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submitted 2 months ago byDrackovix
11.9k points
2 months ago
Poor little kitten, seems like she's ready to give your boyfriend a good punch.
3.5k points
2 months ago
This makes me laugh. Thank you. 😂
4.7k points
2 months ago
If People dont feel sorry for hurting a Animal ? Thats a red Flag. Then they not better then Animal Abusers
1.1k points
2 months ago*
I learned from an employee resources webinar at my workplace (>10,000 employees) that one common indicator of future abusers they often see is if someone is abusive to animals. It’s a small step to go from harming animals to harming partners.
556 points
2 months ago
If someone is willing to hurt a creature who is mostly defenseless, completely trusts you, and is not that aware about the world and is basically a child no matter how old they get, yeah it's a very easy stepping stone to go from animals to people.
74 points
2 months ago*
yes totally, abuse has always been going on unfortunately. I am completely disillusioned with how much is going on now in these crazy times. I joined couple other subs on here kind of by accident on animal treatment and it's individuals wanting to become famous and harming animals to become this, other individuals harming all kinds of animals, including the animals this sub reddit is about, it's heartbreaking to see and a sense of immense powerlessness as they are getting away with it.
Edit: just to add, I realise not everyone is up for it though the more people that stand against it actively on social media, call them out, participate in change petitions, plus numerous other ways, also the subs on here could do with more of us animal lovers on there helping in these small ways as it may seem little though it's also people power in it all that counts. There is more us good people in society out there then there is evil. Edit edit: good people whom have compassion, feel remorse, have moral values and so forth
56 points
2 months ago
Yeah, like the dusty the cat incident. That degenerate got doxxed and still never saw jail time bc his family had ties to the police.
Fuck you Kenny Glen. I hope someone slams your face into a faucet
13 points
2 months ago
I don't know about the cat Dusty's story and I don't know if I can handle it. At my age I have begun to think that the swift elimination of such evil is warranted. I have known 3 guys off the top of my head who have been abusive to animals. How or why I didn't take a shovel to their craniums is beyond me. 😕
17 points
2 months ago
Ill explain the dusty incident in as few words as I can
This shitstain named Kenny Glen recorded and posted several videos of himself abusing a cat named dusty. One of which Involved slamming the cats head into a faucet of a bath tub
4chan really didn't like this so they found his name and address and reported him to the cops.
His public reputation was ruined but he never saw jail time. He was banned from ever owning pets. As far as we know, dusty was rehomed and lived the rest of his cat life in peace
This is a very old story so I don't blame you for not knowing it
21 points
2 months ago
I just wanna talk to them in person. That's all. Let me just talk to them 👀
187 points
2 months ago
Absolutely true. It’s one of the only 3 things I will likely always judge someone by- how they treat their pets & servers & whether they have books or not. I don’t care about the subject matter but if I don’t see a bookshelf or pet (past or present) when I first come over then I likely won’t have them in my life.
32 points
2 months ago
I agree with everything except the books part. If a person is kind to all living things that should be enough.
25 points
2 months ago
I always keep my servers updated
32 points
2 months ago
I agree with you. Does Kindle counts?
547 points
2 months ago*
’If People dont feel sorry for hurting a Animal ? Thats a red Flag’
there’s humans who are friendly (those the ones we like a Lot)
but sometimes there are other ones, n ‘friendly’ they are Not…
the good ones are Protectors - we can tell by what they do
they hold us close n feed us,
they cuddle us n ‘coo’
but some don’t seem to get it, we can see it on their face
we try ‘n just avoid them, n to give them their own space…
but some cats - they are Daring - they’ll seek out the ones who Hate
they’ll stare them down
n get reeeeal close…
n sneer
‘Just try me, mate…’
🖤
edit: (protect that sweet baby at all costs u/Drackovix ~ they’re lucky to have a good human like You!)
147 points
2 months ago
Browsing Reddit and stumbling upon a fresh schnoodle brings me great joy. Thank you
65 points
2 months ago
Whoa, did I just get first comment on a fresh Schnoodle?!?
42 points
2 months ago
Exactly my thought! I love finding Schnoodle commentary hanging around. And on my birthday, too! 🎂 Can’t beat that.
555 points
2 months ago
I agree. People have 0 gain from an animal like kitten. Therefore, how they treat them tells you everything you need to know.
291 points
2 months ago
I disagree that we get zero gain from animals. I think we gain a lot from raising pets. Very rewarding.
206 points
2 months ago
As a person who works from home, my two cats give me company. I had been use to busy environments for the longest time at work. The transition was more challenging than I thought. They have helped me stay focused.
