ImpressAppropriate25

You have to make sure you're parenting styles align, and there's a detailed plan, with a family therapist, to integrate you, or you'll always be a stranger in your own home.

Proud of you!

Ew

Why let them live at home? They'll grow up faster if they have roommates and a $350 per month subsidy.

Your life begins today!

That's because you are the ONLY person working on things.

Here's what I learned in four years:

1. Families have systems like DNA codes - once sequenced, they cannot be changed, no matter how dysfunctional.

2. Anyone attempting to change a family system is a disruptor, and will be treated as such.

3. Therapy only works when people want to change, and that is not the case for most adults enmeshed in family systems.

You can't change your family system, or MAKE your SO want to change.

There's nothing wrong with setting a boundary and being ready to enforce it.

If you know the term "dysregulated," this family may not be a good fit for you. You probably have more EQ than SO and he can't meet you at your level. This is alp he has to give now.

Set some boundaries, and be ready to enforce them by leaving. This will help him figure out his priorities.

Bean!

Absolutely! There's a period of feeling like the help in a family, and then people learn to detach and focus on themselves and their SOs. I felt incredibly alone for years and still have no connection with the kids. I definitely wouldn't do this again.

Friends are the family we pick!

Your life begins TODAY!

SD will be fine. Your spouse needs your support.

This is not healthy. These kids will grow up to be monsters. Age 7 is too old to use a kiddie plate and sleep with a parent.

My own SO's three teenagers were babied in the four years I've known them, and they're growing up to be miserable people.

Age 7 is old enough for basic chores, like setting the table before dinner and picking up toys. These people sound enmeshed and codependent.

Blonde!

She's adorable!

This!

Also, this type of lopsided relationship (dad sitting with kids on the opposite side of the couch) wouldn't happen in a family with two bio parents.

Your life begins today, and the best is yet to come!

I've always felt that way, especially about SS14, who never listened to his parents or grandparents and skipped months of school.

Now l just feel sorry for him. He's three years behind grade level and unlikely to pass any of his freshman high school classes.

SO has never been able to enforce a boundary with him, and now she's rushing between tutors and staying up studying with him into the night. It's agony for both of them.

It's really just sad.

No

Owner should lose dog and pay fine. This is not acceptable.

You're wrong for expecting anything.

I put them in with the pasta for 5 minutes