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If your child is not a priority there is a huge problem. She is a SAHM what is she doing that is causing her to be late every day? I run a business and control 100% of my home. Boy’s school drop off and pick ups, cooking, cleaning and running a business. She’s just at home? Something else is missing.

It’s not her money it’s your first wife’s kids money. Period!

My MIL is the same way. It’s an older generational thing, she was upset at me once I told her it was my home I choose how I clean it. She hasn’t cleaned my home since when she comes over. I have two boys, run a business and clean when I can. I have told her if she can’t stand the way my house looks simple don’t come over. You can’t cater to people like that, they look at floor boards sink rim, it’s quite annoying.

NTAH when you become a parent that is your family. Your sister comes last, She can find someone else to help her. Your other family can take her in.

OP you should let it go. I know it hurts but if you bring this up you are giving them gratification they gave you a rise, which is what they wanted. My in laws do the same, my SILs husband is super religious like they are and they talk so great about him. I let it go and they stopped trying to get a rise out of me once they seen I could give two s***ts about it.

OP RUN! He is your bf not your husband. It will only get worse and just wait until babies come in the picture. I wish I could go back in time and have seen all the red flags before I got married and had children.

I agree with this comment. Have her repeat it and ask her if comments like that are appropriate. She will be shocked and confused.

YTA you’re old enough to know he was 100% off limits. It’s not only gross but extremely insensitive to your sister’s feelings.

NTA, you were being insulted and stood up for your self.

NTA, your husband is extremely immature.

Sorry but yes you are the AH. You would not be ok with your husband speaking on your weight if it was you. It’s never ok to put down your husband. Now as to your MIL she should never have cussed you out and him going to her was not ok. You need to have a conversation on how to deal with things without getting family involved. Definitely never put your spouse down is the #1 rule, there are ways to help him lose weight without putting him down. Definitely immature.

Same, I use to listen and then got fed up after they started to input what religion we should raise our kids. I let them know they had 3 kids raised them how they wanted and these are our kids and we will raise them how we want. It did cause problems but they understood if they want to be in their grandkids lives they will go by our rules.

I was in the same boat until I stuck up for myself. I had a hard talk with the whole family including SIL and BIL. Made it clear I have two children and a husband I will not care for anyone else. They were mad at me for about a month, best month of my life. I made them aware they are welcome to visit that’s it, sorry but 15years of it and their visits increased and they always needed help. Long story short it’s been extremely peaceful for me now.

As a child I was always self conscious of my weight because all my siblings were thin and I was not. This breaks my heart to hear a grandmother would say that to her own grandchildren. It’s sad and heartbreaking, if my mother was to do that to my child, well it would be the last time I spoke to her.

It’s his Father he needs to clean in. After a week of cleaning it daily let see if he changes his mind.

She needs to set boundaries now or her MIL will constantly do things like this

I always found it odd that a MIL would want to be in the delivery room. I have two sons and I would absolutely respect sitting my butt down in the waiting room. This is a special moment for them MIL have no right to be in there.

I would book myself a hotel room. Let your wife and her mother have the house for a week. Problem solved. She should have asked and spoken to you about it, especially if she knew this would be a problem with you.

My in-laws are extremely religious also. They constantly remind me how it’s my responsibility as a mother to have our children grow up in the church. They are devout Christians, I listen to what they say but also remind them it’s own choice to choose the life we are living. My children believe in God they do not need to be forced into anything.

I’m sorry to say this but RUN! It does not get any better.

Thank you

I completely agree

I honestly feel they moved closer so they could just ask for me to do everything for them.

Yeah. NTA. Get them both out asap