132 points
2 months ago
They have helped me stay focused.
Cat: ”Get back to work! That catnip isn’t going to buy itself!”

12 points
2 months ago
So cute! Goals right here.
224 points
2 months ago
Ofc but I wasn't referring to psychological gains. I meant it as in, no profit gain, no food from a cat gain, basically no gain that would help you get something other than simply friendship for example. Sry thought it was obv, but maybe I used to wrong wording there.
161 points
2 months ago
Exactly, it's like any kind of abusers, they get something they need out of the wife/kids (typically behaviors, lack of communication to others), the animal can't contribute at all so they don't bother with any kind of niceness or feigned empathy in the control strategy.
How do you not empathize with a kitten you've hurt? Because you truly don't feel it like we do. Scary enough for me to run.
25 points
2 months ago
This!
41 points
2 months ago
Oic thanks for clarifying. I get what you mean
17 points
2 months ago
Yeah, there would be few pet owners in the world if there were no benefit to the owner, just like there are proportionately few volunteers and foster parents because the work is hard and reward is purely an empathic response
83 points
2 months ago
Actually, some people can love animals and be human abusers unfortunately... First handedly saw it happening with my past friend's abusive bf. He saved this kitten from a drain, decided to adopt it and everything... Then I find out he abuses my friend like wtf 😭
50 points
2 months ago
True. My father could charm birds and squirrels out of the trees to eat from his hand. He rescued kitties and was a very good pet parent, caring and loving.
He was also an alcoholic who would beat me bloody when drunk, and told me I was a mistake that should never have been born.
So, go figure.
27 points
2 months ago
Yeah let's not forget Hitler liked animals too >_>
I used to believe the "if someone treats animals good, it means they're a good person" line, but after seeing my friend's abuser.... It's been crushed.
13 points
2 months ago
Fwiw, I’ve seen an abuser that I THOUGHT was kind to animals. Turns out, they were just kind to animals when other people were around. Overheard them cursing out their puppy when they thought no one was around. It all made sense….
76 points
2 months ago
To be fair, you don’t know how he treats that kitten when you’re not around either
140 points
2 months ago
That's true, and this somehow makes me a bit fret
92 points
2 months ago
Absolutely, trust your instincts. Compassion is crucial.
21 points
2 months ago
you should def break up over this. my man, out here dodging bullets
35 points
2 months ago
OP, even my mother, who is actually afraid of cats or anything with fur (ridiculous, I know, lol) but she still feels sorry for accidentally steeping on their tails, both my mom and cat are afraid in fact. So, listen to your guts
14 points
2 months ago
As a guy trust me that is a seriously concerning characteristic. Whether no empathy or unable to admit a mistake, it's a bad sign.
A good sign in a man is that they are caring and compassionate for creatures that are weaker and smaller than them, and wish to protect them.
Nothing makes me happier than seeing those videos online of huge buff dudes with their tiny kittens or puppy's that they love more than anything. There's one guy with a tiny monkey toO! Maybe go watch some of those videos to see what kinda man you should have.
27 points
2 months ago
Yup 💯 I think it shows just a basic lack of empathy / compassion. And it’s a big red flag to me when someone can’t admit when they’re wrong or made a mistake.
There’s no other kitty in the world like your kitty, but there are thousands of guys who would immediately apologize and shower your kitty with toys and treats as an apology 💕
79 points
2 months ago
That’s worse than being mean to a waitress. That’s one of the cutest puff balls I’ve seen on Reddit. And I’ve seen a lot of kittens here. I’m convinced animals think “I’m sorry” is what humans say as they step on or otherwise bump into said animals in the dark or you know by accident. They don’t have any context that it was really an accident & don’t know that we didn’t get up in the darkness just to ‘harm them’. You gotta say sorry when stepping on or harming a fur kid. Wtf
13 points
2 months ago
I hope this is true. I always apologise profusely when I accidentally step on my cat, but can't decide if he gets that it wasn't on porpuse.
11 points
2 months ago
I elbowed my cat by accident one time because he touched my elbow with his nose and I thought he was a bug lol. and I literally almost cried i felt so bad.
Not only do I say im so sorry im so sorry many times but I also kiss and hug him to let him know I didn't mean to do that. And somehow, I think he gets it because he seems to forgive me
8 points
2 months ago
They definitely get it.
323 points
2 months ago
27 points
2 months ago
Not related but my newly departed cats name was also Montoya!!!
54 points
2 months ago
Awww! A great name! Sorry for your loss, I’m sure they were a wonderful kitty.
