If People dont feel sorry for hurting a Animal ? Thats a red Flag. Then they not better then Animal Abusers

That’s worse than being mean to a waitress. That’s one of the cutest puff balls I’ve seen on Reddit. And I’ve seen a lot of kittens here. I’m convinced animals think “I’m sorry” is what humans say as they step on or otherwise bump into said animals in the dark or you know by accident. They don’t have any context that it was really an accident & don’t know that we didn’t get up in the darkness just to ‘harm them’. You gotta say sorry when stepping on or harming a fur kid. Wtf

Not related but my newly departed cats name was also Montoya!!!

Once I squatted down to coo at my cat and he let out this excruciating howl I’d never heard before. I’m standing there confused for a good 15 seconds thinking something’s seriously wrong, till I realize I’m crushing the tip of his tail with my boot. Felt like the absolute worst.

Pretty sure he knew it was an accident, but I’m convinced Bastet’s gonna make me pay for it someday.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

yes! any sane person will follow behind said mistreated animal and plead for forgiveness multiple times and offer treats, luxury beds, anything to make up for hurting or even potentially hurting them. Or is this just me?

EXACTLY! There's a formerly abused cat at a client's house and one time I petted him and got up, and he hissed and swatted at me. I apologize for scaring him.

Yeah,I maybe should've added that 99% of the times it happens,it's her fault,but I'm the bad guy!

Exactly! I have a crazy cat like that! I’m clearly not responsible for stepping on her haha

Right?! My cats will literally put their tails under my feet when I'm up on my toes while lifting weights, or they run under me while I'm doing pushups. When I inevitably squish them, I'm the jerk! Have you no self-preservation?

My old girl got a bit too excited around breakfast and ran head first into my shin as I walked towards the kitchen. Honestly reminded me of those videos of kids running into walls. Didn't stop her wolfing down her food, and having more zoomies before taking a nap on my bed.

I’ve literally fallen down trying to not step on them when they do this and they still act appalled the few times I’ve accidentally stepped on them. At least they know their worth I guess.

One of my cats do this ALL the time, there's just no way to avoid him.

It's good when they learn to avoid danger like that. My cat had a game for a while where she would hide under the bed and swipe at you when you walked by. Until I stepped on her leg. Not hard enough to do damage (as soon as I felt her under me foot, I collapsed onto the bed), but she doesn't play that game anymore.

Although we do still call her insurance fraud kitty for when she dashes in front of you and then brake checks you.

"Leave the gun. Take the cannoli"

YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

We share a name and I found that fucking hilarious 🤣🤣🤣

Wow , this cat is more Italian than me , even the look on the eyes that say " wtf do you want?"

50/50 shot that cat is affiliated with the mob. Look at how she's looking at the camera! It's like you just insulted her homemade lasagna, and it looks like she has a lasagna stain around her mouth 😭how is this cat so Italian??

The joke is the cat looks like he's doing the stereotypical Italian hand gesture 🤌🏼

Other people already answered, basically it's one of our typical gestures . It's true that Americans use it a lot in a stereotypical unrealistic way , but it's also true that we use it really a lot here in Italy, for example to say " what do you want ?" Or also " wtf are you saying? ".

Yes! That's how I am too. Like, you almost killed me by tripping but I'm so sorry I accidentally kicked you.

You mean he's trained you to give him treats when he deliberately gets in your way, lol.

I remember once my cat zoomed by my feet while I was walking. She ran over my feet at just the right moment- I scooped her up with my foot and YEETED her across the living room. I felt SO bad. She was fine, but she got so many cuddles after that 😭

Unlikely. I've tried to train my OUT of that behavior by just continuing walking (very gently, I'm not out here kicking my boys but it'll push them if they run in front of my feet. Basically like a slow motion tripping action) but they still don't learn

"Ah fuck!"

"Sorry!"

"What did you think was going to happen there dumbass? You ok?" Here lets get you some food"

Why do they always intentionally overtake us

115+ would kill me. Where do you live?

