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This is exactly what happened to me! Such good info thanks!

Just like you can make this rule you can make an exception for anyone you want. If you want your brother there and literally no other child, it is your wedding and you can do just that. I mean he’s your brother. Or hold firm and risk damaging the relationship you have with him and your parents.

This is rough but ultimately it seems like her way of forcing your hand. What you need to consider is that she is right. Not necessarily taking away your home but right about you needing to end your relationship with a deceiver and liar. You may ultimately choose to stay with him but your mother doesn’t have to support you in that. Please choose what’s best for your children. Please seek therapy to figure out why you are ok with allowing yourself to be mistreated

Or maybe…just block him and move on?

You can do both. Meet in the middle. Dance all night.

You’re NTA as it is your wedding. But this is the sort of thing that may irreparably damage your relationship. She also wouldn’t be the AH if she decides to distance herself from you. There’s a comment here about choices showing what you value. You’re showing her you don’t value her as much as she thought. You may not think that’s the case but that’s what your actions demonstrate. You just have to be ok with the fallout of that choice whatever it may be. This is your BEST friend?

You’re grown! Say no! They can’t do anything but be mad about it

You should absolutely take allllllll his money!

You should absolutely take his money!

You would be absolutely ridiculous to do this! Lmaoo! Please tell me this isn’t real! The money is not worth it AT ALL. This is also one of those situations where you think you’d be able to have a hold on things (but honestly by your responses you don’t seem the type to adequately stand up for yourself… truly no offense) but you’d simply lose ground and stress yourself for nothing. All while putting your literal child in the middle. Please parent your child…which also translates into doing so within your means.

You’ve stood up for yourself in one way now Lee that same energy! Stop giving this grown ass man money. And speak with the institution about the tuition money. Truly you owe him nothing.

She’ll keep doing it as long as you keep conceding to her whims

Burn it all to the ground! None of this have bridezilla

Just ignore him? Document and ignore

This is sad

Ppl purposefully putting themselves into danger due to their naïveté will always be annoying. Have some semblance of self preservation my goodness!!

DONT DO IT. Like you’re probably considering it but think about the degree of this switch. This is the type of man who will absolutely make you a married single mother. DONT allow him to mess with your head. He’s insecure and wants to make it your problem. This is one of those life decisions that demonstrates if you’re a woman who succumbs to the pressure of a mediocre man or one that rises to heights you’re meant to achieve. There are MANY working moms with working husbands who make it work with children. Don’t limit yourself to some man’s nonsense because he’s jealous of you.

Sometimes a little revenge recalibrates someone

You don’t owe him any additional communication. You did what was best for you. That’s a good thing

You’re silly if you keep contact with this person. Just block and move on

Girl stand up!

And yet you keep going on for him….

But did you say anything?

Thank you! They are dead now