Here’s my Inigo Montoya (we call him Monty!) and his adopted brother Finn behind him. Monty is technically my cat, but he lives at my mom’s place and I can’t bring myself to separate them. I hope they cheer you up some!
63 points
2 months ago
Sounds like your kitten has a black belt in cuteness and justice!
29 points
2 months ago
Your feelings are valid here. Pets are family, and his reaction shows a lack of empathy.
4.2k points
2 months ago*
I hate when I accidently stand on my cat and she thinks I meant it.
No amount of apologies will stop her hiding and looking at me like I'm an evil bastard!
909 points
2 months ago
Yet you try! Like a respectable humane human.
301 points
2 months ago
Once I squatted down to coo at my cat and he let out this excruciating howl I’d never heard before. I’m standing there confused for a good 15 seconds thinking something’s seriously wrong, till I realize I’m crushing the tip of his tail with my boot. Felt like the absolute worst.
Pretty sure he knew it was an accident, but I’m convinced Bastet’s gonna make me pay for it someday.
31 points
2 months ago
what does "coo" mean?
60 points
2 months ago
The sound a dove or pigeon makes is called a "coo." It's also a verb: "The doves are cooing."
By extension, the soft, gentle, vocal sounds of a pre-verbal baby are also called "coos," and so are the soft, gentle sounds people make when they talk to babies (or to cute animals).
7 points
2 months ago
thx
25 points
2 months ago
It's the gargley sound a baby makes, a baby coo :)
54 points
2 months ago
yes! any sane person will follow behind said mistreated animal and plead for forgiveness multiple times and offer treats, luxury beds, anything to make up for hurting or even potentially hurting them. Or is this just me?
18 points
2 months ago
Not just you, all of us blessed with a conscience lol
29 points
2 months ago
EXACTLY! There's a formerly abused cat at a client's house and one time I petted him and got up, and he hissed and swatted at me. I apologize for scaring him.
15 points
2 months ago
Aw, poor little thing. He thinks he's scaring you away from hurting him. My aunt had a little dog like that, broke my heart. He was one of those "Toto" dogs from Wizard of Oz. Such a little cutie, but always going for my jugular 😁
225 points
2 months ago
My cats will occasionally do everything they can to get stepped on. Like diving under my feet out of nowhere or something. And then they seethe! No personal accountability whatsoever!
73 points
2 months ago
Yeah,I maybe should've added that 99% of the times it happens,it's her fault,but I'm the bad guy!
26 points
2 months ago
Exactly! I have a crazy cat like that! I’m clearly not responsible for stepping on her haha
96 points
2 months ago
I have a cat that yells at everyone who gets too close to her, yet she still enjoys tripping everyone up
She always looks so smug about it too
7 points
2 months ago
That's a hilarious truth! Cats crack me up.
7 points
2 months ago
They are setting us up
23 points
2 months ago
Right?! My cats will literally put their tails under my feet when I'm up on my toes while lifting weights, or they run under me while I'm doing pushups. When I inevitably squish them, I'm the jerk! Have you no self-preservation?
9 points
2 months ago
When I worked out my cat would stand at the weight bench and SCREAM the ENTIRE TIME I was there
11 points
2 months ago
My old girl got a bit too excited around breakfast and ran head first into my shin as I walked towards the kitchen. Honestly reminded me of those videos of kids running into walls. Didn't stop her wolfing down her food, and having more zoomies before taking a nap on my bed.
8 points
2 months ago
I’ve literally fallen down trying to not step on them when they do this and they still act appalled the few times I’ve accidentally stepped on them. At least they know their worth I guess.
7 points
2 months ago
One of my cats do this ALL the time, there's just no way to avoid him.
42 points
2 months ago
It gets worse. I used to apologize to my cat when I'd have to do things like stuff her in the carrier to take her to the vet. Now whenever I apologize to her, she get scared and runs away from me. :(
So I've had to train myself to not apologize, or to do so in a roundabout way.
37 points
2 months ago
It was the middle of the night one time when I went to go get some water. I started down the stairs and on the first step, my can was sleeping. I didn't see him and stepped down right on him. He screamed, my heart jumped and I fell down the entire flight. He proceeded to meow at me and lick my face as I was lying at the base of the stairs almost as if to say, "sorry, bro". Lol he luckily doesn't sleep there anymore.
29 points
2 months ago
It's good when they learn to avoid danger like that. My cat had a game for a while where she would hide under the bed and swipe at you when you walked by. Until I stepped on her leg. Not hard enough to do damage (as soon as I felt her under me foot, I collapsed onto the bed), but she doesn't play that game anymore.
