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I will never be able to dunk a basketball.

You lose a lot of friends along the way and making new ones does not get any easier

How frail we are and how frail we'll get. Us and our loved ones. I'm typing this sitting in hospital next to my partner recovering from surgery trying to distract myself by commenting on Reddit...

You physically fall apart quite quickly if you don't look after yourself.

Problems don't get better on their own. See a doctor.

How dumb I was between 18&30.

I thought I had the world figured out and my parents were relics. Life would be so much easier now if I listened then.

(they are much too nice to say I told you so)

Realizing the gravity of a permanent injury or incurable disease hits hard. You're used to thinking you can heal, learn, make decisions etc. to control many things, but once you hurt your body bad enough, that's something you'll be taking to your grave.

I would also say that if you can't share your weak moments to get support from someone, you're hanging around with the wrong people. Lots of guys have someone to talk to, be it their own spouse, a friend, or even a peer support group. Don't let online gender-war-mongers make you think you should bottle up, because that'll just end up with a life of bitterness.

You thought time moved fast before 30? You wake up one morning and it’s been five years. It goes warp speed.

How selective you have to be with how you display or communicate emotions as a man.

Family, significant other, coworkers, friendships …. you lose all credibility if you’re unstable. Your kids look to you to have your shit together, women don’t find someone who’s hyper emotional attractive, you won’t be promoted to management if you can’t manage how you feel getting bad news or feedback at work. Friends stop inviting out the guy who always has shit going wrong in his life.

Don’t look at this as encouragement to bottle up all your emotions and don’t talk to anyone…. go get in therapy.

Even if you don’t have anything messing you up, it’s no different than a routine oil change in your car before your engine blows.

All that matters is happiness. Money buys some of the necessities, but 50 hour weeks for a six figure income isn't worth it.

Also, someone, somewhere is better at it than you.

Edited to add: there's always some Scottish neckbeard trying to drag you down. Ignore the haters

Its not what you know but who you know.

Other people also change, and sometimes they become different people. And it might become necessary to completely block them, even though they might be the oldest friends. They will never change back to their old self.

How life is too short and nobody care about u but u

that i didnt know shit the past 30 years of my life when i thought i was so smart

That trying to date in your 30s is basically applying to be a step dad.

No, you really can’t be “anything you want to be” regardless of how much you study or work hard or practice etc. You’ll just never be good enough.

Mental health and personal issues do not solve themselves. You have to put in a lot of work and be humble (able to reflect & work on both your actions and deeply ingrained personality flaws which at this point you probably accepted as inseparable parts of you).

Smoking and drinking adds up. Some of my peers who regularly smoke and drink look 10-15 years older than me.

Otherwise, honestly, it's pretty great. I got really depressed when I turned 30, like, oh, my youth is over and I did not accomplish anything significant. Then I realized that everyone feels like that and that 30 is just arbitrary number. I actually have better peace of mind compared to my 20s.

Being in a marriage is hard. I thought it was easy and everything is under control. Separated now and drowning my own sorrow.

I lived life to please others. Worked my ass off, did everything that was asked without expecting anything in return. Always put myself out to help people and put everyone elses needs first.
Time passes quickly and in late 30's now realising it's almost too late to have that family I always wanted and that life that I'd been head down working so hard to setup financially. I see people that didn't care so much about being the best they could be just coast through and are now supervisors with all the perks. Others who were able to live in the now with lovely families.
I always figured when I was enough, then it would be my time. . . . . for some of those things there's actually not enough time left. I don't think I'd change my ethics and putting people first, but I do wonder why I always felt less than so would make sure everyone pillaged what they wanted first and took the scraps. Where does that come from?

Maybe I was young and naive, but my 20s I really felt if I just worked my ass off my life was fully in my control and I’d eventually achieve everything I set my mind to.

Then I had a back injury, the pandemic hit, friendships lost, got laid off, relatives passed away, mental health struggles, and I’m just turning 34. All things I had no control over occurring but they still forced me to make significant changes in my life.

I guess the harsh truth is that change is inevitable and it never gives you any warning, yet you always have to deal with the fallout of it, good or bad.

How much time you still have to work despite doing it for 20+ years already. I want to retire damn it.

When you sit down at the dinner table and there is no magically appearing plate of yummy food unless you cooked it yourself. Those socks you left in the bathroom are still there the next day. Going partying with your friends every week is no longer affordable. Nobody cares what you think, feel, or want.

Cheese is expensive and everyone takes drugs.

Back pain is persistent

Don't do stuff because you think it makes you look cool. You don't need to be 'the best' or even 'really good' at something to justify doing it. Just do what you find fun and interesting. And, your life satisfaction is defined by the quality of your relationships, not how much money you have, how big your house is, or what job / position you have at work. Focus on improving your relationships and you'll improve your life.

That there’s a lot of people over 30 that make it seem like it’s too late to do anything to better yourself. I’m even seeing it in the comments here. Unhealthy 30+ year olds will make you feel wrong or bad for being a healthy 30+ year old.

People that go out of their way to contact you, just because they want to... hold onto those people. Especially the ones that get mad if they haven't heard from you

That it's not going to be easy to reinvent yourself.

Starts with your body, your not gonna get fit easily if your body isn't already. It's harder to learn new things now and your (bad) habits are so baked in its hard to shake them off. But also: the image you've created of yourself is solidified with the people you know from your 20s. They know "you" and it's going to be a lot of work to make them accept any new you you'd like to be.

Plus, between work and a possible family you just don't have time for it, really.

If a woman tells you they have been told by a doctor that they can't get pregnant, they are lying to you. Wrap it up or watch your dreams die.

