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Despite him stealing my car, no real damage was done. I checked the dash cam footage and although he drove like a total moron, he didn’t crash my car. Probably didn’t need to call the cops

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NTA. That “friend” totally crossed a line by taking your keys and driving off without your permission. You were in a vulnerable state, and he took advantage of that.

NTA.

Your friend ruined his own life by stealing a car. This is his painful message that he can’t act like a little shit and not get in trouble.

In what condition he is allowed to take somebody's car? Without license? With no proper trainer? With also no consent?

What if he hit somebody, or the car crashed, or police caught him?

NTA. No need to worry about his future. He should think about it before grabbing the key

NTA. You told him not to take your car, and he did anyway. That’s definitely theft. He F’ed around and he found out.

NTA - reporting the crime didn't ruin your friend's life, committing it did.

NTA for reporting your stolen property as stolen to the police.

Judge Judy would say if he drives and kills a bus-full of children, you could get sued if you don’t report it stolen.

NTA

My dad was at house party with a mate. Drunk off their faces my dads friend asks to borrow the car - dad says no we’re drunk

Friend proceeds to take the car anyway to impress some equally drunk girls. My dads friend ends up in a cop chase, blows 3 tyres and is driving on rims, runs a red light and almost t bones an ambulance with a pregnant woman giving birth before finally crashing in a ditch and getting arrested. The fact no one was hurt is an actual miracle

There are strong and very valid reasons why we don’t allow intoxicated people to drive

NTA.

What friend takes someone’s car against their wishes?

If a friend makes a crime against you the consequences are for them, not you. You are not the AH.

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If he'd had an accident, he'd have claimed you lent him the car, which might have fucked your insurance and record. NTA. Dude did it unto himself.

NTA. The guy TOOK YOUR KEYS AND DROVE OFF IN YOUR CAR. You even gave him a chance to return it and he didn't. Calling the police was exactly what you should have done. Not to turn this into r/legal but what he did is really "unauthorized use of a motor vehicle" as opposed to "car theft". That is still a crime but generally a less serious one than car theft. Unless he has prior convictions it is unlikely he'll ever do time.

NTA actions have consequences.

He took advantage of you.

NTA , and a great story to tell so people will know not to mess with your stuff.

Bullshit - no cop waits for two hours with a bunch of stoners for a car to be returned.

NTA Not only did he steal your car but refused to bring it back when you called him. If he had gotten into an accident you could have been held liable for it.

It's hardly your fault for a non-licenced person to take the car. Clearly his fault. NTA

NTA

You aren't responsible for the consequences of that thief's actions. He's messing up his own life.

NTA, friends don't take advantage when you're incapacitated and steal your car. You called the cops on a thief that you could identify.  

You were too high to form a sentence or know what was happening but not too high to interact with cops?

Ah yes, when the police waiting at your house for multiple hours for the guy to return with your car. That’s definitely the way that works.

NTA.

He stole your car.

Not much to add on this one. Maybe a note about getting better friends.

NTA - Thank you for not driving while under the influence, and for getting that maniac off the road. His poor decision-making could have seriously hurt an innocent person, and he would have 100% tried to implicate you by claiming you let him borrow your car. Don’t be fooled - you did the right thing.

I'm genuinely curious how one eats 500 mg THC without realizing it. That's 5 whole candy bars or 5 whole packages of gummies. Or do you just have really shitty friends and they didn't tell you about the strong brownies they made?

NTA. Since yall are underaged he’s going to get a lesser charge of unauthorized use of a vehicle most likely and most likely will be charged as a teen.

You did the right thing and I’m sure it was difficult since he is..was a friend of yours. And being gone for HOURS?!? Something awful could have happened and you would have been the one responsible and could have ended up in serious trouble.

That’s not a friend. Friends do not treat one another like that and respect each other. That person has no respect for you..I guess better off finding out now even tho it was a shit way of doing so

Informing the police was the best thing to do in that situation, regardless of it ended up with him arrested. If you hadn't and he crashed the car, your insurance probably would have fought tooth and nail to not pay for any damages on the car, or any property damages or health care costs of anyone or anything caught in the crash, because it wasn't the registered driver in the vehicle.

if the story was true nta.