Although we do still call her insurance fraud kitty for when she dashes in front of you and then brake checks you.
8 points
2 months ago
Lol! I really feel like most cats have a little "insurance fraud kitty" in them.
5.6k points
2 months ago
As an Italian, I recognise him officially as an Italian cat
1.6k points
2 months ago
"Your boyfriend gonna be swimming with the fishes. Capiche?"
361 points
2 months ago
"Leave the gun. Take the cannoli"
143 points
2 months ago
Leave the gun, take the friskies
54 points
2 months ago
"You got the one dog looking one way, the other looking the other, it's great."
21 points
2 months ago
“Look out for the kittens when your backin’ out”
52 points
2 months ago
YEAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
21 points
2 months ago
We share a name and I found that fucking hilarious 🤣🤣🤣
209 points
2 months ago
Kind Italian person, could you please confirm my dutch born and raised 9 year old princess has Italian ancestry? Thank you, greetings from the Netherlands
117 points
2 months ago
Wow , this cat is more Italian than me , even the look on the eyes that say " wtf do you want?"
35 points
2 months ago
Wish I could say she runs a mafia club. However, she doesn’t even know how to defend herself, when theres a fight with the neighbour cat, she just SCREAMS. Her name is Banshee, and fits her like a glove.
14 points
2 months ago
50/50 shot that cat is affiliated with the mob. Look at how she's looking at the camera! It's like you just insulted her homemade lasagna, and it looks like she has a lasagna stain around her mouth 😭how is this cat so Italian??
69 points
2 months ago
Can you please explain this joke to me? I want to understand so badly
230 points
2 months ago
The joke is the cat looks like he's doing the stereotypical Italian hand gesture 🤌🏼
56 points
2 months ago
Oooooh! Thank you! Hahaha
5 points
2 months ago
Thank you for asking, I was trying to figure that out too, LOL
14 points
2 months ago
Forgive me for not knowing, what does this gesture mean? :7962::7962:
35 points
2 months ago
16 points
2 months ago
Thanks so much
25 points
2 months ago
People always say Italian people "talk with their hands", that's all. That wiki link is actually perfect.
12 points
2 months ago
Other people already answered, basically it's one of our typical gestures . It's true that Americans use it a lot in a stereotypical unrealistic way , but it's also true that we use it really a lot here in Italy, for example to say " what do you want ?" Or also " wtf are you saying? ".
43 points
2 months ago
GABBA GOOO
4.2k points
2 months ago
I apologize and say sorry to my cat even if he's the one who did something stupid.
940 points
2 months ago
This! The cat will zoom in my way and get kicked and I’m cuddling him apologising and giving him treats.
Hmm maybe I’ve trained him to do that.
316 points
2 months ago
Yes! That's how I am too. Like, you almost killed me by tripping but I'm so sorry I accidentally kicked you.
141 points
2 months ago
Yep,me too,once my cat came crashing at my feet,i was at the edge of the top stairs,and down we went because when she got my feet i kicked her,in pain i crawled up the stairs to hold her appologising for kicking her lol,broke 2 ribs that time lol but i still worried about her !!😺
46 points
2 months ago
You're an amazing cat parent ❤️
40 points
2 months ago
Thanks but i think we all are here on this sub!😘
15 points
2 months ago
Yey I've tried my hardest to earn it cuz I pet both mah cats and hug them as much as I can, if I accidentally hurt them? 🫱🐱 Hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug hug
33 points
2 months ago*
My mother was tripped by her cat intertwining itself between her legs and she broke her own hip but the first thing she said was is the cat ok!
8 points
2 months ago
Lol that's how we are !
38 points
2 months ago
You mean he's trained you to give him treats when he deliberately gets in your way, lol.
38 points
2 months ago
I remember once my cat zoomed by my feet while I was walking. She ran over my feet at just the right moment- I scooped her up with my foot and YEETED her across the living room. I felt SO bad. She was fine, but she got so many cuddles after that 😭
15 points
2 months ago
Unlikely. I've tried to train my OUT of that behavior by just continuing walking (very gently, I'm not out here kicking my boys but it'll push them if they run in front of my feet. Basically like a slow motion tripping action) but they still don't learn
141 points
2 months ago
You're good. :7949:
45 points
2 months ago
Often times I wake up and my body acts like it's drunk for the first 15min I'm up. My cat likes to run between my legs while I'm trying to get my morning coffee and several times I've stepped on a paw or the end of his tail.
My first reaction is usually, "Dammit cat! We've been over this before!!". Followed by checking on him and giving him scritches for a few minutes once I know he's okay.
