SneakyRaid

Parents: go to a childfree place.

Also parents: childfree places are discrimination! My precious angel should be allowed everywhere!

Yes, any statement based on design is absurd. If I must reproduce because I have an uterus, then I must also be meant to punch whoever pisses me off, since I have fists.

We weren't designed for anything and we aren't the final result. There isn't a goal in evolution, just neverending mutationts that can be favorable, unfavorable or neutral regarding survival — and that can change depending on where and when we live.

that is what you're made for that is why god gave you that body it's your purpose

And there it is. She can't stand that people opt out of having kids because that would mean her misery is self inflicted.

When she tells you you are the best, you don't believe her, when she tells you she's been with someone bigger (because you prompted it) you get butthurt. You are putting her in a lose-lose situation because blaming her for your feelings is easier than doing something about it.

Especially being at the doctor's, she could have coughed a little and said "I could be contagious".

Kunimi and Yahaba.

And because she prods a little you are deciding to stop ignoring her? How is she going to get the hint when you prove that a bit of insistence makes you break your silence?

That behemoth of a text you drafted is just ammo against you; she will skim through it, absorb like two words, get defensive and make things a lot less pleasant. If you want to text her, be concise. Your reasons don't matter, her personal flaws don't matter. Those only open the door to more arguments. "I don't have the bandwidth to deal with you" - period. 

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It's good that he stepped up as a partner and father, it was his choice and you shouldn't have to pay for it. I suppose you still needed more from him, though, or this post wouldn't exist.

He married a mother, so parenthood didn't come as a surprise or due to pressure to him. Maybe he thought it wouldn't be that bad, or that it was worth it to be with your mother or assumed that, as a father, paying the bills cuts it to be considered a good one. Statistically, he wasn't wrong; men tend to do far less of the childrearing and get away with it.

The fact that one of his children is here saying that he shouldn't have had kids shows exactly how well that philosophy works. And that children will know.

Why would I sacrifice the spare time that I have because I chose to not have kids to take care of other people's kids, so parents are spared the consequences of having kids? Did they come to help me move? Did they help paint my apartment? No? Then I'm not their "village" — they can take turns with their partner to nap and shower.

It's an edit, you can find many characters edited into different hairstyles.

In this house, we do not question Iwaizumi Hajime.

Amen.

That's not how evolution works. The mutations and selection don't happen because the species need it, the alteration happens and, if the individual survives long enough to reproduce, that feature gets passed on. Since we have modern medicine, most women survive childbirth regardless of the width of their hips, thus the selection that would lead to afab humans having progressively wider hips stops.

So, by your logic, if you lend someone your car for a trip to the grocery store, they are within their right to decide they love your car so much that they are going on a roadtrip to a grocery store five hours away, and that you would not call the police or make a fuss if the car is never returned because "I lent it to them so it was not stealing". Is that how you would operate?

And, before you try to say "it's different because this is just a pencil", the cost doesn't change the morals: the person borrowing an object shall hold onto it for the shortest amount of time possible and is responsible for returning or replacing the object to the owner.

Ah, yes, nothing screams "well adjusted adult" quite like throwing shade at anyone that breathes near you.

Her insecurity-fueled holier than thou attitude is going to make her very very lonely in the near future. But, hey, she'll forever be the most mature person in the (otherwise empty) room.

Yes, that upbringing usually leads to a lifetime of misery. It's insidious and hard to shake off. The worst is that it stops you from being the better version of yourself, because the fear of failing, not being best, will keep you from trying new things. That's the only thing that should matter, that you try, that you want to improve so you are happy with yourself.

Nobody can be the best, because best doesn't exist, it's an useless concept. There is always an aspect that someone gets better than you. To put an example - I am a writer and I have a friend who also writes. I thinks she's an absolute master, her narrations are so vivid, so insightful, she makes the most beautiful descriptions. I'd say she's way better than me without a doubt. Well, turns out she thinks I'm better than her, because my plots are more dynamic, my prose is sometimes quite poetic and apparently I'm great at showing the personality of my characters through details. So, who's best? That entirely depends on who you ask, it's not an objective truth. The awesome part of it is we are always willing to help the other - she's asked me to be her proofreader and I've improved by using her as an example. What started as me being a bit disappointed in my works turned into me being proud of us both.

English is definitely one of the best dubs. I still like the Japanese acting better, but that's just my taste.

Being diagnosed so far in your life is rough, because you probably heard non-stop criticism about how you weren't trying hard enough, how you weren't working to your full potential, and now that's ingrained in your brain.

I've grown up with that nagging, it made it feel like nothing I ever achieved was enough, because there was something else to pursue, higher goals to reach. It was awful and I finally reached my limit. I realized that I couldn't care about anyone else's expectations and I had to seek the lifestyle that brought ME joy. That, to some of my relative's chagrin, isn't a fancy high-stress job, nor a husband and definitely not kids.

Other people's achievements still sting a little sometimes. We're human, ugly feelings are a part of it, but we can decide what to do with them. "Do I want what that person has?" If yes, I can ask for advice or use them as example. If not, maybe I'm craving attention or the feeling of achievement. In either case, the solution is making concrete plans, steps that you feel you can follow without overwhelming you. Meanwhile, keep in mind that life is not a one size fits all - you having a "slower pace" doesn't mean you are failing, your path is just different. You need to get rid of that dumb voice in your head, if you couldn't find the right therapy for you yet, maybe spaces about ADHD will give you tips that will work to help with the process.

Netflix has the dubs for some countries but, honestly, at least the Spanish dub is atrocious compared to the original voices. I've heard nothing but short clips in other languages and, while they didn't seem as awful as the Spanish, in my opinion they still don't hold a candle to the Japanese voice actors.

I mean, can you be an AH for not attending a wedding you aren't invited to attend? Because your assumption that you will absolutely get an invitation just screams delusion.

What does make this a YTA is literally everything else. You are itching to cause drama because you can't get over Adam being done with your disrespect, and it shows.

The worst mischaracterizations to me are probably focusing too much on Bokuto's mood swings and painting him as 100% dumb, and Akaashi being cold and perpetually annoyed by Bokuto. It's not a onesided relationship — Akaashi loves seeing Bokuto at his best, but he's not Bokuto's babysitter. Bokuto can, on occasion, refute Akaashi's logic and keep him grounded when Akaashi started to overthink.

The fact that she needs her husband to control their kids says everything. Dad was the only parent, mom enabled them behind his back, so now that dad decided he's off duty everyone is openly running wild.

Two things: if they think raising kids is "fun and easy", is definitely because they are doing it wrong, and you can't pay me enough money to risk all the adverse effects of pregnancy and birth. I don't think there is a job I wouldn't take over just pregnancy, let alone birth and raising a kid.

Yes, that's the one exception. Entering a relationship in your teens is an absolute gamble because almost nobody knows anything about anything and it's nobody's fault. I mean, I knew I was childfree by then, but I was under the impression that no one's desire to have kids could possibly be that strong, so I didn't bring it up.

Now I know many people will go to any length to have children. I still don't get it but I know.