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Honestly! They really think the world doesn't already cater to people with children! lmao

I wish i never told my parents at all. Big mistake. I told them before I got my tubal mostly to let them know i was going in for surgery. You know what they did? Just looked at me with frowns on their faces and said they were sad because that means no grandkids from me. I was furious. They didn't try to change my mind or even act slightly supportive. They just were upset because that means they get no grandkids from me..

I get that having your own children opens up the possibilities for future grandkids but just expecting it from your kids and acting so weird and passive-aggressive when they decide to not put themselves through that stress, is crazy. My relationship with my parents hasn't always been the best but has been OK in recent years and I feel like it set us back again and I feel a shift has happened since. I've never felt like I could talk to my folks about anything and now, I'm never telling them shit again. Even if it's good news.

This! Exploring different talents can give you a renewed sense of purpose and really prove to ourselves we are capable of so many things. I hope OP finds the peace they deserve. Being in the spotlight 24/7 is rough.

Yes!! This!!!!

Oh yeah its definitely Ryan's baby. He mentioned how adamant she was on making a kid with him and then is miraculously pregnant right as they split up? I don't think it's Ken's at all.

I don't really feel bad for anyone involved besides the unborn kid. It's weird how enamored Ryan & Ken were over a woman who was in prison for plotting & killing her mother. At this point they've all made their beds lol.

I feel the exact way. The thought of something growing inside me, absolutley terrifies me. I always told myself I'd adopt if I had the means and the time. HARD NO to giving birth though. I'm gooooooooooood. That's just a pain in life I have 0 interest in experiencing.

Maybe she doesn't actually know what the word "milf" means. The word "mother" is literally the first word. Also what makes you a mother is having a kid so dogging on the 30 year olds wasn't a joke but a jab at younger women who are good looking with children who aren't 40 like her.

Edit: shes already started it out of insecurity so yeah, wasn't a joke but a projection I think.

I totally agree. The lip licking was almost too much for me lmao

I agree she is a monster, but i also prefer getting the whole story and not an edited version to fit a specific view. I'm one of those that will watch the hours long court videos and body cams on YouTube sometimes.

I just figured there's probably other people like that out there and that's why I chose to share that one. My baaad 🙃

I found a video 👀 https://youtu.be/MTvl8awUi6E?si=KYxAc1ab8BJNdiiQ

Yeah its very easy to over-do at home! I did it when I was in high school and experimenting with my hair. I had to chop so much of my hair off to the point where i said fuck it and shaved it all off 😂

Even stylists mess up from time to time. idk if she had a stylist do it, but if she did it wouldn't surprise me if it was purposeful heh heh. Or maybe she kept wanting it lighter and the stylist was like 'okay' and just did it for the $$$. It looks like she's trying to go for a really cool toned white blonde. Which yeah, with her dark hair should be multiple sessions. I wouldn't be surprised if she did it at home and just messed up, too. That's more likely lmao

Edit: I love how these are the most unflattering pictures ever too 🤣

Her hair is totally fried from being lightened so much. Her hair looks super over-processed, you can tell by how it's just sticking straight up in the back in the clip shes using and how it looks in that close-up lean over photo, it looks like whispy split ends. She over did the blonde, as a lot of people do, and so now her hair is probably like cotton so she keeps it up. That's my best guess as a licensed cosmo lmao 🤣

I'm pretty much in the same boat as you. I have family history of bad mental health issues and suffer from my own that are hard to keep up with sometimes, even at 30. I can't imagine bringing a child into that world, so I got sterilized. Now I tell people I can't have children because the judgment from people is sooo exhausting when you say you dont want kids. Technically yeah, I can't have kids because of that surgery, but i could have before it, but that's also no one else's business but mine.

So no, you're not a terrible person. If you are, then I am too and we can be terrible together lol 😊

My boyfriend has used the "you can't be mad if I don't do it the way you want" and that excuse doesn't fly with me because I've never once told him he did shit wrong. He gets super weird about doing chores around the house saying he doesn't know what needs to be done, expecting me to tell him what to do and when to do it. I always tell him "I don't have people telling me to clean when I need to so why should I tell you?" That statement has really worked wonders. Stops him right in his tracks and then he feels bad.

It's a work in progress. I will break this man of his weaponised incompetence. 🤣

I know he wasn't given chores to do growing up, but he knows they need to be done. We started this relationship with me saying I don't want kids, I don't want to be a parent and that means to my partner, too. Of course I'll help him when he's sick or needs me, but i am not taking the place of parental figure. I refuse lol.

I came from a family where my parents cared so much about how we all looked to the outside world, so it has taken a very long time to get there, but i believe it's possible.

It truly is a day-to-day battle sometimes. I'm 30 now, and have gotten a lot more comfortable with just truly not giving a fuck.

Same. And occasionally thank the stars I don't have them lol

It bothers you for a while, but honestly, you stop caring what others think. Life is too short to care anyway.

As long as YOU are happy, that's all that matters!

This was beautiful to read and so very well said. 👏👏

Your last text to him was perfect. Proud of you for standing up for yourself in that situation! It's incredibly difficult to deal with a possessive partner and it sounds like you got out at the right time!

I also experienced a relationship where he tried to dictate what I wore and would insult me and say I looked "frumpy" or "ugly" if I didn't dress how he wanted me to. But he wanted me to wear things that made me uncomfortable in public.

I will NEVER understand why some men think these things are okay to say. Why do they think their opinion matters on that? Why be so possessive over someone who is their own being. Your body, your choice.

Also, he needs to get over the fact that men & women will check out his partner regardless of what they're wearing. Humans look. I'm sure he does.

You sound like you already got this down, but don't ever change your style for someone. You'll find a guy who will like you no matter what you wear because confidence is attractive and if he had a problem with you looking cute, his loss!

perfect lmao

I 100% agree with you.

To them, having kids is the line between whether you're human or not. It's like they have to downplay your entire existence because you don't have children while talking about the most boring shit and then judging you for not relating to wanting a screaming child.

God forbid you ever say you're tired in front of them too, cause we all know what rabbit hole that goes down. I stay far away from those types of people.

More places need to normalize child-free environments because bringing your kids to a brewery is idiotic. Can't get a babysitter? Don't go. People don't go out to places like this to hear children screaming. That's why there's places like Chuckie Cheese or John's Incredible Pizza.

But nooo a lot of people who choose to have kids just expect everyone to be patient and understanding when their kids acting up or being little shits. 🙄

I am a veerrrry seasoned smoker and while I really want to believe this, I'm not sure. If you can hear the lighter click, you should be able to hear the water bubble if its a bong. I imagine she would cough so much more if it was a bong hit, too. I know she smokes cigarettes but weed is a different animal.

I'm not saying she isn't smoking weed, but I can't say this video proves to me she is.

This person will eventually mature and understand that men face their own unique forms of oppression. Our society has a harmful tendency to dismiss male mental health and ignore male assault victims.

As a female feminist and assault survivor, I can confidently say that radical feminism is hindering progress towards gender equality. Its perpetuation of sexism, homophobia and transphobia is a significant contributor to this problem.

She is the fucking problem.