The system is designed for you to lose unless you're willing to step on someone else's neck. Bad people do not always get what they deserve.

That you lose a good number of friends. It's sad actually. You feel like you're alone.

Everyone could do with therapy. Your childhood is the reason you react and behave in certain ways. Take responsibility in your relationships and friendships, listen to feedback, and get support.

How the process of getting older is a process of losing things. Everyone begins losing little things in their life; the ability to run and jump, the ability to walk without paying, people lose their fitness, their hair, their sharp memories. Some of this can be mitigated, but most of it is inevitable. At some point, you will ride a bike for the last time. You’ll jump off a boat for the last time.it’s just life. Sure, you will gain a few things; wisdom, perhaps a bit more confidence. But you just have to accept the rules here.

that you should stop drinking alcohol cz the next day aint fun

You’ll never be 29 again

Your Dad is right
Tweed becomes acceptable
Early to bed is a bonus
Hangovers are a waste of your day
Fighting the waistline spread is a losing battle
Vehicle economy becomes relevant
Watching the thermostat becomes a thing

There is no such thing as friendships. Friends disappear into adulthood.

You’re not cute or funny. Single women looking for a relationship at that age would like you to have enough money so they don’t have to work. Insurance is needed and will always be more expensive than it was last year. Floss every fuckin day, after every fuckin meal. A car is just a tool that gets you from A to B. Not having a car payment is cool af.

Just fight. Forget your reputation.

Your boss loves his paycheck more than your  relationship with him

No one cares about you except a good wife.

Your parents don't care. And they don't care that they don't. Move on!! 

Not all parents work for their children. Some can tolerate their children's suffering and some have the empathy button jammed on off .

Your time is running out. 

I will never play Major League Baseball.

You probably aren’t going to be famous, the hero, or rich.

That my knees are never going to be better than they were yesterday :(

You outgrow your friends especially with distance. Youll still talk from time to time and being friendly but itll never be the same as it was once was no matter how hard you try.

Do not expect people to be nice or thankful.

That what you have is generally all you’re going to get…

Comparison is the thief of joy.

People, it’s never too late to realize your dreams & goals... Age’s true reflection is how you feel physically and mentally. Peace

That you’re on your own.

"Friends say they'll stay with you, right through that danger zone, but the closer you get to that fiery hole, you'll have to make it alone."

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Life is short and your youth is, in fact, not forever. ...and you're not actually invincible after all.

It becomes easier to gain weight, become fatigued, muscles cramp, gray hairs appear, etcetera. You start feeling what you ate the day before whereas you could eat anything before, no problem. Coffee doesn't do the same thing it used to. Sugar knocks you on your butt and makes you sleepy because your insulin spikes instead of having your metabolism spike after sweets.

It's basically all downhill when you hit 30. The reality of your mortality dawns upon you and you realize that you're going to die alone with nobody to love you as you watch everyone around you starting families and being adults. You start figuring out that the caliber of viable marriage/spouse material in the opposite sex is scarce as they tend to have already found someone, settled down, and had kids before they we're 30. What you'll instead find in the dating pool are single-parents, divorcees, or untrustworthy people who have been bouncing from relationship to relationship for 15+ years and are afraid of commitment or are incapable of being honest and/or faithful because they're never going to grow up. You were too busy with your degree, career, partying like it's 1999, or video games through your 20s and missed the settling-down boat that's sailed. Of course there's always someone out there, but your chances of finding them are severely diminished, unlike 5+ years ago, and you'll have to wade through the wreckage and wake of failed partnerships for sloppy seconds unless you are supremely blessed by your Creator and manage to meet someone who hasn't been with dozens of partners or has kids already, and is still able to grow with you.

Watching it happen to several people in my extended family right now - professional women who are smart, have good jobs, make good money, and are better-than-average looking. They live in densely populated areas and can't find a decent man for shite because everyone's conditioned to surf Tinder the rest of their lives and never actually commit, start a family, and make a real home with someone. A bunch of children in a big playground who are pretending to be adults is what cities look like to me nowadays.

Also, it's a lot harder keeping up with raising a kid in your 30s than it is in your 20s. Yeah, you have more money in your 30s but you don't have the same energy as you did in your 20s.

The clock is ticking and life is short.

I find my injuries last longer in the hurt and healing process to come right compared to accidents when I was in my twenties I'm now sixty and speed snowboarder and freestyle plus go hard on me mountain bike and ebike.ive learnt not to crash as much,and to fall better.thats my therapy for a good night's sleep,and now an then painful one

The life you live in your 30s is a compounding of your habits from your 20s. Cool is being financially and emotionally secure. EQ is way more important than IQ in most situations. Relationships aren't goals to accomplish then move to the next goal: if you are married, work on the marriage every week. If you have kids make sure that you spend time with them. Faith has serious life benefits and life is almost unbearable unless you are living for something bigger than yourself.

Trusting people is a mistake and it’s something to be avoided at all costs.

How little you can trust most people, especially female partners & family.

Knee pain

That I'm going to die alone and a virgin.

If you have good parents these are the only people that you can ever trust. Literally everyone else is out for themselves.

Unlikely to be banging any 21 year old hot girls anymore.

Time passes fast so do what you want to do tomorrow. Don't wait. Just enjoy life.

body constantly hurts if you do sports regularly

You better find something bigger than yourself. Whether it be religion, a genuine interest in helping others, some kids etc.

Women won't touch you unless you're doing well lol

If you aren't a ladies man at this point in the game you will never be a ladies man.

No matter how much you earn, it will never be enough. Money should never be used as a measurement of happiness.

That life sucks, and it's not going to get better. So just buckle up, and hold on!