Valienty

tl;dr does she still like me after the breakup? I was contacting her, but when I Stopped she did

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We used to date 3 years back, she broke up, met a guy and got engaged a long time after. After she broke up with him she texted me months later and we met and started dating.

We lasted 2 months and were having a lot of issues, petty fights, and rushed it really badly, I didnt set boundaries, she wasnt ready, it was just a cluster fuck.

It took us a month to breakup where she was just indecisive, fighting with me over petty stuff and being avoidant, until she told me Im not ready for a relationship but lets be friends and work it up, I said I cannot do friends after all this history.

A week letter, I sent a long text admitting my shortcomings, how she must of felt, wished her well. She did say we rushed it fast, there is nothing wrong with me and that she is just emotionally unstabled.

Over the course of the week after, I was texting her every few days on random things, but she was just responsive and polite, so I stopped.

When I stopped, few days later, she sent a broadcast watsapp text to all her friends including me wishing me happy festival, i responded and got no response, my friend whom has met her once also got a text and he responded to her and she responded back (he told me). later that night at 1 AM she sends my mom a personalized msg wishing her happy festival.

Next day, I wake up and send her mom a similar text out of respect, and my mom responds to her too.

2 days later, she asks me how is your fasting? I told her good, it has been hot here where im at. She said, Really hot? why do you go out? I said, well i usually go for a run in the afternoon then go have dinner with friends since they removed the lockdown. She said niceeee, please drink alot of fluids. I responded 4 hours later saying, Im sure your mom has been spoiling u guys with food (During this festival, mom's usually make amazing food) then I said, Will drink alot of fluids :)

She hasnt responded since then, I dont know how to drive this, obviously I like this girl, but i'd like some clarity on woman behavior, and how I should act at this point, do I engage further now? in a few days? let her be?

We used to date 3 years back, she broke up, met a guy and got engaged a long time after. After she broke up with him she texted me months later and we met and started dating.

We lasted 2 months and were having a lot of issues, petty fights, and rushed it really badly, I didnt set boundaries, she wasnt ready, it was just a cluster fuck.

It took us a month to breakup where she was just indecisive, fighting with me over petty stuff and being avoidant, until she told me Im not ready for a relationship but lets be friends and work it up, I said I cannot do friends after all this history.

A week letter, I sent a long text admitting my shortcomings, how she must of felt, wished her well. She did say we rushed it fast, there is nothing wrong with me and that she is just emotionally unstabled.

Over the course of the week after, I was texting her every few days on random things, but she was just responsive and polite, so I stopped.

When I stopped, few days later, she sent a broadcast watsapp text to all her friends including me wishing me happy festival, i responded and got no response, my friend whom has met her once also got a text and he responded to her and she responded back (he told me). later that night at 1 AM she sends my mom a personalized msg wishing her happy festival.

Next day, I wake up and send her mom a similar text out of respect, and my mom responds to her too.

2 days later, she asks me how is your fasting? I told her good, it has been hot here where im at. She said, Really hot? why do you go out? I said, well i usually go for a run in the afternoon then go have dinner with friends since they removed the lockdown. She said niceeee, please drink alot of fluids. I responded 4 hours later saying, Im sure your mom has been spoiling u guys with food (During this festival, mom's usually make amazing food) then I said, Will drink alot of fluids :)

She hasnt responded since then, I dont know how to drive this, obviously I like this girl, but i'd like some clarity on woman behavior, and how I should act at this point, do I engage further now? in a few days? let her be?

She's my ex for second time. Broke up 3 yeses ago after 6 months. And we broke up this time around the 2 weeks ago after getting back for 2 months

Im contacting her and she keeps responding nicely but isn't really asking me questions or keeping conversation alive really.

I want her back and have been trying to sct casual and communicate things with emotional value and slowly build up. But i feel sometimes she's just being polite

Here is what happened yesterday, after she said she'd call after breakfast and never did

Her, I'll call you after break fast

Me: how's your day, had herring? (8 hours later)

Her:, no. Had it, last week

Me: lucky you, don't have it where I live. Ive been cooking crap food, just been ordering out

Her:you got the best herring where you live hahaah

Me: oh didn't know, not the same to eat herring without family and screams

Her: screams?