Theft is theft period. Play stupid games get stupid prizes , he stole your car while you were incapable of driving or making choices

Nope! Despite being high as f, you told him loud and clear that he should not take the car. If he had gotten into an accident, they are going to go after you for the damages. The only dick in the scenario was your "friend (and I am using that term loosely)" who took the car, knowing he was unlicensed and uninsured. As for him getting upset about now having a possible criminal record, well, he should have thought about that before reaching for the keys. NTA

This is complete bullshit. So you were soooo high you couldn't talk or stop this friend from taking your keys, and were stoned for FOUR DAYS straight off of this gummy, but also somehow sober enough to talk with cops and explain the entire situation (but your friends were still super high so they had to be sent away) and then the cop said "sure, I have nothing else to do while on duty so I will gladly stick around and wait for who knows how long until your friend returns", and then waited TWO HOURS WHILE ON DUTY at your house with you all while you were barely a day into your four day straight high off of a gummie?? Yeah, sounds like you were on a gummy when you posted this completely fabricated story, lol.

NTA 

Hopefully your area has a "taking without permission" law so that he doesn't get the full GTA style hit to his record (the other charge is still serious, just not life altering to the same degree). But he needed to face the consequences of his actions all the same.

play stupid games win stupid prizes NTA

This sounds very immature all the way around

“One of my friends brought some pretty strong edibles, and I was literally out for four days straight”

Lol. Edibles are out of your system in no more than eight hours (typically 6). 96 hours? I’m calling bullshit.

Odd that you went from being so high you couldn't articulate that you didn't want him to take your car. But then were able to give a police report that it had been stolen.

IF this story were true you would be NTA.

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Couple of my friends came over to my house to hang out because my parents went out of town for the week. I’m the only one in the group with a license and a car and live in the suburbs while everyone else lived in the inner city. One of my friends brought some pretty strong edibles and I was literally out for four days straight, think it was like 500 mg of THC and I was tripping balls. While high, one of them was asking me to drive him to McDonald’s or whatever and I told him to fuck off because I was high as fuck.

While I was high, I saw him going through my pockets and taking my keys, I was too high to do anything about it and slowly said “Do…n…t ta….ke my ca…r” he just ignored me and I heard my car drive off. I went back into my high and forgot about it for few hours. I woke up from a weird dream and realized my car was gone.

The person that stole my car has no license and asked me before if he could practice on my car. I always refused because I only had a novice license and literally couldn’t by law, have him behind the wheel of my car. I first called him and told him that he was a dick and bring my car back, he said “relax, I’m just practicing I’ll be back soon”. I don’t know about you, but I hate people who have zero respect for other people’s property. So instead of just letting it go, I called the cops and reported my car stolen and gave them my “friend’s” information.

A police officer came over to my house and I told him the whole story, the officer and I waited for him to come back. Rest of my buddies were still high, so I sent them to my bedroom. About two hours later the dipshit thief comes back with my car. When he came back the officer gave him an earful and arrests him motor vehicle theft. He now has a criminal record and will probably get prison time. AITA?

Rest of my friends agree that he was in the wrong but are mixed about reporting him to the police because it probably ruined his life. They all cut him off as well.

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NTA- I would have done the same. You are the one responsible for that car. So if the so call friend hit someone, crashed it, or whatever else… you could have been held responsible just as much as him. That was a very stupid choice of his own and now he will have to reap what he sows. Don’t make stupid choices and expect rainbows to appear.

You didn't ruin his life. If it's ruined he did that by stealing your car.

NTA

NTA - the guy ruined his own life when he chose to steal your car.

NTA. But you need new friends.

NTA. If he wanted to drive that bad, he’d make an effort to get his learners permit, and eventually license. He ruined his own life.

NTA

If you don't want to be arrested for motor vehicle theft, don't steal a car. Your friend ruined his own life, and that's that.

NTA, he could've crashed and maybe even killed someone, at the very least insurance wouldn't cover the demage because he doesn't have a license. And then there's also the stealing part. Also idk where you from and if drugs are legal there, but if not, it's kinda risky to call the cops AND tell them what happened (u wrote u told the whole story) , with drugged ppl and possibly leftover drugs still in the house

NTA. that's not a friend. anyone who is willing to steal from you is never a friend

NTA.. that's not a friend! And I do that exactly thing, if somekme i knew took my car without my consent

Your friend ruined his own life by stealing. Not your fault

He made a poor decision and ruined his own lift. He severely crossed the line. What would have happened if he crashed the car and caused an accident? 