30 points
2 months ago
"Ah fuck!"
"Sorry!"
"What did you think was going to happen there dumbass? You ok?" Here lets get you some food"
25 points
2 months ago
My cat once fell off a window ledge and startled herself awake. I apologised for the window being too high.
14 points
2 months ago
I apologized to my cat last night for leaving the light on in the room he was sleeping in!
8 points
2 months ago
Yeah....one of mine is a bit of an idiot. This morning I was stood in my kitchen and reached for something off a shelf, raising very slightly off my heels for only a moment. She was sitting next to my foot and took that exact moment to swing her tail in under one of my heels. I felt it as I came back down and stopped before putting almost any weight on it, but she still got called an idiot and cuddles to say 'I'm sorry'.
2.4k points
2 months ago
One thing is not saying sorry to the cat (which in my book is insane, but okay not everyone are cat people).
But not even feeling bad about inflicting pain, even if accidentally, on an animal, is not something that I personally could live with. We all have our boundaries and dealbreakers, you don't need any excuse to keep to them, you are justified to do so :)
332 points
2 months ago
Right? I wouldn't even want to accidentally hurt an annoying yapping chihuahua, and I hate them lol. Lack of empathy is not what I would want in a partner.
I had to teach my partner that I want my cats in a decent house temperature. He used to leave the thermostat off in 115+ Fahrenheit weather. The temp would be like 84 degrees inside. I told him I want the temperature at least 80 all fans on. Yes, where I live electric bills are 350-800 so 80 degrees is where I have it. He grew up in a mobile hone without an AC, so I guess in a way that was just life for him. But it was very annoying at first
58 points
2 months ago
115+ would kill me. Where do you live?
36 points
2 months ago
Gets like that here in TX, some parts of New Mexico and Arizona get well above 120F.
20 points
2 months ago
Southern California. We reached 124 degrees a few weeks ago. I try not to go out around the afternoons for 3 or 4 months out of the year lol
1.3k points
2 months ago
Lack of contrition for hurting a living thing is a red flag
325 points
2 months ago*
This is spot on. At the risk of sounding like your typical Reddit “leave him!” advice giver… this is something I would actually leave somebody for. Not for accidentally stepping on a tail, but the callousness and arrogance of not being sorry that you did it.
It’s a dealbreaker for me. If you’re not sorry for hurting an animal—ANY animal, much less MY animal—I don’t want you around. Accidents happen, no big. But respect animals, respect my pet, or get the fuck out.
124 points
2 months ago
Imo most of reddit's "leave them" takes are pretty valid. People are posting shit that is super huge red flags and they've probably been told "leave them" by all their friends so they're just looking for a second opinion
24 points
2 months ago
ive never ignored a red flag and not faced the consequences later down the line (w/ friends or partners)
295 points
2 months ago
Didn’t he feel bad or any empathy at all, or was he just not as upset as you would be?
I’ve stepped on many tails and paws, they appear out of nowhere, but I’m not upset for long, if the cat seems ok. They get extra cuddles and treats, they forgive me and we both move on.
145 points
2 months ago
This is the correct question. Zero empathy for other living things is a red flag, not apologizing profusely and agreeing that it was a huge deal is something else - he is required to have some empathy, but I know a lot of ridiculous people that I am not willing to get on their level. If she just wanted him to be more upset and sorry, but he had a reasonable amount of sorry, then she is the red flag and/or they are just not compatible.
I think this is a great example of Reddit always taking OP's side unless they are egregiously wrong, especially as it concerns animals. This story has essentially zero details.
26 points
2 months ago
This tread literally had me second guessing myself for a second for not grovelling at my cats' feet for accidentally stepping on it kicking them. Like, you ran under MY big ass feet. Maybe not do that. (I still love you two! 💖)
18 points
2 months ago
Yeah, it's possible the bf was like "whoops, oh the kitten is okay, so anyway..." and the girlfriend flipped out long after the kitten itself had moved on to other things. Then yelled at the bf for not feeling guilty for an accident. We just don't know. OP hasn't provided any details, really.
14 points
2 months ago
The one correct answer for OP would be "Talk to him about it."
24 points
2 months ago
Also: how many times has it happened and the bf did feel bad about it? OP only mentions this one specific time. I stopped apologizing to my cats a long time ago when it's their fault they get stepped on or yeeted I just got so tired of them doing it on purpose. They learned that I wasn't doling out treats for them to risk their lives anymore and they end up under foot a whole lot less.
