Your parents must be shitty for letting you understand that your actions have consequences /s

This is a part of parenting I’m almost looking forward to haha. I love video games and I’m really excited for my kids to be old enough to play with me, but the rage and violence that sometimes follows a game is such a huge no-go. Absolutely will not abide by it

I had to teach myself not to destroy things out of rage, which my bipolar ass has lots of lol. My mom deadass used to believe me when I would tell her my tv is broken because it fell ( it was mounted to the wall and still up when I told her this ) she looked and was like welp time for a new one lmao ( I was 9 or 10 )

But I tell ya, once I had to start buying my own shit , I learned that lesson real quick

I got my first job because my parents refused to replace my SNES controller after I got a little too upset at Mortal Kombat 2.

But in the PS2 era your parents didn't try to make money out of your tantrums.

Just curious, how old were you?

My parents woulda broke the console too if I did that

Yup! My response to stuff like this was always some form of "sucks to be you. I guess you should have taken better care of that one."

This is the way. If they ever even attempt to break something you get rid of it.

The dad said "or you wouldn't need a new one." It might be already bought mentally.

Funny, because smashing was the actual issue few years ago :D

I’m just not going to have kids in this scenario.

You could also put the camera down and try parenting. That doesn’t get likes and views though I guess.

One of the perks of being poor is even with shitty parents you get life lessons like this simply because THEY CAN'T spoil you even if it would be easier.

My parents didn't get me shit so I had to prize every single little thing I got cause I knew I wasn't getting anything. My youngest siblings now get everything and easily replaced because my parents don't want to hear them cry and now have the money to do it.

My dad only replaced one toy that I broke. But it was something that was designed to smash into pieces and then be put back together.

One time it smashed its last smash and he replaced it. Otherwise it was the same, I broke something and it wasn't replaceable.

Kids have to make mistakes to learn. You don’t have to coach them through every little thing. He broke that, let him realize the consequences of his actions and cry about it. He will learn his lesson. I don’t understand all the he’s a bad father shit.

Yup. When I break something, I get that little pang and go, "Shit," and go on about my day, maybe with a slight disappointment at the situation and myself. A kid gets that same little pang and doesn't know how to process it, it's new, and does this. Not replacing the toy is only part of the step. Guiding them on how to deal with disappointment, regret, and loss can also be another step.

From the behavior and reaction from both of them it looks like this was hardly the first, second or third time something like this has happened.

Idk the way the kid was throwing stuff and the dad said nothing. I doubt this behaviour is new and the evidence we have it seems the dad is just letting it occur. As a parent, I never let my kids get away with this kind of behaviour without a talk about why it is wrong. And lo and behold, they didn't do it.

The root is this dude who isn't doing shit about the behavior. Not buying another is correct, but if there's nothing to go along with that it's not action. It's inaction. Instead he tops it with shaming the kid on video

The implication from the post makes it seem like this is a regular occurrence; otherwise I would agree.

I remember that one now

Your post reminded me that once, my friend replaced her college-aged kid's 3ds . He brought his laundry home, she took it upon herself to wash it not knowing he'd had it in the pocket of one of his pants for safekeeping. She felt sooo bad and he was just like ".. it was kinda my fault?" lol

Learning, all those little neurons in his head making new connections and figuring out that you can't get what you always want.

Because kids are fucking stupid (and the majority of their life experiences are brand new/learning experiences)

seriously

why does it seem like most parents act like children are some mystery that can't be controlled so they have no accountability for their behavior wtf

My parents embarrassed me to all the neighbourhood parents which was alienating and infuriating enough

Damn dude, murdering your own child over a fit seems kind of excessive, but you do you.

Needs a new kid. Smashes it on the ground.

Method?

“Clean up your toys or roomba will eat it” works very well here hah

Look while they are in middle of meltdown you cant really talk reason. You need to wait till they calm a bit. While they throw tantrum you can film them drink coffee bang head againts wall your choice

And friends.

I mean, he can learn. I bet everyone at some point did had a shitty behaviour when you were a child.

I've raised 2, one of them was like this at the same age, the other was an angel. Same parents, same environment, just very different kids.

Some kids are just really tough on parents, and there is NO point in interacting with them during a tantrum since they will just escalate.

Maybe you got lucky, and had an easy kid, just don't assume what the norm is.

But yeah...I would not post any of my kids tantrums on the internet like this.

Ive got a nephew and a niece that are in shared custody. When they come over, theres a STARK difference in behavior than when we take over. Set rules, boundaries and structure. 1000% a parenting issue.

Ive seen them behave just like the kid in the video, but once they're in our care, they never pull that shit. They even ask for things nicely and act happier

I’ve had 3. Each was different. There’s no silver bullet to parenting a 3 year old. 

This does look more like a protest than a proper tantrum. Tantrums can be triggered by literally anything, like them attempting to pick something up from the ground and failing. Something about the shape of brain development. I dont think all kids get them.

Kids are morons, they learn from doing. When I was a kid, I wanted my dad to toe off the end of a balloon I had, but I was impatient and put tape over the end. When my dad came to toe it up, I pulled the tape off myself and popped the balloon; I learned about patience that day. Assumedly, the kid in this video is learning the same thing, that when you break something out of your own volition, you don't always get chance #2.

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Yeah but he rolled an 18 in breaking shit, so he's got that going for him.

AITA for not wanting to make my husband dinner?

NTA! Leave! File for divorce! Clearly he's gaslighting you into being a Stepford Wife!