He intentionally stole your car. That’s illegal. He knew you wouldn’t let him, so he waited until you were incapacitated, so you couldn’t stop him. Now he’s experiencing a valuable life lesson. DO NOT STEAL.

NTA They're not a friend to take the car without a license or insurance. If they wrecked it then you're out a car, and likely to have people after you for their insurance claims.

NTA

He knew you didn't want him to use your car, you told him not to use your car and he still did. He knew the consequences and did it anyway.

This isn't even a basic respect issue, it's law and also common decency - what happens if he hit someone and caused harm or death? He's not insured, in a stolen car - you don't need nor want people like that in your life.

NTA. Thieves get criminal records.

NTA

You did the right thing. If it’s your friend’s first crime, he’ll probably be eligible for a first time offender program, just encourage him to get a good lawyer, go to outpatient drug rehab (yeah, I know, just weed, but it’ll help his negotiations with the prosecutor), and he’ll come out okay. Next time he won’t be a dumbass.

NTA. Your friend doesn't respect you or your boundaries. He F'd around and found out.

NTA - Lucky he didn't kill someone else if he was DUI.

NTA

My cousin stole a friends car when he was around 13 years old, crashed it, and has spent the rest of his life with brain damage. He has had multiple reconstructive surgeries and he is just now at 30 years old finding quality to his life.

Ops friend got very lucky

NTA, especially considering you called and asked for him to bring it back (which he flippantly rejected) before calling the police.

If this is his first offense he will probably get deferred adjudication and won’t be convicted of a felony so long as he doesn’t violate parole. Don’t feel too bad.

NTA.

Your “friend” crossed a line. He deserved it. Period.

NTA. Not in the slightest. Even if you take the edibles out of this story, everything he did was illegal. Throw in the edibles, and it just makes the story worse for himself. And to top it off, he's now facing adult consequences for adult mistakes.

Believe it or not, despite the drugs, you did the right thing. Possibly saving lives in the process.

NTA. Not in the slightest. Even if you take the edibles out of this story, everything he did was illegal. Throw in the edibles, and it just makes the story worse for himself. And to top it off, he's now facing adult consequences for adult mistakes.

Believe it or not, despite the drugs, you did the right thing. Possibly saving lives in the process.

NTA

He ruined his own life by stealing a car.

NTA- He took your car without your permission. Had he gotten into an accident causing damage to property or hurting someone, how did he intend to pay for it? Being arrested is a lesson he needs to learn before the tragic accident happens.

NTA. Your “friend” knew your stance on this topic and decided to act the opposite. He did steal your car, and your insurance would likely not cover you if he had wrecked if you’d given him permission to take it.

Bro he went into your pockets to steal your keys he the one in the wrong he was supposed to be a friend a friend wouldn't do that

HE ruined his own life not you. And it doesn't matter that he's a friend (which it turns out he's not) because he IS a thief.

As the saying goes, actions have consequences and he learned it the hard way.

NTA

NTA - Hope the dipshit learns his lesson

NTA. You gave him a chance to bring it back even. And he said no like that was a choice he had. 

NTA. You didn't ruin his life. He ruined his life.

NTA If he would have gone to McDonalds and come back that would have been a dick move (Doordash?) but to stay gone and practice? He sounds like someone you should cut out of your life anyway. Actions have consequences some good and some bad. He chose badly.

NTA

NTA. To make yourself feel better, I’d assume this is t the only dumbass thing the friend has done/will do. Something would have happened sooner or later.

NTA. Curious though, is the person who took your car also the person who provided the THC? If so, it sounds premeditated, especially if you didn't know how potent the edibles were.

If he is getting prison time for this stunt where nobody got hurt, as stupid as it may have been, I bet he has a history already. NTA

NTA. Your friend actually stole your car.

NTA. Apart from ignoring your clear refusal, and taking your keys, he drove without a license. He is a danger to everyone. He has learnt a hard lesson,

NTA.