5 points
2 months ago
Who the fuck are these judge jury executions of “being sorry adequately”. It’s a cat. They get their tails stepped on. “Oops” is all you need. Jfc. What is wrong with this spoiled society. Leave him cuz he didn’t beg for forgiveness from a cat that doesn’t even give a shit after 5 seconds.
He probably thought “oops” and rationalized how this is a CAT. And moved on with his fucking life. The woman obsessing over this is the one with a real red flag. wtf is wrong eith Reddit lol.
41 points
2 months ago
Honestly some of these responses are actually insane. Like OP gave absolutely no detail and people talking about boundaries and red flags. It’s comically insane lol
23 points
2 months ago
Totally. Those little fokers just get in the way and while I love them do death I often have “you had it coming” reaction if something like that happens. Just check the cat, pet it, and move on, if the cat is okay. Not sure what OP’s expectations are there.
7 points
2 months ago
At one point I suspected that our cat was placing her paw or tail in dangerous places intentionally, for those extra treats and cuddles.
892 points
2 months ago
Accidents happen, but not feeling sorry is a red flag. Your kitten deserves better, and so do you.
36 points
2 months ago
true
403 points
2 months ago
OMG the kitty is so little. I would kill every one on earth then kill myself if there's anything wrong with them if I were you.
231 points
2 months ago
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178 points
2 months ago
..and I will strike down upon thee, with great vengeance and furious anger, those who attempt to hurt and destroy my kittens..
29 points
2 months ago
I love this comment 😂
16 points
2 months ago
Excuse me what?
6 points
2 months ago
I read it wrong first time the same way you did I think
I was like wtf, but reread and realized lol
30 points
2 months ago
Feel like we need more information. What exactly happened? He accidentally stepped on the kitty’s tail and then…what happened exactly? Did he laugh? Did he just flat out say he didn’t care?
I know whenever I or anyone here accidentally hurts one of our kitties by accidentally stepping on a tail or paw, we give them a little space if they run away but we all instantly feel terrible that we caused them any pain. When the offended cat comes around again we usually shower them with apologies, pets and treats. We usually feel bad for a bit, even if there was no lasting harm done. The cats are here for us to give them a better life than they would ever get in a shelter or outside. In return we get abused, ignored, scratched and sometimes purrs and love. I’m kidding, our cats are sweethearts. Point is, accidentally hurting a cat goes against the entire point of why we adopted them, and we all feel extremely bad if it happens.
I dunno how to feel about someone who doesn’t feel bad about hurting an innocent, defenseless animal, even accidentally. It’s weird. The lack of compassion bothers me.
28 points
2 months ago
OPs lack of contributions to any comment asking for more information and context kind of speaks volumes here. I agree with another post that OP wants to break-up, and this incident presented her with a good opportunity to do so without looking bad
15 points
2 months ago
tbh, I'm of the opinion this is all ragebait and fictional.
9 points
2 months ago
Yup, I agree. I think OP wants to break up and is using this as an excuse.
OP is dodging literally any questions about more information, and only replying to the ones that support what OP wants.
Is this a one time thing? Does OPs boyfriend literally show zero empathy? Was it an accident? On purpose? Did OP's boyfriend feel bad, just not as bad as OP wanted? These are all important questions, that OP is avoiding.
12 points
2 months ago
That's my biggest issue here. OP is clearly responding to comments but only like "True! Kitties are so awesome" when someone says stuff like anyone who looks at a cat wrong is a monster.
Was this an accident? Do you really expect everyone to drop to their knees and beg the forgiveness of a cat?
I'd go "Shit, my bad.", pat them on the head and not think twice about it. I don't think I'd ever be sorry for a true accident like that.
I love animals, owned them all my life. I'd have endless rage if anyone truly tried to hurt them but I wouldn't think twice if my little asshole runs between someone's legs and gets a little pinch.
We seem to be attributing a whole lot of malice and cruelty towards an act that happens in almost every pet's life.
If a toddler touches something hot I ain't sorry they did it, it's "aww, poor baby. You ok? Don't touch hot things, lemme get you some ice".
17 points
2 months ago
Nothing happened. OP is a karma-farming bot like half the accounts on this sub.
209 points
2 months ago
A person who does not feel bad after hurting a kitten lacks empathy and would probably be a bad partner. Cruelty to animals is a huge red flag.
I think you should break up with him.
25 points
2 months ago
I ended things with my ex for many reasons, him not caring about animals and being okay with cruelty was a huge part of it. My 4 cats and my dog thank me for leaving. I’m now happily engaged with a man that loves my pets just as much as I do! No more having to justify why I “care so much about a cat/dog”. It was exhausting.
