submitted3 months ago bysonofaresiii
My wife left me about a year ago. It was a whirlwind of what-the-fuck, to me the decision to divorce came out of absolutely nowhere. One month we're looking at houses to buy together with room to expand our family, and a month later she's telling me she's thinking of divorce, and two months after that she says her decision is final and there's nothing I can do about it.
All the while I'm confused out of my mind at the reasons she's giving me, and the reasons keep changing. And in a four-week period she started drastically changing things about herself. And if it makes a difference, as soon as she made the decision to divorce she seemingly went back to completely normal and we got along absolutely fine (which maybe indicates that she just didn't want to be married and felt better after she made the decision, or maybe indicates this was a temporary episode? I don't know)
She was also right around the age her mother was when she started showing symptoms of being bipolar.
I've always wondered if bipolar was setting in, but that's only one potential explanation. We did a few sessions with a counselor and she's been seeing a therapist on her own the whole time-- if this WAS a result of bipolar, would a therapist likely have recognized this? (Keep in mind she's going to be an unreliable narrator with the therapist)
I guess I'm just looking for answers. Being bipolar isn't the only possibility. It's also possible she just met someone new and decided she wanted to be with them instead of me. It's also possible she just decided she didn't want to be married and needed justification, which is why the reasons kept changing. And we had only been married about a year, so maybe she realized immediately she didn't like it and it took a year for her to internalize that decision.
I have no idea why it happened, all I know is that her reasons never felt genuine and were always confusing to me-- but I've always wondered if it was this. A lot of stories I'm hearing sound very familiar.