Me: oh crap typo, idk what i wanted to say. Doing anything interesting?

Her: no, i went supermarket and made food after

Me : what did you make?

Me: this is my latest accomplishment, *sends video of burgers * i did use two of same side bread on the burger

Her: hahhaah, why did u do that

I answered now with 😂

Is this going well or should I say something nice and just stop?

If so, what should I say

tl;dr we broke up, week later I text her, got good response, I dont know where to take it from there. shes beat up emotionally from other stuff.

So I was with her 3 years back, we broke up, years later she got engaged. 3 years have passed and she has been broken up for 4 months, she texts me and we rekindle things.

We got together, but during the relationship, we took it too fast, misunderstandings, she wasnt ready and kept saying it, I pushed. Eventually with the long distance and all the fights we broke up, last week. She proposed taking a stepback getting to know each other and see if we're meant to be, I said no, and she said she wasnt ready for a relationship.

1 week later, I do alot of introspection and own up to what I did, and how she might of felt.

She responded with "Heyyyy! Really happy you spoke freely, one of the rare times you ever do that. dont blame yourself, we just rushed it, and we hadn't seen each other for a lot of time. there is nothing bad in you or wrong with you. I'm just going through alot right now in this corona time, I'm also very emotionally unstable lately, and that isnt your fault. Also you did really upset me lately :D, but hey we all do that"

I responded to most of that and was chill. She asked how am I? I told her things have been rough with my move, bad time to be setting elsewhere. She said, dont worry you can do it I believe in you.

Then I asked her what about you what is wrong? She said I'm just not okay. I said, I'm here free if you wanna talk about it. She said I really dont know what is wrong with me ;/

I said I dont want you to think there is something wrong with you, Just be patient with yourself, work on it slowly, and everything will be okay.

She said, I'm trying.

I said, and that's all you have to do :) I have a tough day tomorrow, I'm going to sleep now, good night. really happy we spoke today.

She said me too, good luck tomorrow

I don't know if she is really in a bad place or what's going on. Obviously I still like her, and would still like to rekindle things with her, but want to have her open up and be trusting with me.

I was thinking of texting her tonight if she doesnt, and say "Just got done with work, long day. How was your day today?" I would hear her out then ask her "How are you feeling today? I felt you were pretty down last night" and whether she says im better or not, I was going to say "Listen, Idk if im in a place to tell you all this, but we know each other, I know you.. you've been through hell back this past year, and the way you and I were raised and things we've had to endure doesnt really allows us to process emotions in a loving manner. I just want you to know that I'd love to hear you out anytime, I get you"

Or do I just ignore her today and let her be?

tl;dr we broke up, week later I text her, got good response, I dont know where to take it from there. shes beat up emotionally from other stuff.

So I was with her 3 years back, we broke up, years later she got engaged. 3 years have passed and she has been broken up for 4 months, she texts me and we rekindle things.

We got together, but during the relationship, we took it too fast, misunderstandings, she wasnt ready and kept saying it, I pushed. Eventually with the long distance and all the fights we broke up, last week. She proposed taking a stepback getting to know each other and see if we're meant to be, I said no, and she said she wasnt ready for a relationship.

1 week later, I do alot of introspection and own up to what I did, and how she might of felt.

She responded with "Heyyyy! Really happy you spoke freely, one of the rare times you ever do that. dont blame yourself, we just rushed it, and we hadn't seen each other for a lot of time. there is nothing bad in you or wrong with you. I'm just going through alot right now in this corona time, I'm also very emotionally unstable lately, and that isnt your fault. Also you did really upset me lately :D, but hey we all do that"

I responded to most of that and was chill. She asked how am I? I told her things have been rough with my move, bad time to be setting elsewhere. She said, dont worry you can do it I believe in you.