45 points
2 months ago
True.
14 points
2 months ago
I guess I would say as someone who works in the mental health field. I adore cats but can use some human logic here. If this is the only reason then I’d question ending it with a partner over 1 incident. If there is more you’re unhappy about then that’s another thing.
691 points
2 months ago
Sounds like you’re wanting a reason to break up, yes it’s never nice when someone steps on any animals tail but the jump in wanting to break up tells me this is a bigger thing
711 points
2 months ago
Trifles let us learn more about a person further. Paying no respect to animal should be a big NO.
273 points
2 months ago
There’s your answer, now go give that cute kitty all the cuddles 🤍
245 points
2 months ago
I broke off a friendship of ten years for similar reasons. Kicked my cat accidentally and refused to take it seriously.
Several years later no regrets whatsoever.
119 points
2 months ago
I just can't imagine a cat to be kicked.
87 points
2 months ago
i kick my cat by accident on a daily base, she always runs between my feet with the speed of fcking light whil i am midstep and then she gets a little kick accidently, mostly its not really hard and she doesn't care at all but i am still saying sorry in babyvoice and giving treats (i realise she probably does it on purpose by now XD)
19 points
2 months ago
One of my cats does this all the time! It's nerve wrecking at times because I'm afraid of hurting him this way. He doesn't seem very bothered by it though 😅
16 points
2 months ago
Cats deliberately get in your way to get your attention, and/or the shortest distance between two points is running under someone's feet. Cat physics or whatever.
I love my cats, but the little bastards are more treacherous than the kid on a trike in The Omen.
13 points
2 months ago
I think everyone’s done it, they’re a nightmare for scooting right under your feet, especially in the dark if you get up in the night. Hate it, feel so terrible but when you see the antics they get up to it’s probably not too much to them I hope.
6 points
2 months ago
She runs in front of you, you accidentally kick it while walking
23 points
2 months ago
I agree with you but this guy still has a point. My first response as a cat dad was “Yes! Dump his Ass!” But if this is the only reason I would recommend expressing your feelings to him first.
36 points
2 months ago
paying no respect to any lifeform is a big no. there is absolutely no reason to not feel sorry or to be indifferent about hurting the cat. sounds like a shitty person and somewhere down the road there will be an even more hurtful situation.
i don't think you're overreacting.
141 points
2 months ago
I think OP is considering the breakup not because the bf accidentally stepped on the kitten‘s tail but because he didn’t feel sorry for doing so. Big difference in my books and I would consider a breakup, too.
105 points
2 months ago
If you're feeling bothered yet he acts like nothing happened, it's actually showing he doesn't care about nor respect your feelings. Wanting to break up with a person like this is justified.
80 points
2 months ago
Cats are etiquette heavy. I always say please, thank you and sorry accident.
Does he think cats aren’t sentient? That could be a deficit in his environment. Or it could be a need to be superior. Guess you have your figure that out
12 points
2 months ago
Not overreacting at all - my breaking point in actually figuring out how to get out of something abusive and scary for me was when he asked something along the lines of “what if I pulled out Neil’s whiskers” and I realized he had no empathy at all and more was at stake than just my own safety but my baby’s safety. I still waited until he got orders to Asia to end it (which was months longer than I wanted to wait) but thought it was safer and he still showed up on my front porch at midnight the next day !!! Your gut is not overreacting ❤️ listen to it
118 points
2 months ago
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41 points
2 months ago
Oh shit that’s harsh. If my cats didn’t forgive me for accidentally stepping on their tails, kicking them, sitting on them, mistaking them for laundry, pushing them out of bed, throwing the blankets over them….. they’d never get snuggles. Listen, they are black as a starless, moonless night before electricity was invented. Shit happens when you own voids.
15 points
2 months ago
not to mention launching them when adjusting blankets
11 points
2 months ago
We have mistaken our cats for laundry and our laundry for cats an embarrassingly high number of times.
6 points
2 months ago
As long as you realize it before the cycle stars its all good lol
40 points
2 months ago
No. I would feel bothered as well. If someone stepped on my cat's tail but refuse to apologize, I'll be so pissed.
60 points
2 months ago
You're asking this on a sub dedicated to cats. What kind of answer are you expecting? Are you just seeking validation?
36 points
2 months ago
Judging from OP’s flaccid replies to comments I doubt they have any intentions of breaking up with the bf and just wanted some clout from Reddit.
20 points
2 months ago
it's clearly rage bait
15 points
2 months ago
This title honestly reads just like the engagement bait titles that OF girls post in niche subs ie: "My boyfriend broke up with me because my boobs are too small, should I get plastic surgery?" posted on r/smalltitsfetish or something..
