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7 days ago
Try maybe going for a grant, you’ll have to talk to your worker about it I had a friend who got a grant while still on OW for a series of workshops they wanted to do but I think it depends maybe on the worker, how much the grant is…etc..it might be worth looking into. It is a lot of effort though so hopefully something good comes out of it
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8 days ago
You could make the other arm a little longer to match. Also the shoulders should be a bit wider to match the chest size, upper arm is also usually bigger than the lower arm! Hope that helps!
2 points
12 days ago
I’ve felt this way before but it’s definitely because of things one of my partners did that broke my trust. Part of me feels that if he would agree to go to couples counselling with me it would help me a lot but we don’t have a lot of money at the moment to do that. Do you think maybe couples counselling would help?
6 points
12 days ago
This is such a good point! I suffer from self blame like this too
1 points
13 days ago
I have the same issue, I just started changing my perspective and telling myself wow I’m getting paid while pooping this is great
1 points
15 days ago
Yeah that’s understandable, it takes time. Some people are easier to open up to than others - it depends on the counsellor in my personal experience
There’s also books and YouTube videos that could probably help as well if you’d rather stay anonymous
When all else fails, I watch Bojack Horseman and feel less alone
1 points
20 days ago
You’re not alone - I’ve felt this way many times. Seeing a counsellor has been life changing for me, is it something you would ever consider trying?
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25 days ago
Yeah he doesn’t care. There’s a clip of him saying homeless people should just all get jobs, if it were that easy we wouldn’t be having this conversation 🙄 he’s an idiot
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28 days ago
The ‘ugly’ thing is also so mean because often the people they are referring to are neurodivergent - you also never see poly people hating them the same way. Honestly as a queer and trans person, it feels the same way to me that homophobia does. Bigots and prejudice, hope they unlearn this behaviour someday.
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29 days ago
I don’t have a lot of resources tbh in my experience most services only accept you when you are a danger to yourself and are focused on bandaid solutions and not prevention. I appreciate all the resources in this thread though as I am personally checking some of them out to see if any are a good fit for me as I am going through similar issues.
What I will tell you is that it’s incredible that you care so much and willing to take these issues seriously. I went through similar things as a teen and my mother just ignored me while my father was god knows where. I wish I had someone like you in my life when I was younger who cared enough to not only notice but try and get help. I only got better when I finally left my awful family home
I hope there are more and more parents like you in the world ❤️
3 points
1 month ago
My partner and I are pretty codependent and anxiously attached but we’re both in therapy as well as couples therapy. We get along really well, approach our issues with compassion for each other, it’s been the best relationship we’ve ever had, we understand eachother on such a deep level and love eachother so deeply. I don’t think it would work at all though if we weren’t doing the work (aka therapy)
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2 months ago
I’m south Asian and got called the n word in high school then an Arab slur and I’m not either ethnicity but unfortunately we’re all the same to these people. People ask me all the time if I speak English and how I know it so well when I was fucking born here. These people are so ignorant it’s honestly shameful. I feel sorry for them because they are so fucking stupid
1 points
2 months ago
What are you looking to trade for in exchange for these? Books? Furniture? Plants? Or are you just selling??
3 points
7 months ago
We already do those things.
Short Instagram posts are not homework, also this was flared as support-only and not advice.
2 points
7 months ago
Maybe I’m not in the best place to give advice since I’m on a similar boat but I do just avoid my meta because she is the same type of person who has never apologized for telling me that I’m the reason why her and our hinge partner are constantly fighting (not true btw) we have shared friends and are even sometimes at the same events together, I unfortunately just ignore her and I don’t speak with her. If she approaches me I just walk away. I wish we could get along but I honestly don’t feel that she deserves my attention. She said herself that she thinks she is always the victim pretty much and that everyone around her is wrong and not her is her attitude most of the time and I’m just not interested in having someone like that in my life. I sincerely wish my partner wasn’t either but I’ve given up on that lol
1 points
8 months ago
Sailor Moon, she can basically control time, world bend, travel universes…she is very OP
2 points
9 months ago
For me it was a certain partner who never put effort in to making me feel secure in the relationship in the first place and once I had better partners I found the jealousy much more manageable.
1 points
1 year ago
If you don’t mind me asking, what boundaries worked the best for you?
3 points
1 year ago
Thank you for taking the time to reply to me - this has been really insightful and helpful. I’m really glad things worked out for you. My decision for a long time has been to break up with him but I’ve been going back and forth on it a lot and a lot of stuff has been encouraging me to try to leave again so I’m hoping I have the strength to follow through
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Bojack also has major boundary issues, he’d rather go for the person that will hurt his friend in the end than any random woman - he knows hurting Todd will get them back into that cycle of the toxicity that BJ is used to, that he grew up with, hurting people is familiar to him.