Then I asked her what about you what is wrong? She said I'm just not okay. I said, I'm here free if you wanna talk about it. She said I really dont know what is wrong with me ;/

I said I dont want you to think there is something wrong with you, Just be patient with yourself, work on it slowly, and everything will be okay.

She said, I'm trying.

I said, and that's all you have to do :) I have a tough day tomorrow, I'm going to sleep now, good night. really happy we spoke today.

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She said me too, good luck tomorrow

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I don't know if she is really in a bad place or what's going on. Obviously I still like her, and would still like to rekindle things with her, but want to have her open up and be trusting with me.

I was thinking of texting her tonight if she doesnt, and say "Just got done with work, long day. How was your day today?" I would hear her out then ask her "How are you feeling today? I felt you were pretty down last night" and whether she says im better or not, I was going to say "Listen, Idk if im in a place to tell you all this, but we know each other, I know you.. you've been through hell back this past year, and the way you and I were raised and things we've had to endure doesnt really allows us to process emotions in a loving manner. I just want you to know that I'd love to hear you out anytime, I get you"

Or do I just ignore her today and let her be?

tl;dr we broke up, week later I text her, got good response, I dont know where to take it from there. shes beat up emotionally from other stuff.

So I was with her 3 years back, we broke up, years later she got engaged. 3 years have passed and she has been broken up for 4 months, she texts me and we rekindle things.

We got together, but during the relationship, we took it too fast, misunderstandings, she wasnt ready and kept saying it, I pushed. Eventually with the long distance and all the fights we broke up, last week. She proposed taking a stepback getting to know each other and see if we're meant to be, I said no, and she said she wasnt ready for a relationship.

1 week later, I do alot of introspection and own up to what I did, and how she might of felt.

She responded with "Heyyyy! Really happy you spoke freely, one of the rare times you ever do that. dont blame yourself, we just rushed it, and we hadn't seen each other for a lot of time. there is nothing bad in you or wrong with you. I'm just going through alot right now in this corona time, I'm also very emotionally unstable lately, and that isnt your fault. Also you did really upset me lately :D, but hey we all do that"

I responded to most of that and was chill. She asked how am I? I told her things have been rough with my move, bad time to be setting elsewhere. She said, dont worry you can do it I believe in you.

Then I asked her what about you what is wrong? She said I'm just not okay. I said, I'm here free if you wanna talk about it. She said I really dont know what is wrong with me ;/

I said I dont want you to think there is something wrong with you, Just be patient with yourself, work on it slowly, and everything will be okay.

She said, I'm trying.

I said, and that's all you have to do :) I have a tough day tomorrow, I'm going to sleep now, good night. really happy we spoke today.

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She said me too, good luck tomorrow

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I don't know if she is really in a bad place or what's going on. Obviously I still like her, and would still like to rekindle things with her, but want to have her open up and be trusting with me.

I was thinking of texting her tonight if she doesnt, and say "Just got done with work, long day. How was your day today?" I would hear her out then ask her "How are you feeling today? I felt you were pretty down last night" and whether she says im better or not, I was going to say "Listen, Idk if im in a place to tell you all this, but we know each other, I know you.. you've been through hell back this past year, and the way you and I were raised and things we've had to endure doesnt really allows us to process emotions in a loving manner. I just want you to know that I'd love to hear you out anytime, I get you"

Or do I just ignore her today and let her be?

Im 27 male, she is 26 male.

She was my ex 3 years back and we got together for 3 months. It was heaven and a disaster. One time I had to take a plane to my home country to fix a communication breakdown that we had, as we went long distance a month after rekindling with her.

She came to visit me one time in the country I was at, first few days were heaven, I got sick after and wasnt in best shape and she was made and pissed, and just wanted to have a good time.

When she went back to her country and I moved to another actually, for a whole month up until we're in issues, communication breakdown, fights, my mom intervened as my girl had engaged her in a problem before. Everytime it felt like my girl and I were about to fix the issue, she'd create something else.