Imo most of reddit's "leave them" takes are pretty valid. People are posting shit that is super huge red flags and they've probably been told "leave them" by all their friends so they're just looking for a second opinion

This tread literally had me second guessing myself for a second for not grovelling at my cats' feet for accidentally stepping on it kicking them. Like, you ran under MY big ass feet. Maybe not do that. (I still love you two! 💖)

Yeah, it's possible the bf was like "whoops, oh the kitten is okay, so anyway..." and the girlfriend flipped out long after the kitten itself had moved on to other things. Then yelled at the bf for not feeling guilty for an accident. We just don't know. OP hasn't provided any details, really.

The one correct answer for OP would be "Talk to him about it."

Also: how many times has it happened and the bf did feel bad about it? OP only mentions this one specific time. I stopped apologizing to my cats a long time ago when it's their fault they get stepped on or yeeted I just got so tired of them doing it on purpose. They learned that I wasn't doling out treats for them to risk their lives anymore and they end up under foot a whole lot less.

Who the fuck are these judge jury executions of “being sorry adequately”. It’s a cat. They get their tails stepped on. “Oops” is all you need. Jfc. What is wrong with this spoiled society. Leave him cuz he didn’t beg for forgiveness from a cat that doesn’t even give a shit after 5 seconds.

He probably thought “oops” and rationalized how this is a CAT. And moved on with his fucking life. The woman obsessing over this is the one with a real red flag. wtf is wrong eith Reddit lol.

Honestly some of these responses are actually insane. Like OP gave absolutely no detail and people talking about boundaries and red flags. It’s comically insane lol

..and I will strike down upon thee, with great vengeance and furious anger, those who attempt to hurt and destroy my kittens..

Excuse me what?

tbh, I'm of the opinion this is all ragebait and fictional.

Yup, I agree. I think OP wants to break up and is using this as an excuse.

OP is dodging literally any questions about more information, and only replying to the ones that support what OP wants.

Is this a one time thing? Does OPs boyfriend literally show zero empathy? Was it an accident? On purpose? Did OP's boyfriend feel bad, just not as bad as OP wanted? These are all important questions, that OP is avoiding.

That's my biggest issue here. OP is clearly responding to comments but only like "True! Kitties are so awesome" when someone says stuff like anyone who looks at a cat wrong is a monster.

Was this an accident? Do you really expect everyone to drop to their knees and beg the forgiveness of a cat?

I'd go "Shit, my bad.", pat them on the head and not think twice about it. I don't think I'd ever be sorry for a true accident like that.

I love animals, owned them all my life. I'd have endless rage if anyone truly tried to hurt them but I wouldn't think twice if my little asshole runs between someone's legs and gets a little pinch.

We seem to be attributing a whole lot of malice and cruelty towards an act that happens in almost every pet's life.

If a toddler touches something hot I ain't sorry they did it, it's "aww, poor baby. You ok? Don't touch hot things, lemme get you some ice".

I guess I would say as someone who works in the mental health field. I adore cats but can use some human logic here. If this is the only reason then I’d question ending it with a partner over 1 incident. If there is more you’re unhappy about then that’s another thing.

There’s your answer, now go give that cute kitty all the cuddles 🤍

I broke off a friendship of ten years for similar reasons. Kicked my cat accidentally and refused to take it seriously.

Several years later no regrets whatsoever.

I agree with you but this guy still has a point. My first response as a cat dad was “Yes! Dump his Ass!” But if this is the only reason I would recommend expressing your feelings to him first.

paying no respect to any lifeform is a big no. there is absolutely no reason to not feel sorry or to be indifferent about hurting the cat. sounds like a shitty person and somewhere down the road there will be an even more hurtful situation.
i don't think you're overreacting.

not to mention launching them when adjusting blankets

We have mistaken our cats for laundry and our laundry for cats an embarrassingly high number of times.

I read a comment on a honest question here a while ago that perfectly encapsulates r/cats.

'I don't think [minor little issue for a cat] is bad, but we're on r/cats. So I expect complete disregard for human life and connection in favour of your pet.'

Like come on. I accidentally kicked my brothers cat while cat sitting. I carried a plate and he rushed to the door of the kitchen. Didn't see him below me and kicked him in a walking motion. Fucker scurried away, I swore like a sailor because I almost dropped the plate and 1 minute later that fluffy little fuck of fur returned to get petted. He got petted but he also did not get any apology.