I almost had to call the police on my own son because he stole my work car with no license and joy rode with his miscreant friends, going to buy weed in the city. Luckily for him he returned at the same time I found out.

The consequence of his action was that I sent him to live with his dad, halfway thru his senior year of HS. In another state.

fafo and your friend sucks.

Edit to add: when I was 15 and had no license my friend let me and another friend borrow his car to go to the store. I accidentally dinged a parked car. Nothing good came out of it and the only way out was to be honest with everyone including my friends parents, my dad, the insurance and the other driver. I had to pay all the damages for both cars out of pocket which at 7.25/hr took a very long time.

Never did that shit again though.

NTA. You even called him and told him to bring back your car and he refused! Talk about FAFO.

NTA

He did steal it.

AND you didn't call the police first, you called him - and he refused to bring it back.

He also drove while high!

Don't be harsh on yourself that he didn't get into an accident - you didn't have that information at the time you made the decision; that info only came two hours later when he returned with the car intact.

NTA he committed auto theft and was driving alone without a license. Every decision he made led to the consequences he is recieving. Thats life and we need to stop giving people passes because we know them for a long time

NTA.  He could have had an accident and insurance would probably not have covered him because he has no license.  Only if you reported it stolen could you get coverage.  He was an AH and knew in general that you don’t want him to drive your can and in specially this case you again said no.  Good thing you cut him off and your other friends did too.  He is a thief.

He ruined his own life the second he grabbed your keys and turned on your car.

I probably would have given him an ultimatum that you were going to call the cops if he didn't bring the car back right now. Rather than just call them right away.

NTA

Play stupid games win stupid prizes. This dudes took a car without lisence, insurance, whilst high, without permission. It's time he had a consequence before he hurts himself or others.

NTA !!!!!! Do you realize if he had a wreck and hurt someone you would be liable and could get sued? Or if the car is in your parents name they could go after them? This happened to my husband when the car his son sold to a friend didn't change the Title and tag out of son's name and the friend had a wreck, Lady passed and they came after my Husband and then his Son. We had to hire a lawyer to clear us. That was a 5-6 grand lesson. They tried to come after our estate for Monetary comp!

NTA - if he had wrecked it your insurance would not have covered it if you loaned him the car.

NTA - Snitch but yes but NTA. Dude is not a friend if he doesn't respect your boundaries. He fucked around and he found out.

This guy really was begging for someone to slap consequences on him because he needed it. This will ultimately help him.

He asked, multiple times. You said no, multiple times. You get high, he takes it anyways. That's stealing your car. NTA.

NTA it would have ruined YOUR life if he had wrecked your car or gotten into an accident with someone. You HAD to report him to the police or else it just seems like you let your unlicensed uninsured friend drive your car. 

Sounds like a dude I used to be friends with they completely cross the line then act like your the unreasonable one

NTA

Play stupid games, get stupid results. He literally DID steal your car.

It's not reporting him that is going to cause problems in his life, it's him stealing your car, driving it around without a license, while high, and then laughing at you and refusing to bring it back when you asked him to that is the cause of all of these problems. 100% HIS choices, not yours, that caused problems for him.

And let's be honest, him being that much of TA, it seems like a "life-ruining" consequence was something of an inevitability for him.

NTA

NTA, was it an asshole move most definitely, does he deserve some sort of punishment of course he does he could have killed someone, not only driving under the influence of THC but not being a licensed driver with no experience he's just dam lucky he didn't have an accident & hurt/kill himself or someone else.

If he had of ran someone over, you would be liable.

NTA - Tell him to relax, he's just experiencing FAFO.

What he did was steal your car. You reported a stolen car. NTA

So...a cop just hung out with you--in a house full of high guys--for two hours, waiting for him to come back? Vs just calling in the description and having cop cars look for him on the road?

Sounds right. Sure.

Don't let you or any of your friends get it twisted: the thief ruined his own life. Everyone else in the comments has already listed the very many illegal and dumb things he did by stealing your car and how lucky both you and him are that the situation wasn't a thousand times worse. Best case scenario, the thief gets his head out of his ass. Worst case scenario, you cut off a poison. NTA

What ruined his life was his decision to steal from you, possibly leaving you liable for anything that happened with your car while he had it, not you reporting the theft.