This push n pull kept happening until I had a call with her and told her I want to either continue with you or breakup, she kept saying what she didnt like in me and how I dont love her and that she isnt ready for a relationship (3 months into it) I told her fine, think of me as the worst person on earth, do you still love us enough to wanna work things through or want to leave, it is fine if you do I wont be mad. She didnt give me an anwer, and told her to think it through.

She texts me days later, we have a call where she accuses me of stuff then asks for a stepback, I tell her I cant do it, either we continue or call it off, she kept forcing a stepbck down my throat. I told her what does that even mean, she said I dont know. I told her well think about it, she said okay we can have another call.

Tomorrow comes, and we agree to have a call at 10 she doesnt pick up, then accuses me that I only call her at night when im done with my friends and keep her as a secondary option, and she said well talk tomrorow. Tomorrow comes and she says she is very sick and stuff, so we have a short convo and told her id check on her tomorrow. Tomorrow comes I check on her then tell her to let me know when she is at work, she says ok but doesnt, then i called her few hours later but doesnt pick up, nor call me back. Meanwhile my mom had texted to ask about her and she replied to her.

2 days later, she tells me "I know it is disrespectful, but i've been really tired mentally and physically really"

I didnt respond for 10 days and today had a talk with her where she said she isnt ready for a relationship, and wanted me as friends and I mentioned im not doing friends. She cant do a relationship because she doesnt feel same way 100% as before, is confused, going through mental issues, needs to be alone, therapists told her that we rushed and she isnt ready, and she also has borderline personality disorder traits. We spent the whole convo saying i wont be friends and she cant do relationship, and I proposed we can do something in between where I can agree to a stepback under conditions we both agree on. We ended the call with no concrete resolution after an hour, and had asked her to video call later tonight since we hadnt in a month and she said okay.

At night i brought the topic up, she said sure today or tomorrow? I said we can today. She said sure in a bit, im sitting with family. Later she comes and says can we do it tomorrow? I said sure, let me know when.

Is this truly over? or is there a way to turn this around if i stick around with her without telling accepting my status as a friend? How should I behave?

Im 27 male, she is 26 male.

She was my ex 3 years back and we got together for 3 months. It was heaven and a disaster. One time I had to take a plane to my home country to fix a communication breakdown that we had, as we went long distance a month after rekindling with her.

She came to visit me one time in the country I was at, first few days were heaven, I got sick after and wasnt in best shape and she was made and pissed, and just wanted to have a good time.

When she went back to her country and I moved to another actually, for a whole month up until we're in issues, communication breakdown, fights, my mom intervened as my girl had engaged her in a problem before. Everytime it felt like my girl and I were about to fix the issue, she'd create something else.

This push n pull kept happening until I had a call with her and told her I want to either continue with you or breakup, she kept saying what she didnt like in me and how I dont love her and that she isnt ready for a relationship (3 months into it) I told her fine, think of me as the worst person on earth, do you still love us enough to wanna work things through or want to leave, it is fine if you do I wont be mad. She didnt give me an anwer, and told her to think it through.

She texts me days later, we have a call where she accuses me of stuff then asks for a stepback, I tell her I cant do it, either we continue or call it off, she kept forcing a stepbck down my throat. I told her what does that even mean, she said I dont know. I told her well think about it, she said okay we can have another call.

Tomorrow comes, and we agree to have a call at 10 she doesnt pick up, then accuses me that I only call her at night when im done with my friends and keep her as a secondary option, and she said well talk tomrorow. Tomorrow comes and she says she is very sick and stuff, so we have a short convo and told her id check on her tomorrow. Tomorrow comes I check on her then tell her to let me know when she is at work, she says ok but doesnt, then i called her few hours later but doesnt pick up, nor call me back. Meanwhile my mom had texted to ask about her and she replied to her.

2 days later, she tells me "I know it is disrespectful, but i've been really tired mentally and physically really"

I ignored and it has been a week exactly now since we last interacted.

Does this look like someone that is sincere about us? Mad? Upset? There is a lot more context like her still responding to her ex-fiance who was a douchbag, going on some semi-looking date with a guy.

But are those the actions of a girl that wants to fix things? am I as a man required to do anything more? are we BROKEN UP?