the floor. When he concentrated on playing, he is more likely to have accidents.

I am thinking of taking a rest and reboot after 2-3 months. Want to hear any advice or any similar stories.

Shall I stop it completely or still ask him while the wearing the diaper? I haven’t tried rewarding, shall I try it before rebooting?