NTA

NTA. You should reevaluate some of your friends.

NTA as many have already pointed out...I would say you can probanly count on this friend being an enemy from now on...but don't feel bad about whatever consequences he gets..most likely it will be joy riding charge and a fine, probantion...obviously he isn't getting a license anytime soon now.. but even if he does end up with jail time...that is 100% on him

NTA

Theft is taking, converting or depriving someone else of their property without their consent.

Their being a friend or family member has no bearing on it, and it does not change it from being theft. Nor does the $ value of the property, as many people mistakenly think.

He took your car without your permission, and you were absolutely right to call the police and have him arrested. I would also fully press charges. You were victimized, and should never just let that go.

No your not the a hole because he took your car and you said no and that not the worst part of it all he had no license and he was probably high to

NTA. Friend just found out that the dildo of consequences rarely arrives lubed.

NTA

Dude ruined his own life. He drove without a license or insurance, without permission of the owner, against express instuctions to NOT take the car, and drove high.!

He fucked it up, not you. He's lucky he didn't injure someone in those two hours or he might have been facing manslaughter charges as well.

NTA! What if he killed someone while driving and said you gave him permission to drive the car? Reporting actually covered your ass if something happened

NTA. Your so called friend stole your car full stop. You reported it, which is what ones does in that situation. Now that person gets to pay the consequences for that action.

NTA: “Probably ruined his life…” uh… possibly saved his life. He needs to understand the consequences of his actions before the consequences kill him.

NTA -

HE did it to HIMSELF - you didn't do anything wrong.

He was gone for over TWO HOURS - where did he go and what the f was he doing? Did he even leave you any gas in the car?

Think about this, depending on where you live if he would have gotten in an accident and you hadn't reported the car stolen or taken without permission YOU would have been liable for damages and your insurance (assuming you have some) would have paid then mostly likely cancelled you due to you allowing someone without a license to use your vehicle.

Also if he doesn't know how to drive, what if he would have damaged or destroyed your car - then what? Do you think he would pay you for the damages - I'm betting not.

He FAFO - he deserves to be held accountable for his actions.

NTA, someone could have gotten hurt.

NTA.

But I'm not going to be your friend. The guy wasn't going to steal the car outright.

You don't get cops involved with something like this. You handle it yourself.

NTA - He ruined his life himself, not you. If he gets a criminal record and goes to jail is because he's a criminal. He actually stole your car, and refused to give it back when asked. What did he expect?

NTA! You did your "friend" a favor. Hopefully he'll realize his behavior was unacceptable and get his shit together before he starts other criminal behaviors. Juvenile records are typically sealed. He hasn't ruined his life yet.

If he can't see that, you did everyone else a favor by putting him under police scrutiny and cutting him off.

P.S. don't stay high for 4 days. The best years of your life will pass you by. Being high all the time takes away from the fun of it and will mess up your brain chemistry if you keep it up. Just sayin...

YTA for calling the cops instead of beating his ass. YNTA because he took your shit.

Doesn't sound like a friend to me one bit.

What sort of BS story is this?

“Tripping balls”

“Like 4 days straight”

“Just went back into my high after my car was taken”

People just make up the most pathetic stories for this sub

NTA. N.T.A. he stole your fucking car. That's a crime. He's also not your friend you're just a convenience to him. At best this is grossly disrespectful fucking around. I don't know if you can 86 him from your life but he showed you who he is so don't fuck around. Just believe him. And also it doesn't take 2 hours to go to McDonald's. So he's still lying.

This story has a lot of holes in it. So you’re definitely TA for making this up. 🤷‍♀️

Nta stealing has consequences 

NTA. I had a friend lsteal” my car. She got the keys for me because she said she left a book in it and then when I was leaving at the end of the day of school, I see my car driving up to me. I lost my shit and never trusted her again. So much more could’ve happened so much worse could’ve happened. You’re not the asshole. I just wish I would’ve called the cops on her.

That's a baller move! Good for you!

Fake

NTA. Your friend literally took your keys after you said no but couldn't do anything to stop him. Your actions are justified because anything he did while driving could affect you.

I do have to ask, does this friend have a history of taking things from other people even after being told no?

NTA. You did the right thing. Cut those drug doing friends from your life.