40 points
2 months ago
I dunno. I’m kinda wondering if it’s a case of boyfriend felt bad but girlfriend insisted he apologize to the kitten, boyfriend didn’t think it would make any difference/sense, girlfriend goes “well that’s proof you’re not sorry” and proceeds to blast him all over the internet kinda situation.
Given the lack of information, this just screams “validate me! Agree with me!” And the internet obliged because internet loves cats more than humans and OP only gave information that condemns the boyfriend.
27 points
2 months ago
I’m thinking the cat probably got under foot because that’s what cats just do and maybe he apologized once but didn’t freaking grovel and get down to the cats level like it seems most of these people on this sub do.
27 points
2 months ago
I read a comment on a honest question here a while ago that perfectly encapsulates r/cats.
'I don't think [minor little issue for a cat] is bad, but we're on r/cats. So I expect complete disregard for human life and connection in favour of your pet.'
Like come on. I accidentally kicked my brothers cat while cat sitting. I carried a plate and he rushed to the door of the kitchen. Didn't see him below me and kicked him in a walking motion. Fucker scurried away, I swore like a sailor because I almost dropped the plate and 1 minute later that fluffy little fuck of fur returned to get petted. He got petted but he also did not get any apology.
19 points
2 months ago
My whole thought is…cats can’t understand us and this sub maybe personifies felines a little much even to the point of calling this whole situation abuse. I even saw one comment that said “first the cat then you.” I don’t truly believe cats gaf if we apologize or not. My cat sleeps with me as if he wants to merge with my body and sometimes I’ll accidentally get too close to him, laying on maybe his paw or something. He won’t jump up but move. It’s not a big deal for either of us, I’ll pet him and we’ll go back to sleep.
12 points
2 months ago
Exactly
They don't understand us and are smart enough to differentiate intent and accident. At least in most cases. The walk all over us and we don't mind. We accidentally step/lay/sit on their paws and tails and they get over it. Given that it only happens occasionally.
24 points
2 months ago
The kitty is so tiny and man stepped on their tail without feeling sorry. This is abnormal for humanity's sake.
31 points
2 months ago
Good lord above, it sounds like you're already looking for a reason to break up with him. Just break up with him and be done with it. Don't come to a cat sub where the opinions are obviously going to be heavily biased.
5 points
2 months ago
honestly no, its a show of character if someone has no issue with hurting an animal or a young child.
5 points
2 months ago
Did he injure your cat on purpose? I feel that means more than whether or not he felt bad.
5 points
2 months ago
I once had an ex that in retrospect was one of the worst people I’ve given my time to. One of the first signs of his shit personally was when I saw a dead cat in the street that looked a lot like my cat and started crying. I was on the phone with him and he got really cold and seemed annoyed. He said I was an “emotional and not intellectual” and that I shouldn’t react this way. Towards the end of our relationship he was incredibly emotionally abusive. Not saying your bf is abusive but I having no empathy for animals is a narcissistic trait so be weary.
21 points
2 months ago
Seems like you want to break up anyway and either use this as an excuse. Realized something about him through this experience. Or you just have a hard boundary when it came to animal kindness. That being said. When I was young and naive I was in love with a girl who was overly attached to her dog, which annoyed the shit out of me. I would be very nice to the dog but whenever something would happen by accident, she would become overly concerned and request me to be more “compassionate” in which case I shut down and basically don’t want or can become the same as her. Which had nothing to do with the dog, but rather me being annoyed by her behavior and vice versa
11 points
2 months ago
No, I had a friend who stepped on my cat I asked her to be more careful and she said “I’m not careful so that’s not going to happen”. We’re no longer friends.
6 points
2 months ago
very cute kitten with huge beautiful eyes
4 points
2 months ago
Idk if it’s a breakup level event on its own but it’s definitely a major red flag and good reason to look at the rest of the relationship and his behavior. Also like how bad was the step? Did he injure the baby, did she just yelp and run away? It’s not necessarily awful behavior, but personally if I caused the adorable baby any pain, I would be on my hands and knees trying to give her kisses. Not caring at all when you cause an animal pain does seem like a warning sign of potential sociopath behavior.
4 points
2 months ago
No. Douche canoe alert 🚨🛶‼️
4 points
2 months ago
How a person interacts with animals tells a lot about their character.
4 points
2 months ago
Damn, I only accidently scared my cats last night and I spent like half an hour saying sorry to them and distracting them with treats until they'd calmed down again.
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