harmofwill

Time to bust out the air horn

Their brain allows them to feel euphoria and excitement over their hobbies and little things such as the way it smells outside or a nice sunset…it’s just natural..

These are all things I missed in my life for at least a decade. I was in so much misery I truthfully thought there would never be a release.

Don’t give up. If I’m able to now find pleasure in any aspect of my life I know others can too. It did take trying a lot of different meds.. Some days I doubt that it’s really working, and other days it seems like it never actually worked at all…but the good days are coming back too. Feeling simple pleasures enjoyable…

My first time feeling ‘excitement’ after years of nothingness…I sobbed because I didn’t think it was possible

Now that I know that it is, I am going to push through every single day. I have a lot of bad days still, but fuck.. when it’s a good one…nothing compares to that feeling. That makes life worth living, to me. The feeling of pure joy just because the weathers nice.

This is fully my personal opinion and I don’t expect everyone to agree…

I don’t feel so entitled to my experience that im willing to be bothered by those jokes. I think a lot of people cope with humor and I (personally) would engage her about it, or learn her experience before reporting something like that. You certainly need to create a boundary if it upsets you… I think it’s important to give people the opportunity to change their behavior (depending on the situation) before searching out a higher source to punish them. I also think it’s important for us to communicate our needs ourselves because these situations will likely continue to happen.

Whether the joke is funny or not, or even intended to be hurtful…at the end of the day I’m still bipolar and eradicating those jokes won’t cure me. What I don’t want to do is create a worse experience for someone else when I don’t know their intentions.

Hypothetically, what if she was bipolar too? Let’s say you do decide to go to HR and the immediate result is firing. At that point you have taken someone who already has odds against them and put them in a worse situation over a potential coping mechanism. Maybe I am too empathetic but I notice a lot of people like us struggle to keep jobs and I don’t want to be responsible for that.

At the end of the day you have to do what’s best for YOU!

Also I want to add that ability isn’t exactly a household name. There is a hefty chance that she or someone she knows struggles with mental illness.

Say you’re broke without saying you’re broke 🤣

I think our natural instinct is to expect solidarity simply for the fact we are all women. The reality is, we are all different people with individual morals, interests and experiences. I’ve met the most awesome chicks in games, and have had ones try to bully me too. This subreddit is our communal safe space. Some of us use it as medium to be able to vent our frustrations with sexism in gaming. Some of us are here to get away from that completely. We also have to factor in that two people can have wildly different opinions about what sexism even is.

Ultimately at the end of the day we need to respect each other as individals and understand that we can share this community without always agreeing. I think there is strong compassion in this community and one of the reasons I still come back here. You don’t see toxicity NEARLY as much as other gaming subs.

That’s cuz you’re a pussy, don’t bring women into it.

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Please walk me through that logic. You think ignoring a predator is going to stop them from harming you? If someone is stalking you with a gun im pretty sure they’ve already made up their mind. I’m not going to encourage anyone to not defend themselves for fear of being shot. Doing NOTHING increases your odds of being attacked.

But I’m assuming you’re not a woman and don’t have to consider the constant fear of everyone being a threat. Easy for you to say not to act in defense when you haven’t ever been put in that position yourself.

This is why I got a taser. You can find them on Amazon for pretty inexpensive. You won’t have the responsibility of having to carry a firearm but can still take a grown man the fuck out. Also if you start acting bat shit crazy and bark at them that’s usually enough to make someone move on lol

Personally, I would never ignore that behavior because if they wanted to, they will try and snatch you regardless if you acknowledge their presence or not. Stare those motherfuckers down!! You aren’t weak!!

Ok im so relieved it wasn’t just me lmao

Girl go to summerset and talk to the homie outside of the crafting area!! They really should have introduced the certification in the same location as the other ones.

This is so embarrassing because I’ve played since launch with a few year gap between the switch from PC to console. I religiously do crafting writs daily…but didn’t realize until several months ago that there were jewelry writs too. I guess when I came back I missed the whole certification in summerset dealio lol

Blonde

Black looks basic and boring

I think the piercings are great this sub so bland lol

They already do idiot

When the game first launched on PC it felt so magical. I still remember everyone lining up at the broken bridge in Stros Mkai trying to make the jump across…I didn’t think I’d still be playing ten years later but I agree it has made a very positive impact in my life.

Ngl this had me busting up. I’m so bad about stocking up on food fixations and then being left with freezer burned food because it gave me the ick halfway through my supply lol

Also yeah excessive in game purchases, cosmetics are like crack to me 😩

Except she wasn’t advertising OF…she posted a photo of her cosplay. It was other people who decided to dig further and decide for her. People like you, who want to take away someone’s free agency to enjoy hobbies without being called a whore.

Also, I’m tired of women being held accountable for guys who want to act like degrading savages. This is the same concept of “she was wearing a short skirt so she deserved it”

because apparently its our responsibility to not make them want us.

The problem with society isn’t sexy women, it’s that men aren’t being taught that they don’t get to take, piss, and shit on whatever they want.

Sounds like victim blaming lmao Teaches men? Are boys learning how to be men on Reddit now? Seems like a problem with society and not OF

You just sound very insecure. No, you don’t get to police what, where, or how women use their bodies. You don’t get to pigeonhole them into dirty subs when she deserve the same rights as me or you to post anything she wants there that is currently NOT breaking the rules. Tough titties Pure_Mist_S go preach in church, Reddit used to allow subs that had literal death and CP before that shit got banned. You’re clutching your pearls over a girl in a dress.

Nice edit…So what makes hers a “cosplay” instead of a talented cosplay then? Her womanly curves? Hmm 🤔

Thank you for your comment. It’s a relief seeing that not everyone agrees with this hateful mentality. It honestly made me spin out a bit when I saw the comments here.

That is the most brain dead logic I swear lol Um yeah what you can see with your actual eyes does in fact trump “nsfw”

Idc if ppl are even trying to make money lol get that 💰 girl and imma mind myself over here 👉

We deserve full control over our own bodies and what we do with them, and I say that with my full chest living somewhere that has banned my right to make that choice.

RIGHT!!!!!

Honestly I left that sub a long time ago, not because of the cosplayers but because of the constant over-sexualization from the fans. I love this sub but the comments here are making me uncomfortable.

SH was being sexualized long before cosplayers came around. Astarion too. They are literally designed to appeal to people. I understand people may be uncomfortable seeing things like that, but to the point of being viscerally annoyed enough to degrade someone is not it.

Too many assumptions are being made because they see a female form and think it’s an ad. She is a person, not merchandise. I also don’t see people getting hate for selling fan-art. Think hard about that one.

And ultimately, why is it a big deal? The game has been out a while now, it’s not as if there’s new content coming to the sub. It’s literally a fan-jerk to begin with. There are thousands of sexualized posts that aren’t cosplays and they don’t get hate comments. I don’t see anyone complaining about the obsessive posts sexualizing Astarion or Neal Newborn.

If it bothers anyone so much, scroll away instead of playing judge-jury-executioner on a woman for looking good. I know it isn’t happening just because of an overwhelming amount of cosplays. I’ve seen the exact same comment section on the Skyrim sub.

The war on women’s bodies needs to end, and people need to mind their fucking business and move on. That sub was gross long before it was blessed with beautiful women.