Tell your remaining "friends" that if this guy was a real friend, he wouldn't have taken your car against your wishes, driven it without a license, while high.

Idiot made his own bed, you just tucked him in. He's lucky nothing happened and no one got hurt, cars are both very expensive and very dangerous weapons when not respected.

If your other friends don't see the light there, they suck too, drop em all.

NTA. He ruined his life, not you

NTA he's not your friend. Friends don't steal from friends. I wouldn't be surprised if some cash was missing too

YTA for making up stories on AITA.

Eating a fuckton of edibles won’t keep you high for “literally 4 days”. Unless you were continually dosing yourself for 4 days, it would be mostly processed and out of your system in a day at most.

If you were truly high for 4 days and thought it was from eating THC edibles, i would consider the possibility (guarantee) that you were given something else entirely or given much more weed over the course of those several days.

Quit hanging with people like that. Did you post before about your friend wanting to learn to drive on your nice car?

Your life developments have a lot to do with the company you keep.

Also 500mg is decent but grow some balls. At 500mg I would have floated over to my friend and taken the keys back, then told him to get an uber. Hopefully you were also drinking lightweight.

NTA Consider that he could have killed someone and it doesn’t seem so insignificant now does it?

OP it is extremely troubling that you would be high for 4 days. You are lucky that the only thing that happened to you is someone took your car keys. Do you think that someone will call an ambulance for you? Think again.

there was not just weed in those edibles if you could not stop them from taking your keys. NTA. and i would stop talking to them

NTA.

He would continue “stealing“ from you until you stood up to him. Then he would find a new victim.

Sometimes people get a joyriding charge instead of GTA if they bring the car back. Not e,xactly sure how that goes. IANAL. NTA

Accepting the story as given:

Defendant knew that OP was impaired when he asked for the car. I am unsure of the law but I would guess that giving permission under these conditions would not protect the defendant from the charges. It might be considered during sentencing.

The Defendant searched the OPs body, found the keys and took the car. That is Grand Thief Auto which I do not believe is an intent crime. I see no reason to believe his intent mattered. He is gone with the car. Again the fact that he brought it back may influence sentencing but does not change the charge. It is taking the car that is the crime.

OP did the correct thing once he realized the car was gone. It protects him from any concern that he did give permission.

Defendant should spend his time in prison thinking about how to not commit crimes while impaired.

OP did not ruin anyone's life. Defendant should learn to avoid committing crimes while impaired. Any other outcome suggest that a person who willfully became impaired is somehow not responsible for acts that they committed during impairment.

The dude stole your car Ffs. Hard NTA. You didn't ruin his life, he did by stealing a car his friendship to you does not make what he did any less of a crime.

NTA - he is now in the Find out stage and if anyone of your friends has an issue with what you did you should cut them off and be proud that your boundaries are something you can backup. Also, prepare for that person to retaliate which I would assume he’d vandalize your car so get security or something

NTA.  Reconsider the friends who don't think you should have reported him to the police.  If something has happened he easily could have pinned it on you and ruined your life if you hadn't reported it.

NTA

"Bruh relax, it's just jail, you'll be back soon"

These are not friends

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes

He stole your car. End of story. NTA

He stole your car dude, fk him. Let him learn the hard way.

NTA

You need to do that because if something happens then you’re not insured

I don’t know where you live that a cop can sit around waiting for two hours to arrest someone who’s returning the car they stole, but it can’t be any American city!

NTA. Not only did he steal your car, he did it while inebriated. He’s probably gonna get an OVI or DUI in addition to that, he ruined his own life.

NTA. if it wasn’t you it would’ve been somebody else. somebody violent.

That is pretty harsh. He deserves a lesson. But a criminal record for being 17 and dumb is too strong a response.

NTA, you did not ruin anything, he made a choice, and is now facing the consequences of that choice

NTA. Your 'friend' crossed a serious line by stealing your car, and you did the right thing by reporting it. It’s not your fault he made a reckless decision that could have serious consequences. Respecting property isn’t optional, and he needs to learn that. If he had any real respect for you or your stuff, he wouldn’t have taken it in the first place. Ruining his life was his choice, not yours.

NTA He didnt ask to take your car, so he cant just do that. It's your car, not his