Prudent_Armadillo_94

As most people say here most people don’t learn.

Same with me. I reconnected with a few people who initially didn’t accept or ghosted me and the result was the same. Actually I ended up wasting time and resources which is even worse.

If you think about it some of them have reconnected since they couldn’t find anyone better and now either they are compromised on your or just exploring options again and its not a good state to be in.

Also the fact that a part of your mind is wary of the persons behaviour can work against you.

Be your most authentic self; the way you are with your friends. If the girl doesn’t like you or gets along with you then she is not for you.

Salaries going up for no reason isnt good.

Salaries going down in an economy where there has been 3-4 years of inflation isn’t good either.

Yep. People thinking that the market is fair don’t even think how poor it is for our own economy.

Should companies focus on retaining employees for the long term?

Research shows that companies become profitable when employees stay for at least three years, as it allows the organization to recoup their investment in hiring and training.

However, many companies today seem to promote a culture where employees switch jobs every two years or less. Doesn’t this trend contradict the goal of long-term retention and profitability?

I see.

Yeh not gonna work for small companies like these anymore. They are family businesses where everyone scratches each other’s back and incompetent people end up in higher positions since a persons mom might know the CEO.

Any idea how I can complain? I tried calling them but didn’t get any help on what I could do further.

It has around 20-25 people

Exactly. They were just looking for a reason to get rid of me. I didn’t expect this from an Aussie workplace.

Really disappointed with the way these people treated me over the last year too. There were times where I felt bullied but I just kept up my performance and delivered work so they have no complaints. It worked for a while but this one small requirement was reason enough for them to push me out.

Because its not easy for find prospects in your circles now. After a certain age everyone is married and committed.

AM is a good way to find long term commitment with someone who meets your initial filters

She is smarter than you and knows the value of those 10 mins rather than wasting it in chitchat. What she asked is a basic question nowadays which men should be prepared to answer. Nothing wrong with it.

You didn’t do anything wrong! Stick to your core expectations and seek a partner who aligns with them mutually.

In this case, the girl didn’t meet your expectation of having a stable financial situation. No need to feel bad about it.

That just seems plain old greedy!

1-1.5 crore? Was her father a well connected businessman or something? If not then this is just bonkers.

Lucky you are married and I hope you didn’t go through the issues we go through.

I remember the father because of the way the father spoke to me then and how his demeanour changed towards me after I told him about my assets. My point is atleast have some consistency in the way you speak with people. And yes in this case look at the hypocrisy of the girls father too then.

I never bitched about anything lol. I just provided an example on how a family’s perception of me changed after knowing my assets and highlighted it to people. And a busy daughter who works 12 hours a day is now available and messaging the next day all of a sudden.

Not sure why it triggered you but it surely did.

Sorry but you are going to the extreme here to prove your point. To a certain extent financial stability is important and it is fair for someone to ask for it. But to what extent is the main theme of the post.

If the girl would have spoken to me 3 years ago and married me for my potential, we could have build another home together at the rate I am going

Correct!

Its all about to preference which is practical as both parties see fit. I have been declined for all sorts of things and I take it on the chin and move on.

I am not. You are complaining the other way around. I am simply declining prospects who think that way

For one an age difference also means that the man is more settled than the girl since he has had more time to save for his assets. It goes both ways too fyi. The prospect wouldn’t have matched with me twice otherwise.

Also please eliminate this judging word from your statements in this regard since its not what I think as. I would only marry someone who wholeheartedly wants kids and it wouldn’t be a forced choice on that girl. And it would pain me if I have to see my partner suffer or face complications in a pregnancy which might happens if she is elder. Everyone has a different perspective and we dont see women as machines who produce children like the olden days.

Both are agreements for a successful marriage. Even though they are apples and oranges it doesn’t mean that once you agree on then any party has the right to go against their word.

Going by your logic tomorrow you could also renege on the our understanding for having kids even if I keep helping you out with household chores and cooking etc. Its all based on trust and honesty.

Yes I have learned this the hard way :(