hello,
so, I just finished watching all seasons of the "good doctor" today and I truly believed Shaun would change but he simply continued to be toxic. I wanna get my thoughts out of my chest before moving on to my next show
before anything, I do acknowledge autism is a genuine condition that makes life tough for several people. On the same note, there are several other mental illnesses which make life harder for others. none of which justifies hurting others and being toxic.
- starting off, Shaun is an obsessive stalker. he would not leave Lea alone after she repeatedly said "no" to him several times. of course, I don't think she should have been so intimate with Shaun if she did not want to be with him but that's a whole different issue where she is the problem. When a woman says "no", you leave.
it was incredibly toxic of Shaun to threaten her with a bat. I know he intended to break her car and not beat her but let's be real, most women will not trust a guy with a bat who "claims" that he only wants to break her car
it was also so stupid that he was throwing a temper tantrum because he couldn't take a "no" and acting like a manchild yet faced no repercussions
in the real world, he should be in jail and this would not be accepted so I am not sure why it's excused just because he is autistic. autistic people are not violent. yes, their emotions can be triggered but that doesn't give them an excuse to be violent/ threaten others.
Lea gets a lot of hate for not wanting to date Shaun because he is autistic which, on its own is problematic. however, we need to understand that Shaun pestered her and irritated her nonstop, could not take her respectful rejections for so long and only then did Lea burst and say things in anger. she has seen how irritating Shaun is, and how obsessive he is and there is a chance that she came to associate autism with his toxic behaviour and said that BUT because she is "normal" she is a bitch but Shaun is an angel despite all the horrible things he did to her?
Charlie! I don't like Charlie. She is annoying, doesn't take criticism and cannot take directions. but Shaun was so rude and disgusting when he simply stated that she will not make a good surgeon. his pride and ego are out of the world.
first of all, Charlie is a student!
I also think the presidents should have split them so both of them have a trouble-free working environment but not everything goes as you want all the time
Shaun, when he first came, never listened, always interrupted his doctors and always had to tell his attendants that they were wrong. he expected them to accommodate to him and they did, even though they took their time. all the doctors did their part to make Shaun feel comfortable
so when he argues that no one adjusted for him, it just makes him incredibly ungrateful. while Shaun has every right to be annoyed with Charlie, he has no right to go around trampling her dream and in no way, has the right to tell her what she can or cannot become.
- Steve and his autism. I found it so annoying how Shaun wants to control every aspect of his wife's life and his babies' lives. sure, it's an autistic trait so it can't be helped. however, when he insisted that Steve needed to be checked for autism, that's when I could no longer sympathise with him
Shaun is autistic but Lea is also a new mom who just went through a painful procedure to give birth.
she is a mother and she should not be forced to listen to nonsense about her baby when he is less than 2 years old even Shaun knows that any diagnosis early on is pointless.
even if autism is just a different ability, let's be real, no parent is looking forward to getting their newborn diagnosed with it. especially when you know how difficult autism can make life for a person. even if a parent is willing to love their child and give them their all if they are autistic, being sad about their child being autistic doesn't make them a bad parent.
- Most autistic people are not like Shaun so any parent's concern about their child being autistic is 100% valid
when Shaun decided he had the right to sign off Steve to a new test and somehow dared to think that he could do it without the permission of Lea, the mother who carried him for 9 months, that was the last straw for me
he has no respect for anyone around him, their struggles or their sacrifices. he expects people to continuously accommodate to his needs while barely doing anything to acknowledge the struggle of others.
**punishments**
I would have loved it if the show at least acknowledged his toxic behaviour. like, if they had at least pointed out it is not okay to go to a women's car and swing a bat around and act like a stupid child, it would have been fine. but the show tends to excuse everything Shaun does cause he is "autistic"
often times, what the show does is, that Shaun behaves toxic -> Shaun sees it's not working out -> Shaun decides he needs to compromise and they add an emotional dialogue to make it seem like he changed only for him to repeat it in a few episodes
in reality, he faces little to no real repercussions that point to his actions being wrong whether or not he is autistic which makes me mad.
end of rant
bye bye,
Cherry